y do adopted child feel so sad when they knew they were adopted child?

Question

y do adopted child feel so sad when they knew they were adopted child(no offend to those adopted child out there)..i mean i watch a lot of movie where they will run from the house after they knew it..ok...maybe they feel they being cheated..but don't they ever think that they still have their parents care and love no matter what?

Answer 1

They do, but they're the saddest that someone gave them up. Or, if the parents died, that they'll never know their birth parents. Adoptive parents are wonderful, sacrificing saints, but there really is a special bond a child feels with his or her birth mother,and they're sad they can't share that. Also, realize movies highly dramatize it. All the people I know who've adopted/ were adopted, they were honest from the beginning, since you generally can't benefit from hiding the information.

Answer 2

I'm not sure if this question applies to me personally, but I'll respond anyway.

I'm half-adopted. That may sound strange, but essentially, I am a first child, and was conceived by a man other than the man my mother married. They stayed together until I was about 22, having 2 more children in the meantime, and then got divorced.

I found out (for sure) that my stepfather was not my real father, at the age of 16. I wasn't sad. In fact, I was ecstatic. For several reasons, not the least of which is that I didn't want any part of his bloodline in me.

I later quizzed my mother on my biological father, just so I could learn about him. I now have his picture, his full name, and a lot of rather amusing stories of him. It turns out he was a pretty nice guy, and that temperamentally, I am a true son of his. :-)

That may not be a good example though. fully adopted children often have two loving parents, even if they are not blood relatives. But I can certainly understand the feeling of 'missing out' on knowing one's blood parents (or parent, in my case). This may be the issue which is portrayed in the movies.

I'm not sure that all adopted children would react in this way though. Everyone has their own personality and temperament, and it's likely that some would take the news far better.

So I guess it's a case of 'don't believe everything you see on television'. :-)

Hope this helps!

Answer 3

I'm adopted, and I feel abandon sometimes, because I have no idea why that happened. I know this family loves me, but it's just hard to accept that the person who gave birth to you, gave you away. It's just, wrong sometimes to me. But, I do wanna run away and kill myself sometimes, because I think I'm not loved or wanted.

Answer 4

You probably shouldn't base reality on "a lot of movie" The adopted people I know feel very loved by their adoptive parents.

Answer 5

Because they have to live with the fact that their parents didn't not want them or couldn't afford to keep them. For their whole lives they have a empty hole in their where their real birth parents can fill. They wont be complete until they know who their real parents are and why did they give them up in the first place.

Answer 6

Probably just the fact that they never got to know their biological parents. Kind of like me and my grandparents on my dad's side; I love them dearly but nonetheless I wish I could have met my biological grandparents.

Answer 7

because their real parents for what ever reasons aren't there
to care for and love them
they feel rejected and wonder what happened and if it was their
fault.

Answer 8

It's probably because they know that their biological parents didn't want them.

Answer 9

I think its because they know that they were abbandonned by their real parents, and it hurts them to think taht they're not wanted.