I asked a question earlier about a friend who stated so kids on invitation to wedding and most people misinterpeted it to mean that I didnt understand why some people dont want kids at weddings. I competely understand and if I didnt have kids or have many realitives coming from out of town that have kids and cant leave them back at home by themselves I would probably do the same. Anyways, my question now is: Would you be offended or upset if you were having a wedding where kids werent invited and your good friend couldnt make it because she couldnt find daycare? What if that person was in the brial party?
2007-01-12 08:20:23 · 15 answers · asked by Kristin Pregnant with #4 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Oops I meant the invites stated NO kids not SO kids.
2007-01-12 08:22:35 · update #1
What if the day care provider canceled at the last minute?
2007-01-12 08:28:57 · update #2
Offended? No. Disappointed? Yeah, sure.
If I stated no kids on the invitation, and my friend had kids and couldn't find a sitter, I would completely understand.
If that person was important enough to me that I asked them to stand up for me, I would either help to find a sitter for their kids, or reconsider my need for a no-kids wedding.
It's pretty straight forward, really...if they said no kids, they must understand that this will mean some of their adult guests can't make it.
Maybe you could connect with the bride, to find out how many of their guests would have child-care needs. It wouldn't be entirely odd to find a group of teenagers to help take care of the whole group of kids. This would take care of the problem for a lot of people - yourself and the bride included.
If the sitter cancelled at the last minute, and you were in the bridal party, it would be appropriate to go to the wedding, and bring your child. However, it would then be appropriate to leave immediately following the ceremony, and/or photo shoot. I would also suggest that you ask the MOB to help you find another adult who'd be willing to be "in charge" of your child during the ceremony, so that you don't have to deal with the distraction.
2007-01-12 08:30:21 · answer #1 · answered by abfabmom1 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would be very disappointed if one of my friends wasn't able to find daycare for her child in order to attend my wedding. Finding childcare for one night or one day, with several month's advance notice, is not an unreasonably difficult task. Any one of my friends should have a family member, friend, or babysitting service that they could use. And is that person is a member of the bridal party, they should DEFINITELY make the extra effort to find childcare (and it's not as if all the problem would be magically solved if the bride changed the invite to include children, because the mother wouldn't be able to participate in the wedding AND watch her kid at the same time anyway.)
2007-01-12 16:28:32 · answer #2 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No- if the bridesmaids couldnt find daycare, and if someone in the town they were having it knew that- then maybe they could suggest one.
I wouldnt be offended if no children could come. I would think that because many people are informed WELL in advance of weddings that they should be able to find care.
The only problem I would see would be if it were at an out of state wedding. Then I would look around to local area care centers or get recommendations for locals on what to do. I wouldnt just NOT come though.
But if you are part of the bridal party- you knew this WAY far in advance.
2007-01-12 16:26:04 · answer #3 · answered by glorymomof3 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't go to a wedding where kids weren't invited. Kids are part of families, and families get together to celebrate at weddings; it's folly to exclude them. A person in the bridal party with a child would have someone along with her to care for the child. Usually a bridesmaid would be a family member or close friend, so someone there like an auntie or friend would look after the child while the mom is busy. No prob.
2007-01-12 17:30:56 · answer #4 · answered by Lydia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't be upset, but maybe you could help her find someone that could care for the kids while she attended the wedding. Maybe you have a teenage cousin that could watch the children in a hotel room or at your house or parents house that isn't invited either and would rather make some money than stay home.
2007-01-12 23:43:53 · answer #5 · answered by Jenny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I wouldn't be offended at all. We had a couple of family members who chose not to attend because children outside the immediate family were not invited. Their choice had nothing to do with even finding a babysitter and we weren't offended. I would be disappointed however if a member in my bridal party could not attend because she could not find any babysitting arrangments, but not upset. As a bride, I probably will try to assist my bridal party member find babysitting services so she could attend.
2007-01-12 17:07:18 · answer #6 · answered by Veronica W 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What you could do is hire a nanny for the day for people in that situation. If your reception is in a hotel, sometimes the hotel will provide rooms for a reduced rate. The nanny could watch the kids there.
I wouldn't be offended if that was the real reason someone couldn't go to the wedding. Children should come first.
2007-01-12 16:27:17 · answer #7 · answered by oh what a wonderful world... 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would imagine that a person would discuss this with the wedding party long enough in advance that getting a sitter should not be a problem. No children means just that and if that is what the couple has requested then their family and friends should honour and respect these wishes.
2007-01-12 16:27:10 · answer #8 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if i would be offended if they couldn't go because the reason was of my own making but i can see how someone would be mad if it was in the bridal party because I'm sure they would have had enough notice to find SOMEONE! When you say no kids you take a huge risk of many people not coming,
2007-01-12 16:28:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wedding invitations are normally sent at LEAST a month in advance so if someone couldn't find a sitter in that amount of time I would think they didn't really want to come to the wedding anyway. If the person was in the bridal party and couldn't find a sitter...they would have months to find one so I don't buy it.
2007-01-12 16:26:01 · answer #10 · answered by lonestar 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋