I might go in the Army and she wants to go in the Air Force. Can it work? We're ok with the long distance thing.
2007-01-12 08:16:56 · 15 answers · asked by J 2 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
Never say never, but it is highly unlikely that such a situation would work out.
If you really feel that she is the "one" and she feels the same about you, and you desire a life with her, maybe you should reconsider your priorities/options.
Best of Luck to you Both!!!
2007-01-12 08:27:11 · answer #1 · answered by Rahab 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you guys? How long have you been dating? Not to sound insulting but if you are just straight out of high school i dont see how your relationship could last. If you are a 20 something couple thats been together for a few years yeah, it stands a chance of working out. You have to realize that there will be long periods of time when you two wont be able to be together. Especially within the first year and also if either of you gets deployed to Iraq, that could be another year you could go without seeing each other.
Will it work out? Only time would tell. Nobody knows for certain.
2007-01-12 08:37:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you get married the Army and Air Force will try to station the two of you near each other. There are plenty of Army and Air Force bases that are even co-located such as Pope AFB and Ft. Bragg.
2007-01-12 08:35:34 · answer #3 · answered by Yak Rider 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sure that this is not the answer you want to hear, but I agree with everyone who said no.
If you are she meets someone else, it will be so much more painful to get the 'dear john phone call' if you have been keeping up your end of the bargin.
With all of the changes that you both will be in store for, why not just be friends and see what happens after the first enlistment (for both of you) ends.
If one of you decides that they dont like it, one could stay in and the other could make it a career.
If it was meant to be, marry her then but for now while you are both young, why not just be friends and enjoy all of the new experiences that you both are going to have.
2007-01-12 08:31:41 · answer #4 · answered by onestepbeyond 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both your girlfriend and yourself will have to decide if you both are willing to put everything second, including your relationship, in order to serve. You will only set yourselves up to fail if you believe you can be committed 100% to both. Especially with both just beginning military life.
If you plan to make a go of it, I would suggest staggering your enlistment dates so you can be of support and encouragement to each other during boot camp.
Oh, and one more thing...all these "she's gonna cheat on you" answers are BS. If that's a concern, it would be evident now. Is she going to have friends that are male? Absolutely. Are you going to have close friendships with females? Of course. A big part of being in the military is counting on others to do their jobs that just might save your life. No one can build a wall around themselves because they can't be seen talking or hanging out with the opposite sex. A woman may have to instruct you on how to fire on the enemy in a muddy trench. A man may have to strip off fire gear from your girlfriend during a fuel spill drill. Either one of you may run into a recruit from your home state during boot, and will welcome just the chance to shoot the breeze with someone from home.
The odds may be agaisnt you, but you are thinking as an honorable man. Asking this question now shows courage, and awareness of what the future may hold.
I'm a bit biased, but have you thought about the Navy? Aviation could be a common thread in your careers...
2007-01-12 10:59:27 · answer #5 · answered by navymom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one is OK with long distance indefinately. You are going to have to decide what you really want. Either get married so the service will recognize it-and go in the same branch. Or only one goes in. Or give it up.
2007-01-12 08:27:15 · answer #6 · answered by Alex 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, not if your not married and stationed together. I would not worry about though i have been through it. My only piece of advice is to break up before you go it is much easier to deal with. If you just make the decision to break it off. If you wait to see what happens you are setting your self up for heart break.
Your gonna do allot of push-ups for Jody. There is a good reason for it.
2007-01-12 08:26:36 · answer #7 · answered by nick w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're married, it's called Joint Domicile, where the military will do it's best to get you stationed close to each other.
2007-01-12 11:12:43 · answer #8 · answered by The Tin Man 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The odds are already against you if only ONE of you enlists. If both enlist you have no realistic chance.
2007-01-12 08:27:59 · answer #9 · answered by Mike J 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Technically yes it CAN work, but it would be very hard on both of you.
2007-01-12 08:25:48 · answer #10 · answered by TiffanyFM 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋