lately me and my boyfriend have hardly had any time alone together because my sister is ALWAYS there. they just started college, and they have almost every class together. i'm still a senior in high school, so of course i feel a little left out by this. so my sister gets to spend half the day with my boyfriend, and when they come back home, we end up staying at my house. but my sister is alwaysssss right there, hanging out with us. it's like the only time we get alone is when we're having sex. other than that, she's there. i'm okay with all of us hanging out, but lately i've just been irritated that it's like my sister gets to spend more time with my boyfriend than me. i talked to him about this last night, and he said we can spend more time alone and everything, but i still feel irritated by my sister. i don't like that they're in the same classes because she gets to be with him while i don't. what can i do to stop feeling this way? i want to be more understanding about it
2007-01-12 07:31:33 · 10 answers · asked by Jenniferrr 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hi Jenniferr!
I'll never forget what it was like when my boyfriend was in college and I was still a senior in high school. I knew that college students share some kind of common bond/experience that I was too young to know about.
You're probably less annoyed about the time, and more annoyed that they're "on the same playing field" now that they're sharing the college experience.
Now that you've said something to your boyfriend, how about saying something to you sister? She probably thinks you're cool with it since you haven't said anything. By saying something, you give her a chance to make it right and respect what you want from your relationship with your boyfriend.
Good luck!
2007-01-12 07:56:58 · answer #1 · answered by hbond2000 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To have a relationship grow you need more time together than just having sex. That's important to and fun, but it not what a relationship is all about.
You've addressed the situation already to your boyfriend, but you can take different initiatives as well. When he arrives, asked him to go out for a drink. If your sister says she wants to come with, just tell her you both want some time of your own, since he is your boyfriend and I guess she understand that. If not tell her she will once she has a boyfriend of her own.
Make moves to get where you want to take and don't just complain, take action.
Good luck!!
2007-01-12 16:30:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your sister about this. Tell her you are feeling like you have to share your boyfriend so you would really like more alone time with him. If she doesn't get the hint to hit the curb while you guys are at home plans activities just for you and him....like going to the movies, walking around, shopping, or just having a couples night in. Making it clear to her it is a COUPLES night in.
2007-01-12 15:37:19 · answer #3 · answered by prettyblueeyes101010 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello
speak to your sister and let her know how you feel, also let her know that while you appreciate her company you would like to spend some time a lone with your boyfriend when they aren't taking classes.
Communicate your true feelings and if nothing comes of it you will know how to proceed next. Your sister might be more understanding of how this makes you feel, afterall she is your sister.
2007-01-12 15:39:03 · answer #4 · answered by dymps 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well i can guess 3 options r here :
1) Say nicely 2 ur sister u r all day at school with him i need be alone sometimes with him "nicely" so wont hurt ur sister 2
2) Find 2 urs sister a bf
ok i forgot last one there are 2 think so
2007-01-12 15:39:33 · answer #5 · answered by Berat I 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your sister. Let her know that she needs to leave the two of you alone because you want to spend some time with your BF.
2007-01-12 15:36:42 · answer #6 · answered by Developing Minds 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
simple.. tell your sister that when he comes over you want to spend time with him ALONE.. if shes in college she will understand. or maybe you guys can hang out at his place. and in regards to the class schedule you cant do anything about that.
2007-01-12 15:36:24 · answer #7 · answered by godisamor 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll have to grow up and get over it - there's nothing you can do about the two of them having classes together. Just remember that you are the one having sex with him.
2007-01-12 15:36:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm getting the impression that maybe your sis is into this guy too...maybe you should confide in her, tell her calmly how you feel and if she really cares, she'll understand and probably didn't recognise that her presence is 'annoying.' on an extra note, don't let any guy come between you and your sister.
2007-01-12 15:38:33 · answer #9 · answered by shine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do what u feel
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2007-01-12 15:38:44 · answer #10 · answered by mr johnson 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋