Any advice on what she is thinking? When should I make my move?

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For background please check out my resolved question http://uk.answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=Aj92r.yNYoaycuu5zaIXZRIgBgx.?qid=20061230154044AAnj0k8
Anyway I was chatting to the girl I like at work during this week. She flirted with me a little at various different times. In my old question I explained how I asked her out and she responded by saying she was sorry that she has a bf, but that I am lovely, she thinks I'm brilliant and she is so glad she met me. Well I heard through the grapevine that things were not goin well with her bf. I was sitting beside her and another girl at lunch. The girl I like talked for 15mins about how much she dislikes her bf, that he is coming back from a trip abroad in 2 days time and she is cringing an the thought of having to meet him. She said she is goin to dump him and that some of the things he has said to her makes her want to be physically sick. I was gobsmacked to hear her talking about her bf like this. I never ask her about

him as I do not want to disappear. I didnt join in in slagging him off. I just sat back and listened. I figured she would never talk about him like that in front of me. This was the reason she said she cant go out with me. So if she was not interested in me she would pretend things are fine or ok between the both of them, right? What message do you think she is trying to tel me.

I talked to a few guy friends who know us both. They think something is definitely going on between us. We al arent sure if the girl knows what she wants though. My mate said he doesnt know what advice to give me. First he says she is giving me signals and that I should make a move cos if she does finish him she wont be single for long as she is a really hot girl. On the other hand maybe she needs some space and I will mess it up if I rush in to early. Any advice please?

Thanks

Answer 1

be careful i have had friends that are guys and i broke there hearts, sometimes just because you like someone doesn't mena they will go to you if they break up remember you deserve happiness if she's not with you then find someone who deserves you

Answer 2

Dear I'll Wait to See
1st. If she says she has a bf. send up a red-flag.
Sometimes women like men A. as a co-worker friend
B. Some-one to hang out with
C. Boy-Friend Destracter
D. Mate
You should wait to see what she is going to do with him. In the mean time be nice but keep your distance. If you crowd her you might lose her. In the mean-time listen to the likes and dis-likes and use them in your favor. In all this will buy you time to really see if this is who you want. Sometime the eye see something that looks very good to-day but in a week that certain Lust has made a left turn and that Lust turns into friend-ship. But then friendship can turn into Love. Slow down, remember even though she is speaking against her bf she is still with him Hummmmmmmmmm.

Answer 3

I'm not sure wheter this is a message to you or not. She might just think of you as a good friend/collegue, and she doesn't mind talking about her bf in front of you.
But!
There is only one way to find out. You know it yourself. Wait a couple of days, until her bf is back and she can sort things out with him, and since she spoke about her bf in front of you, you can mention it, and ask how it's going with him. If she says it's good or that they are still together despite the problems they are having then you have to find another girl without a bf. If she tells you it's over, you can ask for a date, but she may still say no, cause she might be just happy to be free, and wont want to date for a while.

Answer 4

By talking about her bf in front of you she may see you only as a friend. Thats obviously not good.

I may be wrong of course so I if you're so keen yourself you might as well just wade in and ask her out. Just offer her your point of view as a member of the opposite sex, say you're there for her if she needs anything. Try o get a close on the date and when you get her out then obviously you can see how the land lies and weather she's interested in you or just whining about her bf.

As for conversation I'd actually stay off her bf as a subject, make her laugh a lot and charm her silly.

Have fun!

Answer 5

Hm... so if you're really sure that she WANTED you to hear her griping about her boyfriend, then she's prob'ly expecting you to be there for her after she breaks up with him. She might want you to comfort her- she might just want to talk about things. You never know. The only thing you can do is just kind of "hang around" (not to the point where you look pathetic) and be there for her if she needs you. If she sees that you're there to comfort you and you care, and not that you just want to get in her pants, then you'll be in a stage where you can "make your move."

Answer 6

at the moment she is going through a difficult time at the moment, because she is thinking the situation with you and with her bf. step back a bit and wait until she seems ready to commit to a relationship. i know u really want to be with her but u should be the bigger person in this situation and let her work things out with her boyfriend.

Answer 7

Leave her a little friendly note with your number on it and tell her to give ya a call if things happen to change for her, but you do wish her the best. then walk away and leave it alone. she'll come to you if you arent too pushy.

Answer 8

ASK HER OUT already jeez shes going to be taken before you know it!

Answer 9

dont try to guess what a women is thinking it will drive you insane

Answer 10

ask her

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