I went out with a guy I was dating and we went for a drive. When we pulled over, I opened up a compartment & browsed through it casually, and also wanted to put away some change. He got annoyed and started saying there's nothing inside there, and pulled out a bunch of stuff and said see, there's nothing there! We had the windows open and it seemed like something fell out of the car that he was holding in his hand. I asked him to pull around so I can see it, cuz by this point I got suspicious of his reaction to me, and he refused, sayign I should just trust him and kinda threw an angry fit. I thought his behavior was unnecessary and unreasonable. If he wasn't hiding anything, why freak out if I opened his compartment? Why refuse to turn around? On the other hand, I am an untrusting person, I question some things cuz u can never fully trust anyone, & he used that against me saying I always put him under the microscope U just wanted to be trusted. So was he hiding something ?
2007-01-12 10:06:44 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I've read some answers, and here are some details to my question. We've been serious for about 3 years. Also, it is my belief that if you're with someone and it's serious, u can browse or even snoop, it shouldn't matter at all. And no I would not care if he looked through my purse, even if he was snooping around my drawers cuz I have nothing to hide. Actually that was something I told him to do, I said, here, look through my purse, I have nothing to hide, but it seemed like he sure did.
2007-01-12 10:23:42 · update #1
Yes you were lied to, and yes he was hiding something. I detest liars...you sound like a smart young lady, and it sounds like you detest dishonesty as much as i do...so if i were you, id find another guy with another car, and a compartment that doesnt contain drugs, or whatever the hell he was hiding...youre better than that..if he's hidiing that, what else is he hiding from you...do you have time to waste on a clown/liar? i know i dont.
2007-01-12 10:12:11 · answer #1 · answered by INFINITE CONSCIOUSNESS 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You had no right to go looking around inside of his compartment... especially if you haven't been dating him for a long time. That is comparable to him 'browsing' through your purse or drawers in your house. He may not have had anything to hide and just felt his privacy was being invaded. Would you want someone checking out your tampons and birth control pills, or anything else you happen to have but don't want everyone to see?
2007-01-12 10:11:21 · answer #2 · answered by Jason 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You didn't say how long you had been dating, and I think that matters here, because I'm not sure you should have been rifling thru his glove compartment, especially if you had not dated long. Perhaps he was just angry with you for invading his privacy. If it was as innocent as you say, and you just wanted to put some coins in there ??...then you should have done just that, and closed it up again. You really had no business, snooping (yes, that's what you were doing) I wonder how you would have reacted if the situation was reversed.
2007-01-12 10:15:11 · answer #3 · answered by dabadoo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like he was angry at you because he anticipates this type of behavior from you. You have the trust issues, but ask yourself why. Also, if he were more sensitive and understanding of your trust issues, he would let you see that he had nothing to had and not be so hateful about it. At least that's what I think. I think it's possible that he had something to hide too. It's really hard to tell at this point though.
2007-01-12 10:16:29 · answer #4 · answered by Jade D. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He was wrong to yell at you. But you were also probably over-reacting by asking him to turn around when you were going through his stuff, which you shouldn't have done at least without asking him first. How would you feel if he started going through your desk drawer at home? In short, that kind of stuff happens all the time, forget about it.
2007-01-12 10:15:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you don't lie, you have nothing to hide. Always go with your gut feeling not what happend to you in the past. But that inner voice that guides you everyday, the more you listen to it, you be surprised how much you can pick up all around you. Strengthen it!!
2007-01-12 10:17:03 · answer #6 · answered by RAW AND GRIM \,,/ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it really matters whether he was or not. The thing you need to think about is how his behavior that day made you feel. Do you want to be with someone that reacts that way to you over a situation like that.
2007-01-12 10:11:07 · answer #7 · answered by hthr_1974 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
HE probably was hiding something...but dont jump to the conclusion that it was a bad thing...it could have been something he was embarrassed for you to see or something.
2007-01-12 10:11:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he was hiding something. whether it was drugs, condoms, or panties, do you really want to hang out with a guy like that? move on. seriously, there are really nice guys in the world. go find one. good luck!!!! have fun.
2007-01-12 10:15:21 · answer #9 · answered by Elle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were snooping plain and simple. You had no right to open up his property and go rummaging around.No wonder he became angry!
2007-01-12 10:12:26 · answer #10 · answered by Pamela V 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋