What should I do. We were at a hotel and when he left I felt so alone and one of the hotel workers ( a guy) came to drop off a glass of wine. When he came in I shut door and we did it right on the floor what should and I'm pregnant should I have the baby or have an abortion, should I tell him or not ???????????????????
2007-01-12 08:45:30 · 29 answers · asked by digitec95 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
you cant be serious :))
2007-01-12 08:49:55 · answer #1 · answered by magickitty0621 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YIKES... this does not sound real... Sounds like daytime drama stuff...
May I ask why, if you are engaged to the "greatest guy" in the world would you even consider cheating on him????
Sadly now, you say you are expecting a baby... YIKES again.
Should you have the baby?? Well my dear that is up to you.
No one should judge your decision so don't worry about what others think... This is none of anyone's business but yours and your intended.
If this were me, ( and thank God it's not), I would sit down with the great guy and tell him what I did, be honest. TELL HIM EVERYTHING, cause he's going to ask.
Is there a chance that the baby is his? Or are your sure it's Mr. Wonderful in Bed's Baby?
I would have to say the wedding should be called off, maybe not totally, but certainly for now.
The baby deserves a loving Mother & Father if at all possible.
Please do not use the baby as a ploy in this situation..
The baby my dear is innocent.
If you feel you are ready to have a baby, and can provide it with so much love, patience, and understanding... and I might add doing this on your own. Then have the baby. If there is a chance the baby will suffer, then do not have the baby.
I do not mean to get preachy on you, but have you ever considered praying for guidance? Even non-believers pray.
Good Luck Dear, and God Bless
2007-01-12 09:03:42 · answer #2 · answered by Aunt Henny Penny 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Big mistake.
First don`t abort the child no matter who the father is. Second i think you should confide him this(if you can do before the wedding) if you do it afterwards it will look like you are very unfaithful and a coward. Tell him the truth.If your love is true he will understand and forgive you.If you do he will have more trust in you(if he forgives you cuz i don`t know your man) but it`s not worth living with such a regret and such a dilemma(about the baby) A strong relationship is based on reciprocal respect and trust.
2007-01-12 08:58:42 · answer #3 · answered by kvcreom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
will u cant start your marriage to your hustband in a lie it wont be comfortable or healthy for everyone u and the man u love or the baby then after baby is born then get dna then let him know who it is then start all over in the relationship fresh start new begining and youll have a open relationship it should be heart to heart it will leave a knot in your stomach to tell him the right way like i love u i didnt mean to hurt u by doing this but id like us to be happily married anyways what if he finds out by someone else or in the future the baby doesnt look like u or him as much he will be suspicous and itll be worst if u dont end up telling him will hope it works out for u and everyone else
2007-01-12 11:05:06 · answer #4 · answered by dvcgurl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you really have to ask this question? You already know what people are going to say...
you were wrong
no you shouldn't get rid of the baby
you shouldn't get married
and all that stuff....
You should tell him now. Especially if there is a chance he is not the father. Let him make the choice of staying with you or leaving you.
2007-01-12 08:53:38 · answer #5 · answered by glorymomof3 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, that is messed up. You obviously can't love your fiance that much if you cheated on him. You shouldn't kill the baby by having an abortion because YOU messed up. It isn't the babies fault you cheated. You have to tell your fiance, it would be the right thing to do. What happened to morals?
2007-01-12 08:54:54 · answer #6 · answered by Rachel C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This has got to be a joke. If not, then I hope the little wromp with the hotel guy was worth it because you can pretty much kiss your fiancee good bye.
2007-01-12 09:07:58 · answer #7 · answered by Jason 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is serious post, then I think you seriously need to have a heart to heart with your finance especially since an unborn child is involved. But first I think you need to think about whether you trulely love this man, want to marry this man, and are willing to work on regaining his trust if he is still willing to move on with the relationship. If you decide that you still want to be with him, talk to him about it, and suggest the two of you seek counseling to try to resolve this issue. You need to talk over your pregnancy options with your finace (if he can potentially be the father) and the other guy before making any decision. Only you, however, can decide whether to to terminate your pregnancy or carry it out term.
2007-01-12 08:56:11 · answer #8 · answered by Veronica W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is nasty sleeping with a hotel employee that you did not even know! You are sick! Maybe the guy that you are going to be marrying is maybe not he greatest guy to you or you wouldn't have cheated on him! I would tell him you cheated on him!
2007-01-12 08:56:05 · answer #9 · answered by ~*Sweet Pea*~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm pro choice, and judging from your behavior you should abort the baby before it's too late. You are a horrible person to do this to your fiance. People like you should never have children. Get your ovaries cut lady. I hope you are joking cuz this is close to being ridiculous
2007-01-12 08:55:25 · answer #10 · answered by LumiereLady 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if he is the greatest guy in the world then you dont deserve him. what you did is horrible and you should never never tell him!!!
if you are pregnant from the hotel employee, then you should tell your man. You should be honest to him.
If the hotel employee was better in bed, then teach/show your future husband better sex!
2007-01-12 08:56:20 · answer #11 · answered by Instant Problemsolver 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋