We have been together for about a year and three months and i don't think that I should have it because i'm still a little to young.
2007-01-12 09:42:41 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Tell him... maybe he'll take full custody of the baby.
2007-01-12 09:50:10 · answer #1 · answered by naenae0011 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
You have some very big decisions ahead of you. You need to do not only what is in your best interest, but the baby's as well. If you decide to keep the baby, it should be because you want to care for and love this baby. If you decide that you are not ready for a baby, please consider adoption. There are many people who would love and provide for your baby. You can even choose an open adoption which allows you to keep in contact with the baby and visit. This is very graphic, but necessary for you to understand the consequences of your actions.....during an abortion, they tear the baby apart and suck it up into a vacuum. It has been recorded and they have seen that the fetuses, no matter how small and young, know what is happening and move away from the instruments. It causes them severe pain and suffering. Please consider that before you decide to abort the baby. Good Luck and remember, once you've made your decision, stand firm and know that you made an informed decision in both your best interests. This is your decision to make and don't allow others to decide for you.
2007-01-12 12:08:19 · answer #2 · answered by Michele B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Abortion seems like the easy answer, especially when you're young and THINK that you will do so much with your life IF you don't have this baby, but it's not so easy. Living with the fact that you aborted a child is difficult. Sometimes things happen for a reason. You might not feel ready but this baby might be the best thing that ever happened to you. Have you ever heard the song "There goes my life" by Kenney Chesney? Good song. Anyway. I'm speaking from personal experience. Make your own decisions... but remember... it's a terrible regret to carry. I wish I could have done things differently looking back. A baby is a blessing. God doesn't give you more than you can handle. Don't think that you can't still have a full and successful life and be a mother. It might make it a bit more difficult for the first few years... but it's totally possible. My Mom had me at 18 and we are now best friends. She thought she would regret it when she was young... but she says I'm the best thing that ever happened to her. She has 2 degrees, is a Nurse and has written 2 children's books!! So... she's a success and she had me VERY young.
2007-01-12 09:50:57 · answer #3 · answered by Debbie 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to tell him straight out, I want to give this baby up for adoption, or whatever. There are many options for girls who don't want the baby they are carrying--and the grandparents have rights now a days too, so one option is for them to have custody, that way the baby stays in the family, and when that child is older, you can explain to him/her what the reasons were that you didn't keep her/him--which might save some hardships on the baby when they get older. Whatever you do --don't wait, and by all means--involve your families, they will help you find the best solution to the problem. I commend you on being mature enough to know that you aren't ready for a child. Next time utilize the many types of birth control available so that this dilema doesn't happen again--you can get almost every type of birth control for free now a days--go to planned parenthood, your local clinic, or by all means, if you are old enough to have sex then you are old enough to be honest with your parents about it and have them help you get the birth control.
2007-01-12 09:51:05 · answer #4 · answered by Austins Mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you thinking about adoption or abortion? Also it would help to know how old you are. However Im going to assume you are thinking about adoption and that you are still a teen. Just tell your boyfriend that you aren't ready for a child yet and that you think that it would be in you and your babies best interest to give it up. Also if your boyfriend is capable and willing to care for this child and you are deciding on giving birth then why not let your bf keep the baby? Give him a chance to be a father if he is willing to try.
2007-01-12 10:57:58 · answer #5 · answered by nobody 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get him legally linked. so as that for the period of the destiny he has to maintain economic help for his paintings of paintings. the daddy seems to be an enormously selfish man or woman. he's making an attempt to distant himself from an enormously extreme dedication, being a Father and having to financially help his offspring. He might have basically wanted your on line enterprise for what he could get out of it. you do not want to spend any time with a guy or woman like that. Your toddler will replace the daddy as variety #a million on your lifestyles. touch a social worker, they're going to handbook you professionally with the aid of each thing, and you wont be on my own.
2016-12-16 03:13:31 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you mean you don't want the child? I hope your not considering abortion because whether or not you want the baby it still has the right to live, besides you could always put the child up for adoption but never feel your to young, my wife had her first when she was 15 and she had no regrets. Think about this and follow your heart.
2007-01-12 09:54:42 · answer #7 · answered by RuneDragon 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
You should tell him that you are not ready to raise a child. Give him the chance to keep the baby himself or to decide to give to someone else who loves and will care for the baby. Please don't kill this precious baby that is part of you. Should you decide to keep this child, you will find out what true love is. There is nothing more wonderful and more precious than a baby. God bless you.
2007-01-12 09:53:35 · answer #8 · answered by 4HIM- Christians love 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should both sit down and discuss it honestly and openly. You never know, he may feel the same way as you.
Just make sure you *really* think it through before doing anything rash. Make sure to consider ALL of your options, not just the ones that might seem easiest for you.
2007-01-12 09:50:24 · answer #9 · answered by Tasia 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't KILL an innocent baby. This isn't deciding whether or not to keep a Xmas gift, for Christ's sake! This is a human growing inside you. If you murder this defenseless baby, you WILL feel Allah's Wrath! There are MANY couples in the US, who can't have children, and would do just about anything to raise a child. I suggest you try to find such a couple, who is older and more established, and more financially able to care for a baby. They could help you w/ the pregnancy, in terms of financial and moral support. Or, you could let one of your family members care for it. Is this the result of failed birth-control, or carelessness on you and your boyfriend's part?
P.S. Please don't be a baby-killer!
2007-01-12 09:54:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 3⤋
Do you have a healthy, open relationship??? Is there more going on than this?? You need to do what's right for you, but I would suggest talking to him honestly about what you are feeling. Remember, everything happens for a reason!! Good Luck:)
2007-01-12 09:46:54 · answer #11 · answered by ProudMama2Mason 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋