I'm 20 years old and have been having problems at home, just getting along with my parents and stuff..they sort of want me to move out. Anyway, my boyfriend is in Japan and we've been together for 3 years (he's in the Navy) and his mom lives real close to me, and her and I are like two peas in a pod. I was thinking about asking her if I can stay with her for a while..how do I ask? I'm afraid of her saying no.
2007-01-12 07:27:57 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
By the way, I moved out already when I was 18 and had to move back home. My boyfriend thinks its an awesome idea for me to live w/his mom
2007-01-12 07:36:58 · update #1
just ask her. i mean if she says no you are not really any worst off then you are now. good luck
2007-01-12 07:31:18 · answer #1 · answered by mrs. smutty aka sodachix 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is great that you have such a good relationship with your boyfriend's mother. But I think that you need to resolve the problems you have with your own parents. Then deal with the situation of moving out maturely, by moving out with your boyfriend or on your own.
I don't think it is a good idea to live with a significant others family. I have never seen that kind of situation turn out in any ones favor.
Besides you are 20 don't you have financial plans or goals. If not make some they are a great place to a scary new exciting world ahead of you.
Good luck to you in any decision you make.
2007-01-12 07:38:18 · answer #2 · answered by David H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not pitiful to live at home at 20 years old. Every situation is different. You should let her know your situation. Give her a length of time you're interested in staying. Find a decent job and look into moving out.
2007-01-12 07:33:33 · answer #3 · answered by Alice M. Ayres 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Need info - are you working? going to school? Why do your parents want you out? Are you getting into trouble, breaking their rules?
Moving in with BF's mom sounds like a quick fix....but if you have behavior issues, she will be asking you to leave soon just like your parents. Talk to BF's mother let her know what is going on, becuz BF is away she may want company, maybe when BF comes back you 2 can get a place.
good luck
2007-01-12 07:53:04 · answer #4 · answered by JustMe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes we tend to look for the easy way. Though it would be nicer for you to live with your boyfriends mother and probably a lot less stressful, eventually you would feel guilty about what you are doing to your parents. Try to sit down and talk with both or even just one and explain how you are feeling. Good luck.
2007-01-12 07:32:40 · answer #5 · answered by college girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just mention to her that you are thinking of moving out because there is too much stress at home & see if she offers you a spot.If not,,find a studio apartment somewhere & if you find a decent roommate,,you can then move to a bigger place.Good luck.
2007-01-12 07:32:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No...I wouldn't move in with my boyfriends mom. Just hold out and stay at home or move in with friends or get your own place.
2007-01-12 07:59:33 · answer #7 · answered by ▒Яenée▒ 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your parents are done caregiving. It is time to move on. They will still be your parents. They will still love you. They may respect you more if you are on your own.
I would rather chew on my eyes than live with my mother-in-law but if you have a good relationship, embrace it.
2007-01-12 07:41:52 · answer #8 · answered by Culture Warrior 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain your situation and hope for the best. The worst that could happen is she could say no. It never hurts to ask. Good luck.
2007-01-12 07:32:12 · answer #9 · answered by LISA F 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
most kids what to move out why don,y you offer her rent that will change her mind, as they say money talks, but maybe she wan,t you to know how to be independent so if your boyfriend bracks up you can take care if your self, so that,s two ways at looking at it.
2007-01-12 07:35:02 · answer #10 · answered by i,m here if you need to talk. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont be afraid of a bad answer. If she does say no, everything will be the same as it has... [you being stuck at home]
2007-01-12 07:31:59 · answer #11 · answered by Emily S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋