if a man loves someone so much that he gives up everything(house,wife,child,religion) to be with her.tells everyone he meets how happy he is with her,spends tons of money on her,spends all his free time with her(mostly)and thier sex life is the best he ever had.so tell me why after only 3 mons of dating her hes cheating with not one women but 2 on the side but has told them both he will never leave her for them because he loves her.can u cheat on someone u love?
2007-01-12 11:19:15 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
oh by the way i'm the wife he left for this women.i just found out from his sister what he is doing.i just wanted to know why after he gave up everything to be with her he would cheat on her now
2007-01-12 11:21:07 · update #1
Because he doesn't know what love really is.
2007-01-12 11:22:42 · answer #1 · answered by CPDawg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry to hear you have such a heartach. He is the one that need to be asking the question why? He is non-commital. If he tells you that's the way he feel, then he probably do at that present time of saying all of that. He is unable to commit to anyone and he can't control himself if you tied him up to a chair. I hope she don't think she has a stand up guy. Any man that leaves his home and family won't be able to stay in any relationship. I can't for the life if me figure out why does it feel so good to be with a person like him when he's good. Nothing good will come to him. He's clearly thinking with the wrong head and he will always be this way unless God changes him. He himself has emotional problems that no one person can solve. He can justify everything he does and he thinks everyone should shut up and wait for their turn for him to trample on them and still he see no wrong. He really don't love anyone. He has place women in a catigory and has confuse love with possesion. He's immature and selfish. When are you gonna stand up and show this punk that you are not waiting for your turn and hire a lawyer. Get some childsupport, alimony and you can even make him pay for the home you still reside in with your kids. He is not worth the time it take for the both of us to write each other trying to find out what make him tic? Take away his power over you and let the rest fight for this soon to be, broke *** want to be Don Jaun.
2007-01-12 11:45:06 · answer #2 · answered by Go GO Ressa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Straight skinny from a guy who's seen ALOT of his friends decide to cheat. I'm not pulling any punches here, so sorry if you get offended...
He's a liar and lets his little head to the thinking for the big head. Love is not something he does or feel, just something he says to get you to stay with him.
What you do is what matters, not what you say. He's not likely to ever be faithful to you, so you'd best find a good attorney, and move on. As the saying goes: You can do bad by yourself. You don't need his help! Sorry hon.
2007-01-12 11:28:14 · answer #3 · answered by Tough Love 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guess you weren't listening to the radio station when the host was talking about why men cheat. They cheat because
~they like the thrill of it
~they're bored and want to go out
~they don't like being tied down
~they have something but they want more
The only thing I advice you to do is talk it out with him. Ask him why he's doing this. If he apologizes and wants another chance (and if you agree) let him have his second (and only) chance. If he doesn't change, well if you really love him, go to counseling.
I hope everything goes well for you because you don't neccessarily need a guy who cheats =\
2007-01-12 11:25:45 · answer #4 · answered by michelleee♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He clearly doesn't know what love is. I wonder if he is having a mid life crisis and needs to seek out professional help. Foolish 40's, Flighty Fifties.
You are worth more, just be glad that you don't have to put up with his unfaithfulness and lip-service. He is a user and abuser who will find out, perhaps too late, that he lost the best thing that ever happened to him....YOU!
2007-01-12 11:28:30 · answer #5 · answered by D N 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cheating is immature and selfish.
it's impulsive, NOT LOVE, and he's probably very insecure. he needs to get affection from women to feel like a good lover, etc. he wants to know how many he can get.
he can't just be HIM to get them either...he has to promise them the world.
basically, in short, it's not about the woman (he left) or the one he left her for, for that matter. this is about him.
he needs to feel "important", and he's being selfish by only thinking about himself.
and let me just say...i'm engaged. i have learned that being married does not change the fact that you find other ppl attractive. the difference is, you say--wow, that's a beautiful man/woman....then you think about the one you have...then you think of how much better you feel having the one you married...then the other one doesn't look so good to you any more.
anyone who can cheat is just a loser. best be tossed out into the street anyway!
2007-01-12 11:27:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
oopps, when i read those experiences, i cry really, why do men react the way they did?, but I think that they born with this attitude, after the girl gives them everything in the name of love , they leave her to find an other woman, I advice u no more confidence in guys, that s all. As friends ok; as more, it depends on ur situation and on wat u want from him. they give things to have others, be careful.
2007-01-12 11:28:21 · answer #7 · answered by gentle whisper 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because he's nothing but a CHEATIN' BASTARD.
So, you should forget about him because he wouldn't make a good father or husband regardless he says he loves you, regardless of anything. If a man is cheating on you, then what the heck are you still doing with him? think about it more, try & see past the fog because LOVE IS BLIND.
2007-01-12 11:24:37 · answer #8 · answered by sugarBear 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men are not called dogs for nothing ! A man would try to screw his brother's wife ,if given a chance or even his best friend gf, hell he would screw even his sister. Men would screw whores*, Fat & old women. They would screw anything that has a hole in it.
2007-01-12 11:24:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
cuz he lied 2 u 2 get in ur pants. hes a bastard. girls need 2 believe guys in dating less, when it comes 2 that stuff if u real no em well.
2007-01-12 11:23:21 · answer #10 · answered by calvin j 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋