The last few days have been so painful. I sometimes almost expect my now exboyfriend to call me in the middle of the night like he used to. But now I have to deal with the fact he is never going to be able to call me. He's in jail, and I don't think he's ever getting out. I have quit smiling, can't sleep, can't hardly eat. My kids just seem to get on my nerves, when they are doing nothing but being the wonderful kids they are. I don't want to feel this way any more. How can I stop being so dpressed? I love him, and I'm having a hard time moving on. What should I do?
2007-01-12 08:06:48 · 16 answers · asked by trisha_r_c 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't judge me for that...he presented himself as a really good guy. If i had known what he was capable of, i would have never got involved.
2007-01-12 08:11:18 · update #1
someone that is in jail u dont need to be with, I bet u are a good person and your kids need u so just do u and time will past and u may find that right person..
2007-01-12 08:12:00 · answer #1 · answered by shorty21 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are a lot of things you could try right now...
yes, you might want to consider counseling. Or you could go to your doc and try some antidepressants. Just long enough to get you through this time. Exercise will help to improve your mood. Go work out. Get out in the SUN, get out of the house. Lean on freinds and family. Go out and spend time doing some things with them. Since your kids are getting on your nerves, get a sitter if they're young and go spend some time with adults. You might need some more mourning time first, but the best way to forget about this guy will be to meet a new guy that you like. So you're going to need to start looking for a BETTER guy that's single and well, not in jail.
2007-01-12 16:22:17 · answer #2 · answered by L T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im an ex-con, so...if you think that you're depressed how do you think he feels right now? no disrespect ms., i understand you feel bad too but this man is in a cage for whatever reason(all of which are stupid) you say possibly life. the only thing a man has in jail is his girl. true indeed you miss your mother, father, children hurt just as bad. but what keeps you from going over the edge is your girl. to keep it honest the border between hetero and homo lies with the fantasies, letters, memories, and pictures of your girl. it may seem funny or i may not be taken seriously, but how you fell is NOTHING compared to what this man is about to endure...or not. so..if you feel bad, you know you're not waiting for him. your mind's made up about that. get over it. find a new man, do a background check or something if potential cons aren't a thing you're into. Hell if you can pull a con you can probably snag a rapper... : /
2007-01-12 16:19:38 · answer #3 · answered by king.8307 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you can stop yourself from being depressed about it. Ending your relationship was your choice your kids had nothing to do with it. I know plenty of people who have relationships with an incarcerated partner marry an incarcerated partner. It may not be my relationship or another person's relationship, but if you really love him you hang through the appeal process you hang through probation hearing all of that. If you hung in there when he was out in the street doing wrong(depending on what he is accused of) then hang in there while he is doing time.If you feel you can't walk away knowing it was your choice. By the way I don't mean to sound harsh I really am sorry you are going through it
2007-01-12 16:50:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweetheart, you must move on, you must learn to forget, life goes on. if he is in jail, then he was not the right one for you, maybe that was the best thing to happen to you. go out, get your hair fixed, nail done and watch the men fall over their feet for you, pick and choose, soon you will forget and find the life is much better,do not ever neglect your kids for no man,get into a good church where you can meet new friends
2007-01-12 16:17:57 · answer #5 · answered by ztar1462 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl move on if this man is in jail for a while there isnt anything you can do except be a friend to him. You kids deserver the time and energy that you are giving this man they dont deserve to be mistreated. You man messed up his life dont let him mess up yours. You can write him and accept his call but thats all you can do. I know its hard to move on and you miss being with him but you have your kids that are there with you dont miss out on being with them.
2007-01-12 16:13:11 · answer #6 · answered by justturning40 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It very much sounds as though you need some help in the form of counseling. First to recover and second to figure out why you were leaning on the wind (in the form of a guy who went to jail).
2007-01-12 16:10:37 · answer #7 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it all dependes if he comited a crime and is in the jail for right or if he was convicted wrongly,but as you said :"He's in jail, and I don't think he's ever getting out."i think that the only solution is to go out,or attleast try and meet some people or ask you friend to come over and give you company.
2007-01-12 16:11:48 · answer #8 · answered by Kety 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
omg dont listen to him. i think if u are that depresed u need to get medical help. go see a therapist. that is the ebst advise i can give u. why is he in jail?
2007-01-12 16:12:02 · answer #9 · answered by Blondie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You obviously have good taste in men if your boyfriend went to jail for life. Bravo.
2007-01-12 16:10:14 · answer #10 · answered by Fire_God_69 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋