My son is almost two ,How do Ii get his grandma to stop talking to him like he's a little baby!I know she loves him but there is a time to stop making weird noises and baby talk at him don't you think?im just afraid it will hurt his speech development. am I overreacting or is it normal to meow or say where'sTHE LITTLE BABY TO A TWO YEAR OLD!!!......... I DONT THINK SO!Any advice on how to tell her without being mean because this isint the first time i've said something !!thank you in advance :)
2007-01-12 12:06:43 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
No, you are not overreacting. You are very right. It can hurt his speech development. I have a 2 year old son who is almost 3, now. He only says a few words clearly and makes baby noises
or whines and cries to get attention. He used to form complete
sentences and talk clearly. He stopped doing that suddenly.
My mother -in-law said it was just a stage. Not to worry about it.
I took him to the doctor anyway. The doctor did a lot of tests.
Nothing physically wrong. (Thank God.) He sent us to 2 specialists. A speech development specialist and a speech pathologist. Both said that my son stopped taking normally when he started hearing us use baby talk with his younger sister all the time. They say it will be a slow process, but we can work with him and they will. He'll eventually talk normally.
The first step they said is to talk to both our children normally.
Normal tone. Correct pronunciation. Correct words (no baby talk.)
No noises even remotely resembling baby goos gaas or anything.
Just normal words.
Young children learn by repetition, if they hear it enough they will think it's right (weather it is or not).
What you tell the grandmother .....the truth of what your feeling.
"Mom, we need to talk. I'm very concerned about --------. His speech development isn't at the level it should be for his age.
We've been advised to work with him, so that it doesn't become a problem, later on. From now on, we're asking every adult he sees a lot to talk to him as is he's a regular person and not a infant. To use right words for things and pronounce them correctly. No weird noises or baby talk to confuse him and hinder his learning process. I'd appreciate your help with this.
It would mean a lot."
2007-01-12 12:29:52 · answer #1 · answered by txharleygirl1 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, you have two options:
Continue to be annoyed and remain silent
OR
Say something to her
Either way - her speaking to him in this manner is not going to hurt his speech development. You are the one with him the most. Unless his grandma sees him every day, he is only going to remember her as being very loving, and a little silly. He will get to the point that he will tell her that he is not a baby, and not to talk so silly.
We called my oldest nephew "baby" until he was three - he then told us he was not a baby, but a big boy. When he spoke up, we stopped. And he learned to speak very clearly and rather young.
Good luck.
2007-01-12 12:49:52 · answer #2 · answered by volleyballchick (cowards block) 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, it's okay to just say "He's two years old, and this is the best time for us to work on his language development. Would it be okay for you to begin using a more mature speaking manner with him?" It's not rude to ask. It would only be rude for her to not heed your request.
I've read recently about a study in language development for babies and toddlers, and it's very true that 2-3 year-olds are learning language at high-speed, so it's not like you're just making excuses.
As a side note, I remembered that article well because it mentioned fathers (for some reason) playing a more important role in language development between 2-3 years old. It also said that the more articulate and broad the father's use of language is, the better.
2007-01-12 12:12:24 · answer #3 · answered by Mickey Mouse Spears 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
I never talked baby talk to my son. He was born almost 3 months early and he talks better than other kids his age that were not preemies, and I believe it is a direct result of not talking to him like that. Do tell her that it is not good for his speech to talk baby talk to him. By age 2 he should be starting to put together 2-3 words in a sentence. My son just turned 2 in Aug
2007-01-12 12:13:17 · answer #4 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
this is a two parter.
one if grama lives with you, good luck and just tell her to stop. if she continues take the baby out of the room when she starts.
if grama doesn't live with you. don't worry about it she will not see the baby enough to make any difference.
2007-01-12 12:10:20 · answer #5 · answered by KRIS 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey my aunts still talk to my eight year old daughter that way...lol. I don't know how to tell them to stop talking to her that way. Luckily she does not have any speech problems and she probably wishes they would stop talking to her like that too...lol.
2007-01-12 12:14:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her alone and tell her your wishes on how to raise him. Be kind and gentle yet firm.
2007-01-12 12:09:47 · answer #7 · answered by Shayna 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Her talking to him like that won't hurt his speach at all, and two is still young. I'd leave it alone. And if it does irritate you enough then just rationally discuss it with her.
2007-01-12 12:11:52 · answer #8 · answered by curiosityreincarnated 3 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Leave grandma alone. She is not going to single handedly ruin your 2 yr old's speech development. She loves her grandbaby and she wants to baby him. Imagine that!!
2007-01-12 12:10:33 · answer #9 · answered by Chrissy #1 4 · 1⤊ 6⤋