i've been dating this guy for about six months and he introduced me to a few of his friends 3 months ago and one of his friends keeps asking me to sleep with him when the guy i'm dating is at work his job is 24 hours (marine drill instructor) when he goes to work it's 3 months at a time so he's not around as much and his friend i told him no four times already and he keeps bugging. how can i stop this? i told the guy that i'm dating and he told me not to have any conversation with him just ignore him because he's a slut he'll sleep with anybody. i feel really uncomfortable that his friend is doing this and everytime he does it he says don't tell anybody not even the guy i'm dating. why is he doing this to me? my friends said it could be a set up to see what kind of girl i am i'm not sure what is going on i just want it to stop. no rude comments i just need advice. do guys do set ups like this to test their girl?
2007-01-12 10:03:23 · 34 answers · asked by mrs. MJ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Find a new boyfriend--this one is not that into you.
Any boyfriend of merit I've ever had would have taken their friends face off, and asked questions later. MEN don't take it kindly when another guy is moving into their territory....friend or not. BOYS many times won't give a damn.
Unfortunately (for you), the Drill Instructor sounds like he's only in the relationship for either the sex and/or the convenience. Sorry!
Get rid of the BOY, find yourself a MAN, and tell the CREEP
that you'd love to sleep with him, on these conditions:
1) he gets plastic surgery to look like George Clooney
2) he pays you $10 million
3) he gets a penile implant to make up for his sample-size junk
That usually does it. Don't bother being nice about it--the creep is relying on you to be nice, so you'll be any easier target. Be mean, and he'll think twice. Be REALLY mean, and he'll move on.
Good Luck!
2007-01-12 10:51:46 · answer #1 · answered by firehorsegirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the DI wants to have a threesome with you and another guy, or maybe wants to pimp you out and make some money.
Normal guys don't do weird things like this, or tell their girlfriends to just ignore advances by a best friend. Your BF is allowing this to happen.
the marines are a strange bunch, and the DIs are even stranger.
I was a naval officer for ten years, and had the honor of knowing many fine Marines. But they are a strange and kinky bunch.
I know it is not good news. Sorry.
2007-01-12 10:09:48 · answer #2 · answered by Jack C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it is a set up . you should know by that what kind of guy your boyfriend really is.'he is a sneak and he doesn't trust you.
Don't do anything to jeopardize your relationship/
be good and ignore the other guy.
if it isn't a set up then you will have a clear conscience and your guy
will know you can be trusted.
as long as you are real certain your boy friend isn't messing around behind your back.
2007-01-12 10:11:27 · answer #3 · answered by StarShine G 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband set me up - once. He sent one of his buddies to the house to hit on me, just to see what I would do. I told him to come back when my husband was home and we could all talk about it together. It never happened again. Tell this guy to take a hike, and don't be nice about it. It sounds like he's not getting the message, so make it loud and clear. This is no "friend", so don't worry about hurting this jerk's feelings. He obviously doesn't respect you or your boyfriend.
2007-01-12 10:11:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what the guy you're dating told you - don't talk to the friend. He's being a horny guy, and that's what they do. They're persistent. If you don't talk to him, he can't ask you to sleep with him. Make some more friends of your own so you don't need to talk to the horny guy.
Decent guys don't set up their girl. And after all, he told you to just ignore it, so do that. Most guys don't want the risk associated with "setting up" their girl.
2007-01-12 10:07:41 · answer #5 · answered by halie_blue 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be a set up, if your boyfriend is the really jealous type. I would suggest you tell this guy that you told your man and he's not at all pleased. If he continues with it make a big deal about it when all of you are together.
2007-01-12 10:07:49 · answer #6 · answered by hthr_1974 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Guys do not do set up like this, that would only happen in movies. Friends don't try to sleep with girls their buddies are dating. Don't lower your standards and give in, if he makes you feel uncomfortable just ignore him, and tell him you don't want to talk to him.
2007-01-12 10:09:18 · answer #7 · answered by Frank the tank 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would never set up a girlfriend to test her, and can't imagine anyone doing it unless they'd gone nuts.
I think this guy is just a try-it-on tart and if he keeps pestering you he's clearly not getting the message that you're not interested.
2007-01-12 10:12:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi
I DO NOT think this is a set up. i'm a guy and i think no one would set his girlfreind in this situation if he likes her. And i think according to your tone you have good manners.So i think you have to just Ignore him as hard as you can. by the way your guy have to be proud of you.
2007-01-12 10:14:39 · answer #9 · answered by Arash J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What kind of drill instructor is this guy? He should have taken care of business.
Well if your BF isn't going to take care of the matter, tell the guy you've got herpes.
2007-01-12 10:06:11 · answer #10 · answered by DT 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋