My ex-bf was the one who ended our relationship. We dated for one month & it never went past kissing cuz he knew I wanna save myself for marriage. Yet, even after it was over he would still say hi to me on msn. Last week he called me, (it has been almost a year since the breakup), & he asked me to go see a movie with him. I went, he picked me up, then he drove me home. On the drive home, I asked him why he wanted to see me after all this time & he said "just to see you, I wanna see u every once in awhile". Now, since we're kinda friends does this mean that I can ask him to do things too? He's in Asia now but he comes back in one month, should I ask him for coffee when he gets back? Why did he wanna see me after one year? Did he mean he only wants to see me when HE wants to, on his terms, or do u think he'll be happy if I ask him to hang out sometimes too?
By the way, is he still attracted to me if he wants to hang out, even as friends?
2007-01-12 11:10:01 · 7 answers · asked by Hottie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He's 26 and in grad school, while I'm 21 and finishing university.
2007-01-12 11:10:26 · update #1
Since you guys are friends, I don't see any reason NOT ask him out and do fun things. It might spark up that flame once again, but you cannot go into the activities xpecting or even thinking about it, you have to FEEL it.
Ask him out when he comes back, seems like someone you can talk to, and hell, you might as well try and learn a lil something about Asia while your at it.
What he meant, only he knows, and that is not something that you should ask the internet, bcause no one on the net is HIM, so ask him how he feels about you two getting together.
I would hope that he would be happy that you ask him out, but you guys need to feel out how you two want your relationship to move forward (romantically, friendly, etc.). You might not even need to ask, or put it on the table, because when two people feel it, they feel it.
This is jus tmy persepective, I hope it sparks something within you to make a great decision for well being.
2007-01-12 11:25:14 · answer #1 · answered by djkoolaide 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well maybe he just wants to be friends whenever his around. Maybe if you call him and ask him for coffee see how he reacts. And if he says he's too busy well all he's thinking is about himself and his ways. So try to be friends but be carefull, too. HE might still be attracted to you but in a different way maybe. Like he might just want to give it anothere try at making it with you.
2007-01-12 11:18:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes a lot to stop being attracted to someone. My guess is that he still is. However, I wouldn't make a big deal of this -- don't make plans with him, and don't always be available when he wants to see you. It does sound really random and like his intentions are self serving. Don't waste your time on a merry go round with this guy.
2007-01-12 11:24:52 · answer #3 · answered by chelleedub 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he could still be attracted to you but maybe he just wants to be friends and i think that it would be nice of you to ask him out for coffee or something and it would probably make him happy
2007-01-12 11:14:11 · answer #4 · answered by me 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats a good thing, just ask him after you hang out just you 2, if he and u could or what track your on now.
2007-01-12 11:13:23 · answer #5 · answered by J. K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sure maybe hes just using you for a cheap thrill but what do you have to lose?I mean if he tells his friends just tell him hes a dirty lying ******* . I took a risk so I wouldn't suggest it email me so i can find out what happens
2007-01-12 11:22:55 · answer #6 · answered by Amy W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont talk 2 em. he just wants sum ***. if he cums the creepy x then get a straining order.
2007-01-12 11:13:12 · answer #7 · answered by calvin j 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋