I have an aquaintence who is the wife of one of my husbands good friends... who I keep in contact with via email. I have a son who is 7 months older than hers. Everytime she emails me she mentions how lucky she is to have other friends with sons just a little older than hers. And how she has received a lot of hand-me-downs from them and hasn't had to buy much for her son. In her last email she said again "Love those hand-me-downs!!" And I get the point that she's probably hinting that she'd love hand-me-downs from my son. But my hubby and I are planning on saving our baby stuff in case we decide to have another. Should I just ignore her continual 'hints'? I am starting to wonder if she's only keeping in contact for the potential hand-me-downs. What do you think?
2007-01-12 10:14:17 · 15 answers · asked by Haulie 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Just tell her that you think that it is great that she has gotten so many hand me downs, but that you haven't. Tell her that it has been very expensive to buy all that stuff and that she is really lucky to have gotten a helping hand. Then go on to say that you are glad that you won't have to have all that cost again when your next baby comes because you have saved everything. That should clue her in, it worked for me when my best friend was hinting in the same manner. I just didn't want to lend things because I am very particular and didn't want stuff to get broken or stained, etc. Hope that helps!
2007-01-12 10:20:48 · answer #1 · answered by mom-knows-best 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
okay She's weird, but I have two children, strangely I knew I was going to have a boy and then a girl. My sister had a boy after I had mines. I give my sister my hand-me-downs and I keep the special outfits that mean so much to me. What I am doing right now, which you probably don't have the patience for is I am making a baby blanket out of my children's old clothes, and I give the clothes I don't need or want to my friends that really need them. I'm only twenty and I hand stitch the clothes myself. The clothes that your son uses with have some wear and tear, I wouldn't want my new baby boy wearing older clothes that have milk stains on them. Fork over the crappy clothes.
2007-01-12 10:29:12 · answer #2 · answered by fourcheeks4 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
That's a good question. Honestly, the majority of my kids stuff is from Goodwill and garage sales. They are in great condition and I saved TONS of money this way. I was recently asked for hand me downs for someone I don't even know-actually for someone's pregnant teenaged daughter that I really don't know. NO WAY! I have two little ones and and not really sure if I'm finished yet. People have 9 months of pregnancy to get stuff for their kids, I shouldn't be obligated to give anybody MY stuff that I bought.
2007-01-12 10:21:07 · answer #3 · answered by Stacy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that u should let your "friend" know that u and your husband plan on having another child and that u wished u could but cant. dont feel bad for trying to save yourself some money in the long run. however, if she no longer emails or call u, then u know what her intentions were. also, if so many people are giving her hand me downs, why does she need even more?
2007-01-12 10:21:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She would nicely be somewhat grateful for the inexpensive rates she is getting with information from being given products free of value. She also would nicely be hinting to you, like you suggested. i might want to ought to assert something next time that's pronounced. Very with courtesy basically ask her if she has hopes of your son's hand me downs because if she does, you want to provide her each and everything you've yet making plans yet another being pregnant leaves you thrifty minded and all of your products have become packed away for destiny use of your own. basically get it available and observe in case you nonetheless hear from her. If not, solid element you saved the stuff and in case you do, she's basically sharing her exhilaration with you. a minimum of you'll understand!
2016-12-02 04:32:03 · answer #5 · answered by broadway 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would ignore her statements. Maybe she is just telling you how happy she is about receiving hand me downs and not hinting that she wants yours.
2007-01-12 10:30:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just explain it to her casually. You haven't given your stuff away as you and hubby are planning for another baby, so you ahve stored your clothes away.
2007-01-12 10:56:07 · answer #7 · answered by mommy_2_liam 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm.. sounds like someone who likes "free" stuff. if you want to keep your stuff, let her know that. maybe she'll stop "hinting" about the handmedowns. or just ignore her. but my best bet is to tell her your plan with your son's clothes. she'll get over it!
2007-01-12 10:18:55 · answer #8 · answered by Mandie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may not realize how her comments are coming across. i would just ignore them and continue to keep in contact with her.
2007-01-12 10:19:30 · answer #9 · answered by Kristin Pregnant with #4 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep em, they're your's, or do like my mom did with all of us, she kept all the clothes, but she'd give some to family and friends, and when they're done, they pass it on, and so on, and it always ended up back to her casue she kept having more kids.
But me personally, I'd tell her, no offense, but they're mine, I had to buy them, so go buy your own!!!
2007-01-12 10:22:03 · answer #10 · answered by donovansmami 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋