I know its bad. But i REALLY CANT HELP IT! Im going out with somoneone and i've known him since i started high school and were cute together. But this other guy who i've known all my life, I just cant stop having feelins for him but because were so close he would never return the feelings i love him so much but i dont want to i've tried everything i've tried beating myself up over it i've tried forgetting about him but icant i just CANT! and its not fair everytime i think about im i cry but im madly in love with the guy im dartein. OH GOD! some please help me i need to get rid of this feeling before it kils me. and screws me up.
2007-01-12 10:35:39 · 6 answers · asked by River rinny 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We'll let's work on the "kills me" part cause it may be to late for the other. :)
You are young, "madly in love", and attracted to are two different men. It doesn't sound like you are engaged so you are not bound to give your life to one individual.
You need to step back and ask yourself where you are at this point in your young life. Are you ready to be married? Are either of these guys someone you would want to be with always and for the rest of your life?
It is okay to be attracted to more than one person. It is human nature. That will never stop.
I think you have emotionally gone beyond your physical realtionship at this point. If you decide, yes I want to be with X and he agrees and you both make that commitment (whether n marriage or not), then you need to be true to yourself and honor that commitment. That is a decission of maturity and love. It won't make you less attracted to the other but it will give you selfworth. Integrety is really all we have that is our own. Once integrety is compromised then we are left to the devise of rationalization. This devalues who we are to ourselves and to others.
So take a step back. Look at where you are. If you are just dating, even steady dating, keep your integrety, let your bf or bf's know how you feel. You may learn more about them, more importantly, you will learn more about yourself. If he or they love you like you think you love them, they will be there while you work through this.
You are young, now is the time to learn and enjoy the opportunity to have more than one date. Don't move forward either mentally or in real commitments until you are ready to make that decission out of real love.
2007-01-12 10:56:23 · answer #1 · answered by MtnManInMT 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to figure out if you are really in lovr eith the person that you are with. If he doesnt treat you right then you should get rid of him.
Also, maybe it might help you to tell this other guy your feelings. Being that you said he doesnt return the feelings you are safe. It might help getting it out in the open. Tell him you may need a little space for a small while to get your feelings straightened out about him and get over him. Seeing him all the time doesnt help you get over a person. I hope you figure it out hun. Good luck.
2007-01-12 18:44:03 · answer #2 · answered by moo shell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Decide u u really want in your life and go for it with no regrets
2007-01-12 18:38:49 · answer #3 · answered by nitenurse 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why stop the feelings. maybe its time to leave the guy your with now and explore other possibilities
2007-01-12 18:53:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur not married yet. go with the one you REALLY love
2007-01-12 18:40:33 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just forget him.
2007-01-12 18:39:40 · answer #6 · answered by Happy:) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋