If this was your child's 3rd suspension this year and 13th inhouse suspension..?

Question

What would you do? What punishments? Would you take away all of his new shoes, his necklaces, his clothes.. or what would you do? 10 points.

Answer 1

After I got over my embarrassment and wondering what did I do so bad that my child grew up to be so disrespectful and immature, then I would do the tough love and take away everything that they hold dear until they showed me that they earned it back, the cell phone would go first. If they still didn't straighten out I would talk to juvenile and see what else that I could do for my child to grow into a respectful and responsible adult.

Answer 2

One I could understand taking away his stuff, but Three!!! This year! AND 13th in-house suspension!
He'd be outta here. Or at least take full responsibilities for his actions. If he thinks he's an adult and can just go around doing a he pleases irregardless of all rules and boundaries then it's time for him to get his own job and start paying rent. With a child like that it's obvious that he respects no one, so its best to let him out into the "real world" he so badly craves To be in.
Sure he may have some problems, but with his current attitude you may never get through to him. A healthy dose of reality may be just the thing to wake im up and show him that life is not just what you want to do. You have to be responsible because one day it may be worse than a suspension.

Answer 3

Well I personally think that that's alittle too much for just this year.
First I would try and talk to see what's the problem. Then if that doesn't work much and he/she continues with this type of behavior, go to the school counselor. Get the counselor to talk to your child and explain that this behavior is not okay.* Be present when the counselor is talking to your child.* But about the shoes and things like that i say no. However I've found that grounding a child is more effective. For example, no computer, no TV, no hanging out with friends etc.. (what the child would miss the most) . Or maybe it's a problem at school and for that I would suggest that you transfer your child to another school.
*If all of this doesn't work take your child to a phycitarist. Maybe it's something emotional. Sometimes children go through some rough times and they don't want to talk to their parents about it; they'd rather talk with someone else. *

Hope this helps

Answer 4

First of all, I would be finding out why he keeps getting into trouble, and then I would make sure that new rules were put into effect. There would be NO new items unless the bad behavior stopped, and the door would come off of his bedroom and everything but his bed and clothes would come out of the room - no television, stereo, computer, ipod, or video game units would be in his room. I would also take away ALL of those things until the trouble stopped, and the grades came up (I am assuming the grades thing). I would stand firm on this, and he would also not be allowed to spend any extra time with friends outside of school. No friends' houses, no going to hang out, and no leaving the house without me. He would be under house arrest, and he would not be allowed on parole until he proved himself more responsible. I would also tell him that if the behavior continued, he would be visiting a juvenile detention center, or better yet - a military academy. Those military academies seem to be able to get bad boys to realize the error of their ways. . .

Answer 5

Figure out why he is having so many problems. What unresolved issues are there? Then you may want to think of some very unusual punishments. Take everything out of his room except for the bed. No books, no nothin. If that don't work, two words...BOOT CAMP. It straightened me out and I had so many suspensions they kicked me out of all public schools. I had 2 go 2 an alternative school, and that still didn't work. No punishment in the world got me to do right. It took boot camp for me to realize that f I didn't succeed then, I never would.

Answer 6

I spent 7 years as a teacher @ a special ed facility for kids with emotional/behavior difficulties & worked primarily with high school students. Remember what things were like for you as a teen and what you are like because of those experiences now. Have faith that your child WANTS to do well and be loved and respect himself and be respected by others.

The best advice I would give would be to immediately withdraw your child from school and start "unschooling" him. Or at least homeschool. Punishment does not teach responsibility. Instead, it takes the responsibility away from the person and allows him or her to blame the punisher instead.

What were the offenses? Disrespect? Fighting? What would happen in the "real world" if your son repeated those behaviors? What would happen to an adult who acted that way? School is an artificial environment designed to indoctrinate our children and force them into a mold. What happens to those that don't fit?

Here is an address for the National Home Education Research Institute. They have compiled some statistics on homeschooling in the United States:
http://www.nheri.org/content/view/199/

Good luck! In my opinion, it is best not to become involved in a power struggle with you son, but to teach him to be a man. Involve him in the decision making about the direction his life should take and about the appropriate consequences for his actions. More often than not, kids are harder on themselves than you would be. Ideally, you want to create positive future behavior, not endlessly dwell on the poor choices of the past!

"What most people mean when they ask about discipline is not the external system of punishment and rewards, but of an internal understanding of self discipline. Jumping through onerous academic hoops will not necessarily lead to self discipline. Our children gain a sense of how important self discipline is by watching us. Our ability to model a self disciplined life is much more powerful than handing in book reports in time. Helping children reach their own goals will mean there will be plenty of opportunities to discuss stick-to-itiveness, follow through, and how sometimes it's worth doing the things that are no fun in order to reach the desired goal. These lessons have much more meaning when they are in conjuction with goals the children set for themselves. "
www.unschooling.com

Answer 7

I would take him to a counselor. I would set boundaries and limits at home so that if he breaks the rules, there are consequences.

R = F
Responsibility equals freedom.
Kids want freedom to be able to go play with their friends, play video games, watch tv, etc.

If the child is not doing what is expected of him in school then there are consequences for not doing what is expected.

A hard lesson, but good lesson to learn young. You can't always get what you want, act however you please etc.

Answer 8

all of the above, i would take EVERYTHING out of his room just a mattress , blanket and pillow... i would even take the curtains until he grew and started acting appriately..make him sit in that room doing nothing but reading and homework.. also i would call anybody and everybody and find some help for this kid. what is he doing to get suspensions? call social services and try and get this kid help.. he obviously is going to end up in jail eventually.. what did you do when he was suspended the first time ??? nothing probably . you need to start disciplining this kid b4 I have to pay for him the get 3 square meals a day

Answer 9

I would first be asking myself why he is always in trouble. When children act out like that there is generally problems at home in some way or another.
I would then go to him and lay my hands on him and pray to God to open my eyes and heart to his troubles. I would then pray that he will be guided to confide in me or if not in another trustworthy adult.
Then yes I would take away all of his "toys" Whatever it is that he likes and enjoys the most. Because whatever our actions are in this life there is always a concequence.

Answer 10

If he is 14 it is too late to do much.

If 10 you may still be able to change his behavior but it will be difficult.
I would say whatever you have done so far is WRONG, you need to use different discipline or this kids headed for the penitentiary.