What's the proper thing to do? A guy friend from a different high school invited a girl to his winter formal ... they are just friends (she made that clear, although I think he'd still like to be more than friends). They went to prom last year as friends. He asked her to winter formal a while ago (& prior to her having a boyfriend). Now the girl has a boyfriend (already graduated), and he knows the other guy and says it's ok, but she's not sure if she should still go to the formal w/ the guy friend, or not, should things with him stay less formal like going out for coffee? ... there is still time for the guy friend to invite someone else. She's a nice girl and doesn't want to hurt anyone's feelings either.
What would you do if you were in her place?
How would you feel if you were her boyfriend? If you were the guy friend?
2007-01-12 08:59:16 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
To people like "VILE AND ODIOUS FART", no need to answer here. I looked at some of VILES other answers-all rude & disrespectful. If you'd like to keep people like Vile out of answers, report, or at least give a thumbs down.
By the way, the girl is my daughter. She was concerned & talked to me, I was curious about what the public majority thoughts would be.
2007-01-12 09:24:22 · update #1
If you have been to a formal dance with him before and nothing was expected in return- your boyfriend knows about the situation and is cool with it then go an have fun as friends.
Just make sure that the reason you are asking this question is not because you already know something will happen or be expected.
Male and females can be just friends- you just have to be mature enough to know that it would cause trouble to cross the line.
2007-01-12 09:04:21 · answer #1 · answered by bootsjeansnpearls 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If I was her boyfriend and i knew the guy and trusted the girl I would say fine go . If i was the girl and knew the guy was not going to make more out of the dance then just friends I would go but if its going to cause an issue i would say no
2007-01-12 17:04:37 · answer #2 · answered by loveamouse7767 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not a good idea, no guy likes to even think about his girl out with another guy. Much less have to have pictures of it for all eternity. Then what happens if they guy acts inappropriately. Could get ugly. If you want to be a good friend, help him find a date.
2007-01-12 17:04:13 · answer #3 · answered by Wannabewriter 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
personally I wouldn't think anything bad of it unless there is a reason to think badly of the girl. plus that's some personal stuff going on with the girl. most people shouldn't think anything about it because it doesn't involve anyone but her, her friend, & boyfriend.
but if I were her and was completely loyal to my boyfriend and wanted to hang out with my friend I wouldn't care because that's my friend you know.
if I were her boyfriend maybe a little jealous from the fear of losing her but you gotta think of it this way. who does she go back to at the end of the night?
2007-01-12 17:05:23 · answer #4 · answered by lexi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just reassure the boyfriend, she is not interested in the guy in that way, that she is just going with him for fun and nothing more. If I was boyfriend I be a bit jealous, however try be understanding and believe her
2007-01-12 17:03:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd still go but just make it really clear that it's nothing but friends. I know people in that situation. If they're really good friends and respect each other then nothing should go bad between them. Hope it works out!
2007-01-12 17:02:59 · answer #6 · answered by T-money 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think its ok. Her boyfriend doesn't mind, and she's only going as a friend. Now, if she cheats on her boyfriend with this guy, that's a different story.
2007-01-12 17:03:09 · answer #7 · answered by bewitching_green_fairy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think if she agreed to go before entering the relationship, that she should definitely go if she still wants to. The biggest thing is, if she wants to cheat, she doesn't need a dance to do it at, so why be so jealous of the whole thing?
2007-01-12 17:02:49 · answer #8 · answered by Lowa 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sound like she's dating other guys. If her boyfriend doesn't care if she goes out with other guys, she should dump him. If I were a guy, I wouldn't waste my time or money on a girl who isn't available and wants to have it both ways (a boyfriend AND extra boys to take her to dances)
2007-01-12 17:03:07 · answer #9 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if she has a boyfriend she should go with him, if he doesn't want to go or cant then as long as her boyfriend approves and the other guy knows they are just friends i don't see anything wrong with it and people should mind there own business
2007-01-12 17:05:09 · answer #10 · answered by parrotsarenoisy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋