My son has accused me of going into his jounral and reading it than writing my ex-wife about it.
So he and the ex says my son will no longer talk to me unless I admit to it.
So should I?
My ex has history of lieing to him and interferring with our relationship.
I like to know what is the best way to handle it.
2007-01-12 08:58:47 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Ignore what the ex says, she has no sense. Talk to your son and tell him never accuse someone without having the solid proof. And you would like to see that proof please. Hand it over. While he sits there pondering what to do next, tell him does he see how ridiculous this is?
2007-01-12 09:42:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you did not do it, don't admit to it- it could cause more problems later. If you supposedly "wrote" your ex about it, where is this letter at? I gather you ex is supporting the idea that you told her about it. It sounds like some parental alienation going on. If you admit to it, you are only allowing the alienation to grow, and reinforcing to your son that there is no trust between you and he. You need to try to talk to him and explain the misunderstanding. If your ex-wife is unwilling to support this communication and help to initiate it, she is only displaying that she is in fact the culprit. Unfortunately it is a difficult situation, especially if he is unwilling to talk to you, but you must try- start with the "documentation" of your betrayal. Good luck.
2007-01-12 09:14:10 · answer #2 · answered by Jennifer S 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough one. You want to do what ever you can to see your son, but at the same time you don't want him to think that you're snooping behind his back. Is there a court order in place stating that you can see him certian days? If so, I wouldn't admit anything and then when he came to visit talk to him. If not, do what you need to do to see him and then when you two are together talk to him about it. Good luck!!
2007-01-12 09:06:52 · answer #3 · answered by ssmomma 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How old is your son? Do you have visitation? If so, enforce it. And speak to your son one on one with out your exwife interference. If not, is their a way you can write a letter to your son and someone who in contact with him deliver it so the ex does not hide it. Keep trying to make contact with him. Do not admit to something you didn't do, it will come back to bite you later on. It sounds like the ex is trying to set you up.
2007-01-12 09:14:15 · answer #4 · answered by abrinaus 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
first-even if you did it, you have that right provided you had a genuine concern.
second- sounds like someones playing games here. am i right?
third-if you have been to court and there is visitation in place, stand your ground!
how old is your son anyway? if he's young he could not have thought of this himself.
don't admit to something you didn't do. they'll throw it back in your face later.
if they won't see or talk to you, go to his school. talk to him there. you're his father. you have that right as long as you have visitation privileges.
2007-01-12 09:16:00 · answer #5 · answered by racer 51 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Never lie. You need to get him some counseling.
2007-01-12 09:23:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what ever it takes to see your son.And try for justice later.
2007-01-12 09:02:41 · answer #7 · answered by Honest Injun 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋