Ok I'm 14 & I like guys alot! I've had crushes, b.f.'s, ect. & I think lots of guys are cute.
But lately I've been terrified I could turn out gay one day. I think its partly b.c I read so much about gay people in magazines & stuff anymore & they act like they can't control being gay. See, I'm the kind of person who gets really upset & worries about something all the time .. I'm never not freaked out. [I've concinvced myself I have a brain tumor, was pregnant tho I'm a virgin, & tons of other rare/impossible stuff. I think I have OCD w. worrying]
But anyways the only reason I could possibly think I was gay is that sometimes if I see a girl wearing a really skimpy bikini or something I get like this weird feeling .. not that I like looking at her [gross..] but juss like .. idk. But I have never had a crush on a girl or anything like that!!!!!!!!!!!
But ok if I did one day wake up gay my whole life would be ruined .. I couldn't get married & have kids or anything [to b continued]
2007-01-12
12:15:40
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Ok I'm 14 & I like guys alot! I've had crushes, b.f.'s, ect. & I think lots of guys are cute.
But lately I've been terrified I could turn out gay one day. I think its partly b.c I read so much about gay people in magazines & stuff anymore & they act like they can't control being gay. See, I'm the kind of person who gets really upset & worries about something all the time .. I'm never not freaked out. [I've concinvced myself I have a brain tumor, was pregnant tho I'm a virgin, & tons of other rare/impossible stuff. I think I have OCD w. worrying]
But anyways the only reason I could possibly think I was gay is that sometimes if I see a girl wearing a really skimpy bikini or something I get like this weird feeling .. not that I like looking at her [gross..] but juss like .. idk. But I have never had a crush on a girl or anything like that!!!!!!!!!!!
But ok if I did one day wake up gay my whole life would be ruined .. I couldn't get married & have kids or anything [to b continued]
2007-01-12
12:15:59 ·
update #1
I mean I can't even imagine myself like that .. I don't like the gay culture & it scares me. + I'm a Christian, so I obviously disagree with it. Pleaseee help me stop freaking out ..
2007-01-12
12:19:33 ·
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& I don't even think I could stand myself enough to have friends or a career. I mean this would litterally destroy my life. Tho I swear to God I would never, ever, ever do anything with a girl [the thought discusts me] I'm scared this is like a sign when I get older I'll be gay. I'm sooo scared right now that I'm litterally sick & crying .. so can someone convince me I'm not gay ?? how can I stop worrying ?? Please help me!
Reminder - I have crushes on guys..
2007-01-12
12:20:07 ·
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Honey, you have actually blown my mind! My eyes became crossed trying to read and to understand your problems. I think one of the problems in society today is that people are hearing more about celebrities pushing the envelope to see who can get the most attention by their outrageous behavior. They love setting trends. Things that used to be considered bad are now accepted as okay.
I don't think you are gay--maybe more curious about how you compare to other females. Have you spoken with your school counselor about your concerns? If not do so. You are too young to be so neurotic (worrying about stuff.) You can not keep on mentally abusing your self. Seek some type of help from a professional. Good Luck!
2007-01-12 12:41:20
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answered by PogieLuke 4
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Ok....look ...I know this chick that's BI ... and she's cool as hell... I told her why she was Bi and she replied "Well I like guys but girls are cool too" ... so I stopped there and said do you like girls or guys better ... she said she liked both ... well watch if you think your turning gay ... or worry to much how bout you just smoke a joint and forget about your problems ... do it once and wake up the next day and say ... "Wow, I guess that's all I needed".... cause most of the time people worry to much and it builds in their mind that their gonna have cancer, etc.) but when your high you don't pay attention to any of that and just continue living your life
2007-01-12 20:28:10
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answered by Lil' Smily 1
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OK, listen: you are NOT going to wake up one morning and find that you are gay. So relax, starting now.
We are aware of our sexual orientation at a very early age, certainly before we ever start school. True, it's out of our control, but we are born what we are - it doesn't strike like lightning one day. So if you like guys and are attracted to them, you are NOT ever suddenly going to turn into a lesbian.
The thoughts that may cross your mind when you see scantily clad girls are not unusual. You are young and just beginning to understand your sexuality, but all of us have these feelings to one degree or another. They are perfectly natural, just part of being human. Sometimes both boys and girls will experiment briefly with a member of the same sex. Not unusual. So be comfortable with who you are and don't worry, you aren't going to change!
2007-01-12 20:27:05
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answered by keepsondancing 5
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sounds like you may have a touch of obbsessive compulsive , try talking to your gp & tell him/her everything you've told me, dont worry about it too much , i'm sure you're as straight as a die. at 14 our mind is still figuring the world out & often thinks some pretty wierd stuff as it copes with all the other stuff going on in our bodies . i was 14 once ( a long time ago - like 20 years)
2007-01-12 20:24:17
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answered by iammoza 3
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Relax. Take a deep breath.
You may have OCD or maybe some kind of anxiety disorder. Talk to a school counsler and see if they can refer you to someone for an evaluation.
2007-01-12 20:20:24
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answered by John L 5
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You're young.. you will go through phases in life.. don't worry about it right now... the true you will come out in good time :)
You have a lot of life left to live... this isn't something that should be bothering you right now.. so just go about your daily homework.. and you'll find yourself soon enough :)
2007-01-12 20:19:43
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answered by Jason 4
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You don't sound gay....you sound completely normal.
Stop worrying about diseases.....and if it helps, think of being gay as NOT a disease, just an orientation.
Some people like chocolate ice cream, others like vanilla the best.....it's kind of like that. No reason for it, it just IS.
2007-01-12 20:20:13
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answered by Sam 3
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You are 14, and your changing hormones are probably causing you some confusion and worry. You could do some reading online or at the public library, and/or make a doctor appointment to see if you need any help.
Stop worrying, and be happy.
2007-01-12 20:21:16
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answered by Holiday Magic 7
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lmao awwwwwwwwwwww bless u its normal as u r goin 2 a patch in ur life just carry on untill u c a HOT chick and then u will b of boys xx
2007-01-12 20:56:08
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answered by Mizz T 1
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You are so young to be worrying about being gay. Go out and have fun and enjoy your life with other friends and I mean boys and girls.........I believe that you are fantazing too much on what you want to be!!!!!ENJOY your young life!!!!Go talk to a counselor!!!
2007-01-12 20:31:29
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answered by Carol H 5
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