I have noticed that all the ladies my age are the ones that no one seems to want, if they are single after 40 there is just a lot of baggage. The ladies I know that are worth knowing are all married...where do the great ladies hang out, so I can find me one?
2007-01-12 08:40:25 · 13 answers · asked by utahbugtussel 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I know that we all have baggage and I have been more than willing to over look small things. I was refering more to their honesty and I just did not make it clear enough I guess To the lady that owns her own home...good for you, so do I. As what I have to offer I believe that I am a great guy and I have no problem find ladies that want to date I just have a problem finding one that is worth my love, attention and complete commitment for life! I do not do one stands and don't waste my time on ladies that I believe are goiong nowhere. If I find out that you have cheated, lied, been selfish or just "low life" standards then I don't want to be your next sucker! Chruch was a good idea and very thoughtful of those that suggested it. As too some of them looking at me and what I have to offer, I hope they get to know me and not be judgemental of the cover...it is not all I am you know! I post my ture self in pictures, statements and I allow all contacts as I have nothing to hide. More clear?
2007-01-12 09:22:08 · update #1
I see them all in church. I have a long way to go before 40, but thats where they are.
2007-01-12 08:42:22 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Just because the ladies you know are married does not mean they are great. Just ask their husbands. I am sorry you have not been able to find a good woman. What do you have to offer? Mabe the good women are judging you the same way. Over 40 women don't always have extra baggage. They are usually very together, experienced in love and know what they want out of life. Everyone has a past, but you can't make that your focus in looking for a mate, if you do you may miss out on a wonderful relationship.
2007-01-12 08:53:25 · answer #2 · answered by sweetpea 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am 41 and have no trouble meeting people, (when I am not on the computer lol.) I go to biker runs and volunteer for things and sometimes just start up conversations with people I don't know. I know not every one is as outgoing as i am but there are a lot of people out there who really want to be noticed and talked to but cannot say a word to a stranger. If they catch your eye and smile back say hi. Baggage is baggage, some is heavier than others and some people just need to be reminded to leave theirs at home or at the door. Some body out there may benefit from you helping them sort theirs out and take it to the dump too.
If you have kids get involved with the school activities. Some really great women, like me ;-) are involved in those and check out the dads that show up. Good luck and happy days.
2007-01-12 08:49:34 · answer #3 · answered by indianola_gurl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm divorced and 40 - no baggage, no kids and no drama - and the ex is 1200 miles away. I own a house and since I live alone I tend not to "hang-out" at bars or clubs since I can't afford it. You might want to look at personals sites or dating sites . . .
2007-01-12 08:45:45 · answer #4 · answered by lunasage 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And you dont have a lot of baggage ?? What do you think women think of men over 40 who never married ?? I'm almost 37 and have never been married but that was out of choice. Honestly there aren't too many men worth marrying.
2007-01-12 08:45:24 · answer #5 · answered by JustMe 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
if you have to find one you will never get one!! a great lady will find you just have patience she will come!! you might want to consider dating older like 50 because women over 40 and are single want men who are under 40!! you see women out live men by 10 years so it kind makes sense that they would get a man 10 years younger so they can die together :)
2007-01-12 08:47:44 · answer #6 · answered by notyochic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you considered that maybe they feel the same way about you? Hate to break it to you but I'm sure you've got some baggage yourself. There is no one great place to meet singles.
2007-01-12 08:45:48 · answer #7 · answered by Lynda M ♥ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
find the divorce ones mess around with them for a few months and let them go. And you will have the satisfaction of knowing you helped with there baggage and got lucky all at the same time
2007-01-12 08:43:10 · answer #8 · answered by xxgq 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
In today's age, Churches are noticing a decline in their membership. Some of the more avant guard churches are actually using their single members as bait to get more members of the opposite sex. These are great to go to. And what girl doesn't mind telling her friends and strangers that she met her guy at church. Also, church girls are the freakiest things around. It's quite ironic, but you have more chances of getting laid by a church girl than any other girl you meet at a bar. Just remember to be super discrete. They don't like their business going around as gossip.
You should try it. But dress nice. Don't go to church unshaven and in your dirty overalls.
2007-01-12 08:49:13 · answer #9 · answered by Art 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your grandkid is cute.You're not using her as a way to pick up chicks. My brother did that with my little girl. It worked, but the shame. Good luck
2007-01-12 08:44:12 · answer #10 · answered by Monet 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋