I'm getting married in 5 weeks and am really awful at public speaking. How do I write a decent speech?

Question

I am known for being quite funny but I want to make a decent speech and not make a fool of myself. My other half has a wicked sense of humour and I know she'll be pleased with anything I say but I want to make it a good one. Help !!

Answer 1

No expects you to be good at public speaking. In any case the gist of any grooms speech I've heard is just a catalogue of thank you. Usually starting off thanking everyone for turning up, and ending up thanking your in laws for producing and raising a wonderful bride. Somewhere you have to say, 'My Wife and I'

You are also expected to flatter your bride to bits. But you better mean it cause you've got to live with her

Apart from that Winston Churchill's advice would not go amiss.
Stand up Speak up Shut Up

Answer 2

I'm not aware that the groom is expected to make a speech, but if you want to do that go for it.

What I like to do for such an occasion is just write down ideas of what you would like to say. Dont edit, dont try to put it together yet. Just write.

Then read what you have written and look for themes that you think are meaningful to you and to others and hone in on that theme.

Safest bet is to keep it pretty short so just use the best idea and build on it a little. A liitle joke along the same theme would be v suitable. AND PRACTICE SAYING IT OUT LOUD.

Words that look good on paper may sound weird when they are spoken. And get rid of any tongue tying phrases that might trip you up.

Crisp, easy, meaningful and short - Leave them wanting more (and your bride will be wanting more, I'm sure!)

Best wishes on your marriage!

Answer 3

Try and write your speech while you are in a happy relaxed mood. That way you may be able to think of some interesting and amusing anecdotes. If you are naturally good at making people laugh then it shouldn't be too hard.

Essentially I think it's just best to be sincere and to keep it fairly short. Don't copy one from anywhere or get someone else to write it for you as it is very obvious when that has been done.

Enjoy the day and have a happy healthy future together.

Answer 4

Here's some tips which might help you.
First, most people speak much too fast when they are nervous. Count to ten slowly before you start speaking and practice before hand keeping you speaking at a reasonable slow pace.
Second, wandering around, figiting and excessive hand movements. Try standing behind you chair and keeping hold of the back of it to avoid this problem.
Third, remember KISS Keep It Simple Stupid. A short and simple speech will have much more impact than if you try and be too clever.
If you are putting in jokes get a second opinion as to whether they are funny or not, again, keep them simple.

Good luck and congratulations on your forth coming marriage.

Answer 5

go to hitched.co.uk I checked it out when I was best man at my sisters wedding and there is some fantastic advice and even some actual speeches to help you form your own.

don't drink too much before the speech there's plenty of time for that afterward ( have a full drink ready for when you sit down ). Practice it so that you pretty much know it and you don't need the whole thing written out to read from you should be able to use notes.

relax and just enjoy the day. Good luck

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Answer 7

Bob Monkhouse wrote an excellent book called "Just Say a few words". I got it when I had to give my wedding speech and it was really useful.
It has a section all about wedding speeches and it also has a couple of chapters with one-liners to use (most of them are groan-making but I used a couple of good ones).
He also has a chapter on how to overcome nerves when you give a speech.

Answer 8

1. Speak slowly and make sure there is a microphone so you do not have to shout

2. Keep it short

3. Practise the final speech before the day

4.Content:
How you met your bride
All her excellent qualities
How you proposed
Thank her parents for making her what she is
Thank your friends for coming and supporting you both
Toast her and ask them to wish you both a long happy and fruitful union

5. Sit down

Answer 9

no matter what you will write down you will end up throwing it all out the window or in the air behind you and say what it is that you really feel this will mean more than any canned speech you can ever make up written to be delivered..LOL even if you have to pretend to have papers written she will remember what you did and said for the rest of her life

Answer 10

Try and stay sober! Write out a crib sheet - its fine, no one will mind. Buy some Bach's Resue Remedy (Boots or health food shop) have a quick few drops before it is your turn.
Relax and enjoy - then you can have a drink!
Good luck and live a long and happy life together!