I have been with my boyfriend for nearly 8 years, living together for 3. Lately i feel like i have been taken for granted. I never get told how good i look or sent flowers or took for meals, not even on special occasions! I was out on boxing day and met up with a lad he gave me lots of attention. He tried to kiss me several times and i pulled away but i really had to pull myself away. The thing is its made me think about where i am in this relatonship and if i should still be in it.
Any good advice would be grateful, especially those who have been in a similar situation x
2007-01-12 11:54:54 · 4 answers · asked by lasticlegs 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We all know the saying, "Why by the cow, when you can get the milk for free!" I think it's time to evaluate the situation that you are in. You have been with him for 8 years and been living together for 3 so a total of 11yrs sense you have known him; did he ever compliment you on anything while together? If he hasn't, then you should let him go and move on to something better. Sometimes as women we tend to stick around men who we "want" to be the one that is going to love and cherish us for every and give us the ring we girls are always dreaming about.
He apparently has you right where he wants you! Free sex, etc......
If you are feeling empty on being appreciated then it's time to look in the mirror and tell yourself you are pretty, buy your own flowers, and find a man that is going to treat you like the queen you are. Remember you can't be in a new relationship until you can come full circle of acceptance of doing for yourself. Make sure also you find a man and not a boy.
I hope this is helpful information for you and if you do have children with him, you can still leave. Don't feel like your children will need his *** if he can't treat his own baby mother right. Children mock their parents when they get older; so be careful who you choose for company around your kids!
Good luck and peace and blessings!
2007-01-12 12:10:52 · answer #1 · answered by ms.hunnipot32 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever sat down with your guy and told him how you feel? Relationships are about compromise he should be doing things that would make you feel special. Mine never does anything thing like that as well. I get one special occasion a year my birthday. That's when he goes all out the rest of the year is mostly romantically void. I realize that that's the way my boyfriend is and I feel lucky that he at least tries once a year. Maybe yours just doesn't have a romantic bone in his body. If he was willing to try harder there are some really good books out there with a lot of really good ideas. Try one of those maybe he just doesn't know where to start. Also the longer you've been going out the less it seems guys try. He just probably happy and content with you and thinks that you feel the same way.
2007-01-12 20:07:49 · answer #2 · answered by ice_princess_sweetie_pie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl, we all go through this and the answer is simple...maybe u should leave ur boyfriend for a bit so he remembers how its like without u...and seriously if he doesnt come crawling back to u then U SHOULD NOT BE TAKING GRANTED FOR...never ever but u gotta let him know how u feel and if he doesnt change then u need to change boyfriends....and u know that guy who was trying to kiss u just wanted to have sex with u and thats why he gave u alot of attention...see ur boyfriend is already getting sex so he doesnt need to give u attention to get sex in return
2007-01-12 20:10:45 · answer #3 · answered by Baby_G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I THINK YOU ARE NOT APPRECIATED,ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS!!!! FIND SOMEONE WHO SHOWS YOU LOVE AND AFFECTION!!!!
2007-01-12 20:05:17 · answer #4 · answered by dca2003311@yahoo.com 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋