What if you had only one friend but you found out that friend is backstabber and that some people even told you that he/she talks behind your back? Would you just leave that friend and be alone, be your own best friend? or would you just be friends with that person because you have been friends with them for 7 years?
2007-01-12 09:32:12 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i've been in the same situation!!!!!! i dropped that friend,minded my own business and kept my mouth shut around him.meaning as,not talk personal things so that he has reasons to start gossippin abt me again.other than that,show him no mercy as he did not show with you.show him you don't give a **** on him and he means absolutely nothing to you and that you can live much better without him.
2007-01-12 09:36:35 · answer #1 · answered by Bluntness 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is pretty simple friend. First of all if you been friends for 7 years there is no reason that I can think of why you shouldn't be able to approach them. Approach them.. ask them what you are hearing. And usually if someone treasures your friendship, they stand up for you, they don't talk behind your back unless its something positive, and they don't spill out your dirty laundry either. IF you can't approach this person, this person is not a true friend to begin with. And if your gonna keep someone in your life like that, well your just setting yourself up to get hurt again. As you grow, your needs in having a friendship with someone will change, things that were important are not gonna be anymore, and things that weren't, will be important. There is sooo many people to meet and be around people who actually want you around, like I always say "choose your friends, don't let them choose you, and your friends are a mirror reflection of who you are. Well goodluck..
2007-01-12 09:43:37 · answer #2 · answered by RAW AND GRIM \,,/ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First and formost you need to talk to your 'friend' confront them calmly and tell them what you've heard. If you start off accusing them of backstabbing you then they will automatically throw up their walls and you won't get anywhere with them.
Secondly, if you do find out it's definitely true that your 'friend' is backstabbing you, then this friend is not really a friend after all. I've had friends back stab me after i've been friends with them for years so I know how you feel.
There are a lot of people in this world. Please do not think that if you aren't friends with this one person any more than you will never have another friend.
I know some people find it hard to make friends. But look at it this way, talk to people is a lot easier than it seems. Most people like to talk about themselves. (at least on a not so personal level) And every person has story. If you read people like you would read a book...find out about them...what makes them tick...what they went through in life...you'll find people open up and it's easy to make friends. :o)
=- Drea
2007-01-12 09:39:59 · answer #3 · answered by soulaira 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously they aren't your TRUE real friend, or they wouldn't talk sh*t on you!!! Stand up for yourself, confront your "friend" about what you had heard (don't give the name of who you heard it from!) and see how your "friend" acts and responds. That will tell you a LOT...you can tell if someone REALLY feels bad about something that they did or if they don't feel bad. You can make your decision from that...I would say that if you don't see or hear that person feeling badly about it, you REALLY don't need them in your life. Just start talking to more people on a daily basis and more friends will come into your life!!! Good luck!!!
2007-01-12 09:38:27 · answer #4 · answered by star 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'd kick them to the curb!! why would you want a friend who a backstabber even after 7 years? find new friends, there are nice people out there who do know how to be friends!!
2007-01-12 09:36:46 · answer #5 · answered by onyx maiden 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would back off and get my ducks in a row. I would take some time to figure out what I really wanted out of my life. Put more energy into yourself. When you do this, expand your interests and things like that you will make new friends. It seems a long and lonely road but I did this very thing and the pay off was huge. Good luck to you.
2007-01-12 09:36:08 · answer #6 · answered by hthr_1974 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get your thoughts right. Friends don't even do that so don't call him or her friend, Just don't let yourself be stabbed in the back or anything. I would rather be on my own than have such a so called friend. But than I can't really say that because I had tons of friends and when one does do something like that I had others who would be there
2007-01-12 09:39:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would rather have no friends than to have a friend like that. How are you to make new friends if she is talking bad about you behind your back?
2007-01-12 09:36:09 · answer #8 · answered by Deborah 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd still be friends, but make sure to keep a bit of distance. Then I'd look to those who told me about his/her talking behind my back--the fact that these people come clean about my so-called-friend can very well mean that these people care enough about me to become my real friends.
2007-01-12 09:36:30 · answer #9 · answered by yahoo_girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yo uknowyou make a good point. Some say better to be loved than never to be loved at all, but being loved and being backstabbed-I wouldn't have wanted to go through it in the first place. You know I have only 2 best friends-my son and my dog-honest, trustworthy, and dependable!~
2007-01-12 09:36:24 · answer #10 · answered by Zoomba 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋