my boyfriend is constantly watching porn and sneaks around to masterbate while doing so..... hes been caught in the act so many times but when questioned he says its just a guy thing that its nothing against me.....should i believe him or should i feel threatend by this obnoxious discovery?
2007-01-12 07:40:54 · 35 answers · asked by rebecca t 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't even know where to begin. I have been in the same situation. My ex boyfriend would look at porn constantly. It became a problem in our relationship. Eventually we were only having sex once a month, but somehow 10 porns a month would come up on our cable bill, and I would find porn loaded on our computer. If it gets in the way of your sex life like it did mine, then its a problem. There is nothing wrong with feeling like its degrading you for him to do that. Because technically, he IS degrading you. Thats wrong....you should tell him how it makes you feel, who knows, he might be understanding or admit he has a problem. Either way, don't let this go on if it makes you uncomfortable or stressed out, its unhealthy. He's obviously looking out for his needs, so you should look out for yours. Best of luck girl! And remember, you aren't alone on this :)
2007-01-12 07:45:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Let the man watch porn. Its a natural thing he should have to sneak around to watch porn. He is right it is natural but if you treat him as if he is doing something wrong no you should feel threaten watch some movies with him. The movies get him excited its better than seeking the pleasure of another let him have his enjoyment. Many men masturbate often. I have a very active sex life and a high sex drive but I still enjoy stimulating myself and so does my boyfriend. I know he does it often and sometimes I tell him to so the sex will last longer
2007-01-12 07:56:37 · answer #2 · answered by justturning40 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
let the man enjoy his porn. as long as it is not taking the place of your sexual life, it's ok. may be from time to time you should be a porn queen for him. dress up hussy like, put on some lace and pull out a nice toy and both of you snaze it up!!!! it's not disgusting to masterbate and maybe you should start enjoying the same for yourself -- it's very yummy.
2007-01-12 07:45:10 · answer #3 · answered by Faerie Girl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are not the first one to ask that kind of question, and yes it definitely is a guy thing. As long as you are not put aside and you 2 still get intimate, there is nothing wrong with that. Relax and enjoy your time with him.
2007-01-12 07:44:09 · answer #4 · answered by amarilysusa 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is perfectly normal for men to look at pornography and masturbate. As long as he doesn't start spending more time on the porn than he does with you, its fine. Sometimes, masturbation is comforting for men and women. It isn't necessarily about not finding your partner attractive. In fact, this is rarely the case. As long as he realizes that the women in the mags spent hours in one position to look polished, and is faithful to you, what are you worried about? It is only fantasy...nothing more.
2007-01-12 07:50:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is only a problem if it bothers you, which it sounds like it kinda does. I know some pron, etc IS a guy thing, but you said constantly, and I don't think that's normal. I'd be pretty skeeved out by it. I know my BF doesn't watch it, but I know he gets Playboy, and we both read it. It depends on your level of comfort with things.
2007-01-12 07:47:41 · answer #6 · answered by melouofs 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would have to say it's a guy thing. Masturbating quick and painless to them, my husband still looks at porn. LOL I says it better to look at it then worry about him going out to a strip club or out looking for other girls. They sometimes do it when they don't want to do the extra work to feel pleasure.
2007-01-12 07:46:09 · answer #7 · answered by VMG 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's one thing if your boyfriend is watching porn, And then it's diffrent when he is masterbaiting to it. Guys usally do this when they aren't getting enough sex. And yes it is a guy thing. But men with a good sex life DO NOT DO THAT !!!!! So it could be based on your relationship. Talk to him, and see what he thinks.
2007-01-12 07:45:19 · answer #8 · answered by brandon c 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him that it is alright to masterbate but don't hide it from u. tell him that u r in this together not just him. tell him u love him if u haven't and do more stuff like go to the movies or do other things.
2007-01-12 07:49:52 · answer #9 · answered by Angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
um, i think it's ok if he jacks off every now and then, but definitely not more than once a day. even that much is a lot. as for the porn, he should not need it if he has you. talk to him about it and tell him how you feel
2007-01-12 07:49:34 · answer #10 · answered by Konrad 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋