I recently started dating this guy who is so beautiful inside and out, we have so much fun together, we compliment each other, we even have the same birthday!!! The thing is that recently I started back talking to my ex who I had a very passionate relationship with but broke it off, and on top of that my b. friend from highschool now all of a sudden wants to let me know he's interested in me. i'm really falling for my current boyfreind....what do i need to do not to mess it up, b/c in the past i haev put myself in bad situations where things happened that shouldn't have... I just wanna do right by him
2007-01-12 12:25:38 · 11 answers · asked by ? 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This is typical. It seems like there are always "blasts from the past" coming around when you have really moved on and want to start new.
Girl, learn from your mistakes. Don't keep going around the same merry-go-round. Because honestly there is nothing "merry" about it.
Good men are hard to find. If he is really as good as you say then I would do everything in my power - with in reason - not to let him get away.
There is a reason why you broke it off with your ex - that reason is probably still there and will probably be the reason it won't work. Your boyfriend from high school already had his chance. Tell the two old boyfriends that you have someone new.
BE HONEST WITH YOURSELF>>>> If you get weak about them (especially your ex bf -the 1 w/ the passionate relationship)- even having conversations - then I would even break off friendships with them. Anything that would jepordize this new relationship - that sounds to me to be a keeper - I would do away with. It may hurt thier feelings and they may try to make you feel bad, but you have to look out for you and your future.
If you want to do the right thing - then just do it!!
Don't let any emotions grow back over the past. Leave it there - in the past. Don't sit around daydreaming about the good old times, because obviously there were some bad ones that made the relationships end.
Give yourself a chance to start all new - give this great guy a chance to have a great girl (you) and give fresh, new, love a chance to grow in a clean, healthy relationship free of lies and scandel. Prove to yourself you have changed and grown and will not ever return to the person that puts herself in "situations where things happen".
Best...
2007-01-12 12:42:00 · answer #1 · answered by Drea G. 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Who do you want to be with? What are the reasons that the other relationships did not work? Their is an old saying A leopard does not change its spots. If you have a great guy I would recommend keeping him, but only you can live your life If you ask yourself the question and you really listen You already know the answer no matter how much you try to reason your other desires
2007-01-12 20:31:24 · answer #2 · answered by sydphie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm in the same situation right now girl so i know just how you feel. basically what i'm doing is ignoring this guy and just telling him to leave me alone. i told him "i dont want to mess things up with this new guy so i want you to back off. we're done and that's that." he took the hint and hasnt talked to me, or for that matter, even looked at me when i see him. I mean, i'm sure i upset him a little but sometimes you just have to be brutally honest in order to get your point across. i wish you the best of luck with this new guy, sounds like you two are perfect for each other. just think about how perfect he is every time you get tempted to get bk with the old guy. Good Luck!
2007-01-12 20:31:57 · answer #3 · answered by MJ 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you stop talking to the outside guys that might screw this up for you. you have given your current guy 100% of yourself, and that is the way it should be. usually, breaking up was for a reason, and most people dont survive a break up and back together situation. those odds are stacked against you big time. if you really adore this guy, you draw a line in the sand - stand up and say NO. they see that you are talking to someone, and will try their best to see you not happy. ex's do that, and your lying to yourself if you say no. unless the reason is so justified, breaking up means never again. you tried, and it failed. you need to do yourself a favor and keep your current thing fresh and happy, and drop the past. we always try to life in the past. that is in stone, and the future is a blank piece of paper with you holding the pen, so take that control!!! good luck
2007-01-12 20:32:57 · answer #4 · answered by brianju 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Decide on who you really want to be with and stick by him. As for the other guys that you don't have feelings for, tell them that you're going out with somebody. If your b ffrom your school is interested in you, it might hurt to let him down since he's pretty close to you. Yet, nevertheless tell him that you only see him as a friend and nothing more.
2007-01-12 20:29:53 · answer #5 · answered by michelleee♥ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should distance yourself from your ex. and your best friend from high school. If you really value your current relationship, you should do everythihg you can to keep it the way it is and not screw it up. Good luck to you!
2007-01-12 20:29:56 · answer #6 · answered by VanityAngel 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stay with the guy you are with.
The ex is a EX of a reason.
Good Luck
2007-01-12 20:28:51 · answer #7 · answered by zen522 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take your time.
Dont Panic!
Time is going to show you what and who is the best for you.
Be honest withyourself!
2007-01-12 20:29:45 · answer #8 · answered by Princess 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your a smart girl- you know the right thing to do is to give ALL of yourself to your CURRENT b/f.
2007-01-12 20:30:50 · answer #9 · answered by ash 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't cheat on him and stop contacting your ex!
2007-01-12 20:28:45 · answer #10 · answered by Lulu 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋