They are both under two and my husband and I need a break desperatly. Also, How can I ask?
My husband just wants to stay home for a night and have a break with the kids. is that ok or rude to ask for that reason?
THANK YOU! Sorry its so long.
2007-01-12 11:59:22 · 19 answers · asked by tina*21 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Are you kidding me? Shouldn't they be thrilled to want to spend the time with their grandchildren?
Of course, I don't know your family situation or anything, but my wife and I don't have kids yet (we're working on it), but I know my in-laws would love to be a big part of his/her/their life.
I hope you and your husband manage to have your in-laws watch your kids. I bet you two deserve a few hours of peace and quiet :) Good luck!
2007-01-12 12:03:51 · answer #1 · answered by allthree 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not, that is what families are for. If they are not able to watch the children when you both desperately need a break then there is something wrong with the relationship. You would think that they would have asked you if they could help you. As women, we need to ask for help when we need it! Explain that you just need a break for at least one night. There is nothing else to explain. Any thinking in-law would need no further explanation. Your husband should support your decision, as a mother, that you need some space. Hope relief comes soon!!!
2007-01-12 12:32:55 · answer #2 · answered by LEELEE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to have time with your husband without your children. Just tell your in-laws that you and your husband have a date night planned and ask them if they would like to have the kids for the night. It is a lot of work to keep kids that young over night, if they are uncomfortable with that then maybe just having them for a few hours while you go out for an adult dinner and then you can bring the kids home and put them to bed and watch movie with your husband or something.
the worst that they can do is say no... just tell you husband that you would like some time alone with him.
2007-01-12 12:13:17 · answer #3 · answered by flappymcp 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think as long as you have a decent relationship with them they should be willing to watch your kids. They are afterall their grandparents. I think that grandparents should be actively involved with their grandchildren and give their kids breaks every so often.
I think you and your husband should ask them together as a couple. They might be more accepting if they know he is requesting a break. It all really depends on the relationship you have with them.
Good luck!
2007-01-12 12:03:51 · answer #4 · answered by Cute But Evil 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it's not rude. Your husband should be able to ask his parents for help with the children (as long as his parents aren't to old). You can also hire a babysitter, find a responsible 16 year old teenager and start off with maybe three hours and see how it goes.
2007-01-12 12:09:34 · answer #5 · answered by Daddy Big Dawg 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Develop your family bond and stay together with your kids.you wont regret it any time.Thank God you had them anyway,what of if you were still searching for pregnancy or such. look you go buy some good hot take away foods and good wine/fruit juice,get every body to eat well and then have a break with your husband and the kids.There will always be time for breaks.As soon as the kids go to sleep take a real break with hussy.
2007-01-12 12:20:11 · answer #6 · answered by chike 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course it is okay, Goss I don't know what I would do if I didn't get a break from my two little ones every now and then. His parents should understand that we all need a little time to our selfs so that we can keep our sanity!! LOL! They should also spend time with there grand kids to bond. Good Luck!!
2007-01-12 12:50:33 · answer #7 · answered by littleone84 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course not u need time to yourself sometimes as long as they're cool with it take advantage of it. Just tell them that u need some time to spend with your husband one on one, I'm sure they'll understand and oh yeah when u ask them tell them I need them to watch my kids too because I need a break too(lol)! good luck and have a great time.
2007-01-12 12:08:55 · answer #8 · answered by SingleMommy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure it's ok as long as you trust them to watch your kids properly. All parents need a break and a rest now and then, and it's good for kids to spend time with their grandparents.
My in-laws liked having my kids over- my parents did not.
I often had my nephew and niece overnight. It takes a village!
2007-01-12 12:19:17 · answer #9 · answered by CYP450 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, grandparents should love spending time with their grandchildren. I would just phone them up, and explain to them that you guys need a break, and would APPRECIATE if they would baby sit. I don't think it is rude to ask, just use the right tone when asking.
2007-01-12 12:02:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋