Alright, at my high school couples say "I love you" the very moment they start going out or even if they're just talking. I always thought it was a good idea to wait to say it, like at least 2 weeks or so. So when someone says they "love" me, do I say it back? casue if I don't then what do I say?
2007-01-12 11:35:40 · 23 answers · asked by Alicyn 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well if you dont feel comfortable dont say it! me and my b/f have been going out for 4 weeks and i havent said "i love you" yet. so wait untill it feels right and not akward!
2007-01-12 11:41:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no set time limit on when you should or should not say those three words.
Personally, I agree with you. I hate hearing those words too often, too soon, or because the speaker feels obligated by some expectation they have of themselves to say those words. When they are forced, untrue, or insincere for whatever reason, they lose all meaning.
As a general guide, every situation is different. Sometimes you might wait a while, such as in the case that you just met and started dating the person. Or you might say it much more quickly because you have been very close friends for 10 years with the person and only just moved beyond that 'more than friends' line.
The only hard rule, is to say it _when you are ready_, and not before.
If you don't feel it, don't say it. If you do feel it, then feel free to say it, but don't say it with the expectation that it will return immediately. Your partner will say it when they are ready.
Of course, all of this is just my opinion. You're free to disagree with me. ;-)
2007-01-12 19:54:00 · answer #2 · answered by ♂ « Hybrid » ♀ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
'I Love You'
those very words have lost meaning now. people are throwing that phrase around like its something you have to say instead of actually meaning it.
If you really mean it, then you would just blurt it out or say it at the right time without knowing. it isn't something you expected to say within the first few days/weeks of being in a relationship.
If someone says to you 'i love u', don't expect to say it back unless you truly mean it. if you say 'i love u' because they said it first and you don't show it. its gonna cause problems in your relationship.
'I LOVE YOU' are the most damaging words in the english language but also the most comforting.
2007-01-12 19:42:48 · answer #3 · answered by phoenix.hardy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, if you don't feel it, then you don't have to say it!
Good for you for honoring the words "I love you"
Nowadays it seems to be blurted out everywhere, meaningless really.
You tell them "I just need more time" If they respect you they'll wait, and the moment you are ready and do say "I love you", it'll be that more special.
Goo job!
2007-01-12 19:38:56 · answer #4 · answered by Kipper to the CUP! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It matters if you really do love them. If you do then say it. But if it's just because it's a popular thing then tell the person how u honestly feel
2007-01-12 19:42:53 · answer #5 · answered by Skittles27 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good question that alot of people ask themselves and dont know the answer to.
I feel that if this is a norm in your society then you should go with the flow.
2007-01-12 19:38:43 · answer #6 · answered by Roman S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
haha Funny story.
When I was in 8th grade I think, a guy told me that and I was like "Okay thanks!" haha and I hung up. So funny.
Anyway...you're absolutely 100% right to wait...maybe longer that 2 weeks too.
Best to just say " You do not!" and joke about it ...not mean...but just playfully....then afterwards...be like "PPL use that word so loosly...love is something sacred i think"....
he'll take the hint
2007-01-12 19:40:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I love you shouldn't be thrown around so casually - alas it is. I say, don't say I Love You unless you really mean it. The person will respect your honesty, and will respect the fact that when you do say those words - you really mean them.
2007-01-12 19:39:53 · answer #8 · answered by Sasha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You dont have to say it back the first time, many people dont know what to say after somebody says theat and you dont feel that way or you dont know how you feel. I say wait to say it back till you really feel that way, dont say it if you dont really mean it.
2007-01-12 19:41:42 · answer #9 · answered by Heather S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say it if that's what you feel. Don't otherwise, you could end up hurting the other person. If they say I love you, tell them to only say that if they mean it. If you feel it say it.
2007-01-12 19:45:50 · answer #10 · answered by aitlin_cay10@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋