My ex-boyfriend dumped me a year ago, yet last week he called me and asked me to go see a movie with him. I went with him, he picked me up & after the movie he just took me home.On the drive home, when I asked him why he wanted to see me, he said that he wants to see me 'every once in awhile'. Why does he wanna hang out and see me once in awhile, when we only dated for one month? By the way, we never had sex during our relationship cuz he knew that I wanna save myself for marriage. We would cuddle, kiss, hug, & hold hands, it was a pure & beautiful thing. Even AFTER he ended it, he would still say hi to me on msn, so we did communicate during this yr. albeit only by msn. We just never met up & he never called me until that day he asked to go see a movie, after the yr. Does he feel guilty for dumping me & wanted to feel better by taking me out or did he miss me & wanna be friends? He's in Asia now, but comes back in one month. Should I ask for coffee one time, but just as friends?
2007-01-12 12:08:20 · 6 answers · asked by Hottie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Is he still attracted to me if he wants to hang out even as friends? He's 26 in grad school while I'm 21 & finishing university.
2007-01-12 12:08:38 · update #1
I'm 21 also, and like you, I'm a good girl. There was a guy I dated and I wouldn't have sex w/ him...although I cared a lot for him. TO THIS DAY (the whole thing started when I was about 15)...he still calls around Christmas, and has admitted his "undying love" in 6 month intervals. He finally got married a few months ago, and before he did...he called and said I was the woman he wanted to wake up next to, blah blah blah. I must admit...I had feelings for him and was flattered, but I did not take him up on the offer.
Bottom line: You're the good girl he wants and that kind of has his heart. Guys (90%) love a good girl. They date trashy girls obviously, but the good ones are the ones that they have respect for. You're like what he wants but can't have. They're impulsive too. The want to "hoe around" and have their freedom...but after "6 months or so"....they get to wanting a real woman to come home to and the phone rings.
That's what's going on here.
I didn't take the guy up on his offer, because like your guy...he also dumped me! In a way I wanted to...but I wanted to see how far he'd go for me first. Sure he said some things, but he ended up marrying someone else. That for me, was it.
You should wait around and see how far this guy will go for you. You're too good to waste yourself. As for coffee..there's nothing wrong w/ hanging out and chatting. Just be the stronger person, and don't let yourself get attached. You'll KNOW when things are right between the two of you. Don't make yourself vulnerable is the main thing.
Good luck!
2007-01-12 12:20:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many of the problems you may be facing could be just the tip of the iceberg on what is really happening in your marriage. I dont mean to scare you but many problems when they either first show up or if they keep reoccurring could be just whats showing from a larger problem that either you or your spouse cannot even see. One of the only things you can do to help is to talk honestly and openly with each other in the marriage. If things become more serious more serious options need to be looked at as possibilities. I have a blog that has more information on some of what I've been writing about. If you feel like checking it out I would completly suggest it. Read here https://tr.im/WQ7MW
Love is a choice that is made everyday when you wake up and every night when you go to sleep. Some days you may not feel the original feeling but love isnt a feeling or an emotion. Its an action a verb. Falling out of love may just mean you need to spice things up a little or that you were never in love in the first place. Don't just get out of a marriage just because you don't think you like the person anymore.
2016-07-18 16:00:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Texting lets you control the tone and establish what kind of conversation you want to have. Learn here https://tr.im/AHfQR
This is probably the most important part. With texting, you can stop and think about what you want to say to your ex at each step of the way. Instead of reacting emotionally, you can take your time, figure out the right thing to say (I’ll give you most of it), and be strategic with your ex without saying something that you’ll regret.
2016-04-28 22:33:33 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He likes to see you once and a while, because he's (a) lonely, and (b) likes you. That doesn't mean he likes you as dating material; it just means, for whatever reasons, he enjoys your company and being with you makes him feel less lonely. That's not a bad thing; why do any of us hang out with anyone else, except that we like their company and don't enjoy feeling lonely?
So long as he's not making unwanted advances, and so long as you enjoy his company too, enjoy the time together and don't worry about it!
2007-01-12 12:15:31 · answer #4 · answered by daveowenville 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No he just wants to be friends. Its over.
2007-01-12 12:17:47 · answer #5 · answered by Lying from you 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he still thinks hes got a chance of getting laid
2007-01-12 12:17:06 · answer #6 · answered by yeppers`peppers 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋