Ok, here we go. When my grandmother (not my father's mother) came down for christmas my dad worked very hard to impress her. He cooked dinner for 12 hours on Christmas Eve. He tried his very hardess to be as nice and pleasant to everyone as possible. Now here's the question. My Dad found a month's worth of my step brother's ADHD pills under his matress and flipped out. He had been lying for a MONTH. Now my grandmother thought my dad was being too hard on my step brother and went home enfuriated. She also screamed at my dad and said that the kids were better off living with her. Now they are fighting all the time and my grandmother has requested to be on Dr. Phil! My dad is an amazing father and he is very sensitive. This is tearing him apart. What should we do?
2007-01-12 12:12:59 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Your father is not related to this woman and should not worry about what your grandmother is complaining about. Your father is the parent and not her and whilever he appears to be worried about what the grandmother thinks she will feel she has the upper hand. If she wants to initiate going on Doctor Phil...let her, your father doesnt have to go along with it. Your grandmother cant force him to appear. She is making a mountain out of a molehill and your father needs to be strong, and tell her that he is the parent and she will kindly keep her opinions to herself or not bother coming to visit anymore. A person will only act in a certain way if they are allowed to. Your father has to take control of this situation and tell your grandmother that she is being silly and there is no way he is going to pander to her anymore and tell her if she wants to appear on Dr Phil then she will be doing it alone. She is being silly. She is only the grandmother, your father is the parent......he has the last say. You obviously are not being abused, so if I were your Dad, I would take her bossiness with a grain of salt and let her know that he will not tolerate her behaviour anymore. The rest is up to her.....if she wants to be reasonable then she will back down because I am sure she would hate the thought of not having contact with her Grandchildren anymore. She is probably bluffing, and the more your father worries about it, the more she will have the control. He needs to take back the control and tell her to pull her head in.
2007-01-12 12:46:44 · answer #1 · answered by rightio 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grandmother oversteps the boundary. Father is only looking out for the boy.. The boy is lying. Yep. a Dr. Phil show alright. But in reality, the Mother must support the Father and the family, and tell Grandmother politely but firmly, to mind her own business.
2007-01-12 20:36:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your father is in the right on this one, because that is a drug that was taking into his house without consent. He is permitting your other grandma and your other step brother to enter the house because he love loves you. I think you should stick by your dads side and tell your grandma, that he is right, your father should have been told about your step brothers problem before entering the house. How would you like your father to visit your mother with his girlfriend and his girlfriend has the mumps, lice, etc and be kept from knowing of this. your grandma owes a SORRY to your father for saying such a mean thing to him. you just say you did not know about it neither cause after all it is your responsibility as his son to inform him of this. STAY ON YOUR DADS SIDE. as for as dr phil, i think your grandma is messed up thats how your step brother got messed up by living with her. so let her go to the show if it makes her feel good, you stay with your father. its a mind game. think closely your dad was doing all these nice things of cooking for you and to please you. try to see that your father loves you.
2007-01-13 05:43:25 · answer #3 · answered by bankone1111 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that when you marry someone your suppose to separate from your mother & father & become one. That basically means your own family unit. When the parents continue to stay too involved that is when you need to put your foot down. However (where is your mother in all of this?) It should be her telling her mother she's over stepped her boundaries. Not him.
2007-01-12 20:20:36 · answer #4 · answered by Marie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well just to be honest with you grandmother needs to mind her own busines I have ADD and I'm 38 years old and I take my meds. your dad is only looking out for you stepbrother and if he has to he needs to watch him take them everyday I agree with your dad 100 percent.Your grandmother will get over it.
2007-01-12 21:29:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go on DR Phil. He is so helpful.
2007-01-12 20:25:24 · answer #6 · answered by The OTHER Boelyn Chic 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋