on msn, he has ppl he works w/ on his list. there's a girl (she's not pretty haha...and he's really hott)....but this girl like him---which is fine and all (she can dream)---but she TOLD him she wanted to do something w/ him and was flirting w/ him on there. I am his FIANCE. he turned her down and all--i'm sure of this...i witnessed it haha....but she's still on his list. they usually work at different places...it's a school system...but i seriously think she overstepped her boundaries. so i dont mind dealing w/ her. but should i be mad at him for keeping her on his list???
i can understand for work purposes...but THAT wasn't work. and quit frankly i'm a little ticked off about it. on his part for keeping her on there. he's worked there for 3 yrs, and just added her like 1 month ago. obviously it's not a necessity for them to have each other on their lists.
i hate asking this cause i feel that it makes me look stupid.
what do you think?
2007-01-12 10:40:17 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i haven't been immature...i have been perfectly calm..and trusting. i have not told him one time "don't talk to her"
however, it is not necessary to have her on there--and she completely disrespected me and our relationship--and he did not care obviously cause she's still there
i ran out of chara. and by the time i decided to re-read it, i didn't have the letters to fix the grammar. sorry.
2007-01-12 10:41:28 · update #1
you already got the dude...let it go maybe they are just friends...no reason to be mad he loves you not her
2007-01-12 10:44:47 · answer #1 · answered by dwickleworth 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is my 24 year old son's answer. His first statement was doesn't matter where you get your appetite from, as long as you eat at home. Then he actually thought about it for a moment and said that you should just talk to him about it, without arguing, if it bothers you that much.
My response is somewhat different. He should not encourage her. Chatting with her outside of the "work" thing is doing just that. This is why you are pissed about it. Understandable!! I do agree that you need to speak to him about it, without arguing, and resolve it. Good Luck.
2007-01-12 10:50:50 · answer #2 · answered by gall1959 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldnt put to much worry on her. But i would tell him if he doesnt take her off his list then he will have to suffer the conciquinces. Never should a guy keep a girl on his list just to keep you jeliouse. He should remove it. My ex husband use to keep a picture of his x girlfriend in his wallet. I told him to get rid of it or i will divorce him.he got rid of it. but we divorced 7 years later anyways for other reasons.
2007-01-12 10:51:57 · answer #3 · answered by redfirecracker2007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, its weird to me, I block anyone..whether I work with them or not, if they try and become between me and my Baby!! But not everyone thinks that way, and many people are more forgiving than others as well. He comes home to you Everynight, while this woman is clutching at something she knows she cannot get. If anything, just "talk" to him and let him know it does make you uncomfortable that she is still on his list. Thats what makes a relationship strong, listening to your mates concernes. Give it a try. =)
2007-01-12 10:49:14 · answer #4 · answered by darkwolf92 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can't control other human beings... Leave it alone, you obviously don't think she is a threat (according to what you say) so what is the big deal??? He did not disrespect you at all.
2007-01-12 10:45:22 · answer #5 · answered by raewrn 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. It's just a stupid contact list. Plus it's important to keep business contacts.
2007-01-12 10:50:24 · answer #6 · answered by CPDawg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as long as he has done anything wrong then iw ould leave it at that. most people would be mad. i mean i would be but that isnt the real right thing to do. how do u even know that she knows about you guys being fiances???
2007-01-12 10:49:21 · answer #7 · answered by carebear_destroyer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's probably keeping her around because he feels flattered by the fact that the chick likes him - its an ego boost for him
2007-01-12 10:49:01 · answer #8 · answered by ForeverAnAngel 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
hell yea you should be angry don't break up but how do you know he doesn't talk to her when your not there and flirt back? Yes you should be mad. I say secretly go on his msn and delete her. plus how do you know he didn't decline because you were there? BE ANGRY.
2007-01-12 10:46:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i really dont think its necessary to be mad at him... it isnt completely necessary to delete her.. maybe hes just lazy or something... if it really bothers you then just talk to him about it
2007-01-12 10:45:54 · answer #10 · answered by Velvet Rain Drops 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋