he's never i around anymore, i hardly talk to him or even see him, he says that he still loves me but that i will never understand that he just really emjoys hanging out with his friends. He tells me he doesn't want to break up, but I feel like he doesn't care for me like before. I mean he doesn't even really come around to get laid anymore, because he is always with his friends......what should i do?
2007-01-12 07:52:08 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would says it's time to move on. It seems like he doesn't have the balls to break up with you and is waiting for you to do it.
2007-01-12 07:57:45 · answer #1 · answered by sydb1967 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Isabel I'm really sorry about your boyfriends behaviour and I dont think its acceptable. I would personally start going out myself with my friends and enjoying myself and If it were me I would tell him when he calls that perhaps you both need some space and should break up for a period of time because as things stand hes out enjoying himself and your sitting there wondering what is going on.
You dont know whether he is with someone or not but its funny hes not asking you to sleep with him anymore. You run the risk of losing him by doing this but at least he will see you have your pride. At the moment hes not taking you seriously enough.
If you dont want a trial seperation make a stand on something, let him know he cant walk on you.
2007-01-12 16:04:59 · answer #2 · answered by Sam k 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you hardly do see him much anymore, then you have to get his full attention and tell him that you need attention and that if things don't swtich soon, you will make a change. If he really does love you, he will have to make time to spend with you and not with his friends. ask yourself these questions also:
Does his friends respect you, and like you dating him?
Are you sure you can trust his friends?
Answer these questions over time, and if they don't like you, chances are they will try and get him away from you. Be warned about this... because there were several of my friends trying to make me break up with my first, just because she was very possessive, but I enjoyed it. Although she may be my ex now, it's hard to see her as my friend anymore, because she is trying the whole guilt trip deal on me, which isn't working at all.
I give you full luck!!!
2007-01-12 16:00:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but he's over you. Move on. No use hanging around waiting for him to call. Some guys will just a gal on the line so that they have someone to see if they get bored. Sorry, but that sounds like the case here. Maybe if you find someone new, it will wake him up! If it doesn't, then you're better off anyway and you're seeing a new guy!
2007-01-12 15:59:42 · answer #4 · answered by Little Red Hen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of him and find a man that likes to hang out with you more. It would appear he is dating you just to have "a girlfriend" and not wanting to put time into the relationship. Talk with him, develop a plan to meet your needs, and once he doesn't follow through, because he probably is passive aggressive, dump him.
2007-01-12 15:57:25 · answer #5 · answered by laotzuistruth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is sleeping with his friends. I would leave him and find someone who wants to spend time with you don't let him come and go as he pleases that's not an equal or fair relationship. As soon as you want to break up he will come crawling back and if he doesn't then it wasn't worth your time you deserve someone who wants to spend tome with you
2007-01-12 16:01:44 · answer #6 · answered by Jen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Until you mentioned the not wanting to get laid part. I, was thinking that u were just another wacked chick, who felt she was'nt getting the attention that she deserved. I was wrong .I apologize.
Have you asked him which one of his Buddy's he's sleeping with??????
2007-01-12 16:04:31 · answer #7 · answered by wedged15 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not even for sex?!?!? RED FLAG. not many guys go celibate outta the blue for no reason. if he's not getting it from you, he has to be getting it from somewhere. sorry to put bad ideas in yuor mind, but you said it yourself- I feel like he doesn't care for me like before. always trust your gut. maybe he wants you as your "side chick" so he can have a rebound if something doesnt go ok with another girl- just let him go
2007-01-12 15:57:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's cheating on you. Leave his ***. Those are the most telling signs that he's cheating. The best thing to do is cut your losses and get the hell away from him before he drags you down.
2007-01-12 15:57:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if i where you i would find someone new. Sounds like he's found someone else to share his time with. He doesn't want to lose you because he can call you for convenience. Find someone who is going to appreciate you and want to be with you most of the time.
2007-01-12 15:57:25 · answer #10 · answered by ivonne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋