Bring up shaving with my daughter or do I wait till she asks me? and what age should I bring it up if she hasnt asked?
2007-01-12 08:23:33 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
You know your daughter best, but I would kind of allow her to lead off. I have 2 very different personality girls (one is 13 and 1 is 8).
My 13 year old would rather die than discuss this type of thing outright. When she was 11 and I noticed she was getting a bit of stray hair under the arms I just bought her the same kind of razor I use, called her in the bathroom, and showed her where I was putting it. I mentioned that I had spotted the hairs when she stretched and if I did someone else probably would too. I pantomimed how I use it and what to watch for (nicks on back of knees, under arms, etc.) and how to fix them if they happened. Told her when she was ready to go ahead and take it out, whenever she felt ready and not before and to call on me if she needed to. She mostly answered in uh-huhs and turned bright purple. A few weeks later it was sitting on the shower shelf and wet. We have never discussed it again since but now that she is menstruating when she asks for more "supplies" I ask if she needs new blades or she tells me when she needs them.
My 8 year old will probably require a whole different conversation.
Hope that helps!
2007-01-12 08:32:48 · answer #1 · answered by Dee 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, I was in the 6th grade (about 12 y/o) when I started shaving. My mom was one that was never really comfortable talking about all this stuff, so my info usually came from friends and their mothers. I decided to be much different with my daughter. I sat her down when she was 8 and talked to her about all the "girly" stuff. Good thing too, she started her menses at 9. She didn't start shaving though until last year (at 12) only because she really didn't have to. Her hair has started becoming darker and so did her leg and underarm hair. I would say include it in the talk about menses and sex. Then when the hair becomes noticeable, show her how to do it. I wished my mom would have taught me the things I needed to know, instead of leaving it up to others. I never had anyone to teach me how to apply make-up or to fix my hair. It was a good thing that my friends had such good mothers.
2007-01-12 17:01:08 · answer #2 · answered by Crystal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I think I actually asked my mom if I could shave in 5th grade, which is when my friends started shaving. But if she doesn't ask you, you may just want to sit down and talk to her and casually bring up the subject maybe when she's in 6th or 7th grade (man that seems so young now! I can't believe I WANTED to shave! lol) and just say something like, "well honey, I was wondering if maybe you'd like me to show you how to shave your legs, you're old enough now to start doing it" and if she wants to, she will. If not, no harm done.
2007-01-12 16:30:29 · answer #3 · answered by lucy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When I was about 10 0r 11 I asked my mom about shaving.
She wasn't completely comfortable with me shaving until I was about 13. If you daughter wants to shave she will ask you or if you feel like it is time for her to start shaving then talk to her about it. Set it up like a spa night of pampering that includes shaving and nail polish and stuff.
Let me know if this helps!
2007-01-12 16:36:19 · answer #4 · answered by simpli_cute 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Use your best judgement, if you notice her legs are hairy then suggest its time to start shaving.
My mother never mentioned anything to me...I learned to do everything on my own. The only thing I ever went to her for was when I started my period and she acted so weepy and asked such stupid questions that I couldn't very well ask about anything else. I needed some guidance not questions. I hope to have better communication with my daughter. I know her father will. He's one of those very open communicative people.
2007-01-12 17:02:37 · answer #5 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No matter what her age is, if you're noticing her leg & underarm hair needs to be removed, buy her some lotion hair removal & tell her to just keep it handy till she's ready to use it & to also feel free to ask you any questions if she needs to. (no matter how "close" we are to our children, they don't always feel comfortable coming to us about certain issues) If she begins using the lotion then decides she wants to shave instead, use your best judgement depending on her age & how responsible she would be with razors. Also, if she uses razors, shave cream will make it easier & less hazardous for her than shaving with soap or body lotion.
2007-01-12 16:45:35 · answer #6 · answered by SmallVoiceInBigWorld 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let her ask. It is her body. Or, try bringing it up casually if she doesn't ask you at all. Like saying, "have you thought about shaving?"
2007-01-12 16:28:09 · answer #7 · answered by Popsicle_1989 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think I started shaving at 11.
And, only did it cuz we had gym class and had to change in the locker room, and we had to wear shorts.
2007-01-12 16:27:12 · answer #8 · answered by phamy76 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I asked my mother about and I started when I was 11. I think it's something that should be brought up and discussed around 6th grade though.
2007-01-12 16:31:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
my mom wouldn;t let me for ages and i was so mad at her, my daughter is 9 now and I am waiting for her to either bring it up to me or when I notice the hair on her legs getting darker and thicker to bring it up to her.
2007-01-12 16:28:44 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋