My boyfriend and I have been dating for 3 years now. Over the 3 years I moved in with him and started working for him (he pays me alot). Over the past year he has become very controlling, posessive, and jealous. I haved talked to him about it and he doesn' seem to change. He wants us to be together 24/7. I want to break up with him, but if I do I know he will kick me out of the house and fire me right away. What should I do?
2007-01-12 07:40:11 · 9 answers · asked by nicolejer 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Take your chances honey.....stick in there for a little while and then save up enough money to get your own place for a couple of months, then find a new job, then a new boyfriend.
2007-01-12 07:43:23 · answer #1 · answered by Cathy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Abusive relationships are NEVER ok. Here is one idea, and how helpful this is all depends on you, because everyone is a little different.
You can always find a new job. Start saving money (without telling him) so that you will have a nest egg to fall back on when you leave him. Dont alert him again that you will be leaving so you dont have to worry about having him get violent. Have a network to fall back on as well... tell someone your situation! It may seem embarassing, but usually people are very understanding in these situations. Just because he has not physically abused you doesnt mean he wont! He could get violent very quickly. Know the warning signs, and if you EVER fear for your saftey, call 911 IMMEDIATELY!
Also check out http://www.edvp.org for more information!
2007-01-12 07:50:50 · answer #2 · answered by liebedich85 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That job and house must be pretty awesome.!?!?! Are the job and house really that important to you? Line up your priorities. If he is controlling now he will only get worse. You can always find another job and move in with a friend temporarily.
2007-01-12 07:47:37 · answer #3 · answered by krazyc122 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lift your head up high and drag that case!!!! It will be hard no denying that, but hey girl you'll have your pride. Believe me do it while you still can because your future is reading of a wife and mum in under 5 years and then it gets harder. View the future as a challenge because it s easier to leave now! x
2007-01-12 07:48:55 · answer #4 · answered by piewhacketpiewhacket 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop being stupuid, and either go move back in with a parent(s), family memeber and friend, so if he does kick you out you are somewhere to go. Talk to them first to see if it is ok to move there. Two, go find another job so when he fires you, you already have something lined up.
2007-01-12 07:44:41 · answer #5 · answered by PeachN 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start looking for another job. Save some of your money. Then break up with him.
2007-01-12 07:53:18 · answer #6 · answered by sylvia j 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get help...look at tyler perrys videos
madea says if you tell the bf ill call the police and he says idc...then you kno wat type of man u got...but if he says oh dont do that..then walk out...
and if he starts to abuse you...pour oatmeal on his face..or hit him with the nearest item
but really...i think you should get out of this before he starts to be agressive...get help from family and friends
2007-01-12 07:50:08 · answer #7 · answered by Loni 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's abusive than move back home
2007-01-12 07:43:31 · answer #8 · answered by Monet 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
start looking for a new job.
2007-01-12 08:03:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋