There is a lot to be said for saving yourself. I love the girl who has respect for herself.
You can have some physical activity without giving up EVERYTHING.
If the guy loves you he'll see that being with you is worth the wait. If you aren't in complete sexual sync when you get married...I can't think of anything more fun to practice at. :o)
Its a turn on to see someone that chooses to control them self. Anyone can give in and go for the good time with no strings. Being easy does nothing for a guy if you are looking for them to RESPECT you.
2007-01-12 08:54:20
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answered by Randal D 2
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Only a jerk wouldn't "buy the cow since he got the milk for free", and someone like that wouldn't be worthy marrying...
Be intimate with someone when it feels right. Marriage isn't based on how early in the relationship you hace sex with someone, it is based on love, trust, and companionship.
2007-01-12 16:51:31
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answered by violetmal 2
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The problem here is, would the guy be marrying you BECAUSE he wants to sleep with you?
For me, sex is a small part of the equation. That our sex is good is just one of the things to check off a list. The problem I have with "no sex before marriage" is that it induces some people to enter into marriages that are completely incompatible and unhappy just for the prospect of sex. I don't mean to belittle the significance of sex, but to put so much weight on it is bad too, don't you think?
2007-01-12 16:49:35
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answered by John C 4
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There has to be a fine middle ground her sweetheart. If you want to wait till marriage that is fine (but only if your partner does too). Having sex right away is NEVER a good idea if you want a serious relationship (however it is good for flings, one night stands and orgies!!). The best rule of thumb is you should wait (from the time you first declare couplehood) one day for each year you want the marriage to last. I know that sounds retarded, because it is!! their is no rule when it comes to this, when the time feels like its right (for both of you) that is when you should do it. Be it a week, a month..or whatever, you will simply know when the time is right and it will happen naturally. So, what have we learned? A. Quickies aren't ideally a good base for serious relationships, B. Don't listen to dumb rules or cliche sayings when making a life decision, C. When the time is right, you will know. Good luck! ~"He conquers, who conquers himself."~
2007-01-12 16:51:50
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answered by Blind Sighted 3
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You need to at least find out what her idea of great sex is verbally. At least u would have a clue of whether or not you two may be sexually compatible. For the womanwho has sex with you early on... she could be the one for you as long as you are in love with her. I wouldn't marry someone without having sex first. Bad sex leads to a divorce because of infedelity.
2007-01-12 16:57:40
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answered by ladylove79 1
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I understand waiting until marrage, however, sex is a very important part of a successful relationship. I might suggest waiting a bit really falling in love with that person, and then doing the deed. But i would not want to commit to marrage with someone i had not slept with. What would you do if your sex just was terrible.
2007-01-12 16:49:27
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answered by SkiOli 2
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I would take the first one. A girl that wants a strong committed relationship. If it's all play, then that's a waste of time. That's just me though in my opinion. I want a girl that wants a firm relationship and not all games. In the end, you'll get more rewards if it's a committed relationship.
2007-01-12 16:49:15
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answered by T-money 2
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I need the sex to feel intimate with a lady as the relationship progresses. The marriage is a legal commitment, nothing more.
2007-01-12 16:50:10
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answered by rilindy 5
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Well In my opinion I think its good for a couple to have sex at some point before getting married I mean... not when they just met but once they become really close I think it is ok
some men would be driven to cheating if their girlfriend wont have sex with them after months upon months/years
2007-01-12 16:48:45
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answered by Tony 1
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It really doesn't matter as far as marriage is concern. Waiting to have sex or having it right up front would not matter.
But the best girl to marry would be someone in the middle. I want a girl who doesn't just have sex with every guy she meets. But at the same time I don't want a girl who uses sex as a weapon, "I will only have sex with you if you marry me or if you do this and that."
I want a girl who wants to have sex, but wants to have it with me (not just any one).
2007-01-12 16:54:03
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answered by The Teacher 6
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