WHEN I WAS 16, MY MOTHER AND OLDER SISTER DIED IN A CAR ACCIDENT. I WAS THE ONLY SURVIVER. I WENT THROUGH YEARS OF DEPRESSION AND VIOLENT BEHAVIOR SITUATIONS. I MISS THEM VERY MUSH. WHY DID IT HAVE TO HAPPEN?
2007-01-12 08:15:34 · 27 answers · asked by JENELLTHUNDER26 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I believe everything happens for a reason. Sorry to say, I know this is not very consoling. I went through the same thing when I lost my dad. I highly reccommend counseling and remember. They are not suffering and are in a much better place. Try to focus on the good in your future and not the bad in your past. Good luck and God bless.
2007-01-12 08:20:23 · answer #1 · answered by Terry M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Everything happens for a reason.
If your mother and older sister were alive now would they want you to have violent thoughts and go through depression? No. They want you to be happy. They're always watching over you. Though the ones we love might be gone physically from the world, they remain alive in our hearts and thats what matters.
2007-01-12 08:21:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you think they would like to see you so traumatised and guilt ridden?
Of course not,that would be unbearable for them.
Its natural that you miss them,but knowing that they are with your God means they still live.
This is so hard for all of us to understand and rationalise.Its best to not even try.
If you have faith you must have trust.
They will always live in you heart,nothing can alter those memories,cherish the time you had together.
I would suggest you have some grief counselling,for you have some deep issues to confront and make peace with.
Time and faith in your God will help heal the raw wounds still hurting you,but never remove the scars.
I'm sure you would tell me something similar,if it was I who asked this question,so obviously in pain.
As humans it is easier to give advise,than to apply it to our own lives.Why I don't know!
Keep faith that the road of life will get less rocky,even if on some days it seems to never change.
Know you are in others thoughts,and your God is there for you 24/7.
2007-01-12 09:07:35 · answer #3 · answered by sistablu...Maat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry that this happened to you and that you've gone through all this pain. Terrible things can happen in life, I know, but I think that rather than thinking about why it happened it may be better to think about what can happen now...with you.
Grief can be so hard to deal with and you are still grieving it sounds like. Getting stuck on the "whys" can keep you stuck in the pain so it may be helpful if you think about what your mom and sister would want for you now. Would they want for you to be leading a happy, healthy life? Sure they would.
The sadness of their loss will always be there but things can get better and life is filled with positive possibilities. Just try to remember this :)
2007-01-12 08:33:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a websight called "Grief Recovery".
Please go on there. Those people know what you're feeling and will try to help. And in time, perhaps you will be able to help others.
You are no doubt feeling all kinds of things, perhaps even guilt that you did not die. Guilt is a very common part of grieving.
There is a reason why you survived. Only time will tell why.
Bless you.
2007-01-12 08:55:15 · answer #5 · answered by concernedjean 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because life is mean like that...my dad died when I was 14 and I wished it were me a lot of the time. You won't stop missing them and it hurts. Some days are better than others. I don't know why it has to happen...i don't think anyone will ever really know the answer
2007-01-12 08:20:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Bad thing happen all the time. Why did my mother, father and sister all have to die, too? It's something you have to grief over and get over. Violent behavior does absolutely nothing and certainly doesn't help you feel better and won't bring them back.
2007-01-12 08:21:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
When I was 2 my sister, my cousin, my moms friend, and my great grandmother died in a car accident. My mom, dad, my other sister and myself survived.
Things happen. It is tough and not easy to deal with. It has brought many problems in my family's life but I still have to find a way to keep going on.
2007-01-12 08:37:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
everything happens for a reason and I think it was to make you a stronger person in the long run so next time you will be able to handle it better. Its okey to miss them thats a good thing. Its showing that you cared and loved them very much. I think maybe they died so that they never have to leave you. Now they are your guardian angels. Know that everytime you see a butterfly its them saying Hello!
2007-01-12 08:23:35 · answer #9 · answered by Skylight 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
To make you a stronger person - there are so many things that you will have to handle without the help and assistance of your mother and sister, but that makes you stronger for continuing on despite your depression. Even if you don't realize it, you are stronger for having endured!
2007-01-12 08:22:40 · answer #10 · answered by ckgusto 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋