REALLY shy!! Need urgent help.?

Question

So, there's this girl that i here likes me, and I like her too. I've been shy for my entire life. I'm 16yrs old. Now that I have reached the point in which girls are of interest to me, my body is acting weird and is really freaking me out. 1st of all, I cannot keep a straight eye contact with them. This is not only with girls, it happens with men too (not saying i'm gay). 2nd, I sweat like crazy when i'm around the girls, and it is really weird. Once again, this does happen sometimes when i'm just out in public generally, not just the girls. 3rd, this one just started and is the scariest one for me right now, my top lip just keeps shaking. It looks so stupid but i cannot stop it. It's like i'm just reallly nervous. I really need help with this. Not only is it affecting my social life, but ME too. I'm 16yrs old and all of my friends have had numerous girlfriends and girls dont even talk to meor know even me. And this depresses me, and I'm afraid that 1 day, the depression may do me harm

Just for the recoerd, I don't need depression pills. The only reason i'm depressed is bcuz I have much friends and I really want some. The girls that hate me hate me because back in 7th grade, i was kind of annoying, I havent talked to them really and now, it's like they don't even know me. I am not even known by many people. I want to be more outgoing and make friends while i'm still in school. I am afraid however of what I may do while talking to the girls, e.g., my lips may shake..lol. I also really don't know what to talk about with girls. I usually freeze. What must I say to her ?

Answer 1

Practicing keeping prolonged eye contact. Each time you glance away fine yourself something (maybe five pushups). Second and third, are all symptoms of nervousness. The best way to overcome that is to just say something like, "Hey, nice hair, but those shoes... don't match" or something like that and go on. Practice will help you become less nervous.

Answer 2

I was a shy teenager too.....I didn't really make out with a girl until I was 20 years old.

But I didn't have all the symptoms of anxiety.....I just didn't have anything to say. If they talked to me I could talk back, just never pursue them romantically, I didn't have the confidence.

I think you might have social anxiety disorder. There are medicines, actually same meds used as anti-depressants, that can help ease the anxiety. Talk with your parent and make a visit to have a talk with the doctor about it.....