Why do 99.9% of women complain that guys don't listen or aren't sensitive enough, or don't care about your wants and needs, but yet it seems like you don't pay attention to what guys want out of a relationship (ie time alone after work or time with friends)? What's up? Not angry, just curious.
2007-01-12 08:16:27 · 29 answers · asked by H.B.K. 2 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You're right in some respects in that women do (sometimes) overlook mens other needs. I guess I complain because it seems that I (try) to meet his needs in feeding him, doing his laundry, running the house and even sex. I do give him alone time, his Sirius radio, time for his car but I will admit, I hate when he goes out with the guys. I guess maybe I am somewhat resentful because I can't out with the girls. Instead, I am home with the kids wishing I could be out. I will admit, he doesn't get out enough and I should be more sensitive to the fact that men need "male bonding." Thanks for pointing that out to me!!
2007-01-12 08:24:07 · answer #1 · answered by Teddy Bear 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This seems like a loaded question. Just so you know...
Once you've worked out your personal issues with this (and I'm guessing this is the source of your inquiry) and can ask it in a fair way, you might get a bit more response with some invaluable insight.
Try reviewing your question and restructuring it so that you can ask from a neutral place that doesn't seem so accusatory.
And know that using "but" (in any phrase or sentence) implies a contingency... more times than not, "and" is just as appropriate.
2007-01-12 08:24:58 · answer #2 · answered by freckleface 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well thats because most guys don't show their love for their girl (as in like hugging and caring when she's to saying something) and girls just want that and most of them understand that they like to go out with their friends and stuff but some feel like the guys are just trying to get away from home
2007-01-12 08:22:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I wouldn't want to spend time with my man either after I come home from work. I need some me time so I understand. But sometimes a girl just likes the attention from her man. So you need to take that into consideration as well
2007-01-12 08:22:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You want time to be alone and time to be with your friends and you want to be in a relationship too? Being in a relationship means becoming a couple, doing things together, spending your time with each other. Sounds to me like you would rather be on your own than in a relationship.
2007-01-12 08:21:36 · answer #5 · answered by redbird 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
haha, well i guess im part of that .1 percent, because i realize guys have different feelings about different things, i can't expect him to sympathise with everything i say!! guys probably don't even listen to half i say, and i know it because i talk way too much!!
both men and women make mistakes... i don't think some women see that she can't be the ONLY thing in his life. they feel like they should be sometimes. other times, they just want to be with the guy, and theres nothing wrong with that, is there?
2007-01-12 08:25:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's a very good question. I guess it depends on maturity level. Women understand that, "girls" don't. It seems that when you're young, you want to spend every waking minute with your boyfriend. Not so when you get older. Sometimes we wish you WOULD go out with your friends! It also depends on whether you are secure in your relationship.
2007-01-12 08:22:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
A communication or trust problem, maybe. Men and women see things (and hear) much differently. I sometimes think men are hardwired not to be as good of listeners (sorry men, just comparing to women), and I think a lot of the time women are hardwired to maybe be a little jealous of how men spend their time as men can seem a little more carefree with it (sorry us, just comparing to men). That's just my theory from experience.
2007-01-12 08:26:26 · answer #8 · answered by live75 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because we feel like if we give up our time with our friends to be with our man then he should be able to do the same. I don't mind my man to hang out with his friends but when he makes that a priority then that becomes a problem. Also some women are just insecure about what it is you and your friends do when she isn't around.
2007-01-12 08:22:04 · answer #9 · answered by cHiKiBaBe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Compromise is the key listening is a small thing being sensitive is becoming useless after compromise is set in place then the rest follows.
2007-01-12 08:21:23 · answer #10 · answered by FASHION*DIVA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋