my little girl loves balloons and there are constantly balloons at home. however, sometimes when she makes me angry I pop her balloon. my question is, do you thinks its bad to pop your children balloon even though my anger toward her is not necessarily related to the balloon ?
2007-01-12 09:37:21 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
That's emotionally abusive. Unless your child brings you a balloon and asks you to pop it, get your hands off! You are hurting her feelings on purpose when you're upset with her. Shame on you.
2007-01-12 09:41:07 · answer #1 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I never let my children play with balloons. They are dangerous! Children can easily choke on the popped parts. In my home balloons have never been toys. I'd suggest completly getting away from balloons if you can. But back on subject. What you are doing is a little mean. Almost like bullying. Try to figure out a better disciplinary action to take. Make sure she understands what she is doing wrong, why it's wrong, that's important. Right now she probably just thinks you're mean. She might not understand why you pop her balloons. Confusing. I know it's hard I have three.
2007-01-12 09:47:20 · answer #2 · answered by WALACPL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally if you are getting visibly angry with her and you pop the balloon infront of her...depending on her age and understanding of the situation...it might not have that good of an effect on her. If you find that the act of popping a balloon is a stress relief, pop one of them in private or get your own balloons to pop. If you find you are only popping the balloon because you know it makes her upset and she's "paying for" what ever it is that made you mad...I would suggest finding another way of showing her she's made you upset that's not as aggressive and angry.
2007-01-12 09:55:16 · answer #3 · answered by soulaira 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that is the right way to go. Imagine it's a cute little teddybear she loves so much and you get upset with her so you burn the thing. Not good, you are burning her right with the teddybear. Just like you are popping her.
Time out chairs work really well, so do no desserts or something SMALLER then taking away something a little child really loves!
You asked the question though so apperently you show concern, you are worried that you were doing something wrong. That is good.
Good luck and have a great night!
2007-01-12 09:45:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't feel guilty whats done is done if your asking her to do something and she does not listen then use the balloons as a punishment give her 3 warnings and as a consequence she will loose her balloons for a period of time ...
and vise versa a reward for good behavior
2007-01-12 11:10:54 · answer #5 · answered by lozie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To a little girl it doesn't make sense why you do it. When she is doing something that makes you angry, you need to find a way that relate to her in the way she understands. She hasn't developed her comprehensive thinking like we grown ups do. And isn't it kind of childish to do Thait, like if you do something that makes me mad, I'll do something tha makes you mad.
Only after the 4 year a child may slowly start to understand the logic of why things happen, before that it doesn't make sense and she may even may throw a larger fit. It may make her insecure and mistrustful if you do unexpected things to her, even as small as popping her balloon, because she is emotionally attached to it.
2007-01-12 10:12:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should only pop your child's balloon if your child is going to eat it.
My mother still pops our balloons, and that makes us quite sad.
When you are angry, don't take it on the girl OR the balloon.
Perhaps you should hide the balloons? But don't pop them, that's just cruel.
2007-01-12 09:41:56 · answer #7 · answered by XD 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When i was young my dad destroyed one of my toys by sawing it in half, i have never forgot the day nor his anger on his face when he did this. Your child will remember this when she is older she will be upset with you.
i dont think it is right to pop the balloons but i also think its a bit much to say its a form of terrorism...
2007-01-12 09:58:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mean Mommy! You poor little girl will always remember this. You have got to be the grown-up! You are acting just as childish as your daughter.
2007-01-12 10:18:28 · answer #9 · answered by Pamela V 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it is. This is some form of terrorism. How would you like it if everytime your boss was pissed off he popped one of your tires? You'd wanna kill that f*cker, I'm sure your child will end up feeling the same way.
2007-01-12 09:45:17 · answer #10 · answered by hthr_1974 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋