It's been a year & a half since my boyfriend was murdered, & as soon as I move on, i get hurt. I've known him for four day, hes a truck driver & he flagged me down in traffic, just 2 ask4my number, he calls & seems so sweet & sincere. But the thing was I subconscious saw my boyfriend in him. It's like i picked up where my boyfriend & I left off with this new guy. Expectin him 2 be my boyfriend sorta,They were so similar, both of them were older guys (28, Im 19), & both of them were bad-boys turning good.So this four days moved VERY Fast, we were making out in his car & he gave me oral sex. Then he tried to have sex with me but I stopped him before he could penetrate. He didn't seem angry with me at all. But he hasn't called in two days, & when I call him he ignores my call. What gives? He didn't really hit it & quit it, but why is he ignoring my calls? I call him & leave messages asking why he isn't speaking to me? Should I stop calling him?
2007-01-12 07:21:09 · 40 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
how is this his fault?
you need to get over this past of yours and then and only then move on,..treat others as you would want to be treated.
2007-01-12 07:25:54 · answer #1 · answered by iroc 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
A few things to remember. You lost someone special, but you are still very young and life goes on, so you will find someone again. Be patient and don’t confuse infatuation with love. Love takes time and is basically a Friendship on fire. Take things slow when you meet someone. In all honesty, most men will try to move things along to sex as fast as possible, but a truly good man will have far more respect for you if you make him wait. If they say it is ether sex or I’m leaving, then you tell them don’t let the door hit you on the way out. Maintain a high level of respect for yourself and the right man will come along.
Stop calling that guy.
You sound like a sweet young lady and I’m certain you will find the right guy for you. Be patient and I wish you the best.
2007-01-12 07:34:47 · answer #2 · answered by last_of_the_romantic_men 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
By all means you should stop calling him! First of all, don't look at this as anything other than a (Hopefully) fun make-out session...you sound WAY too serious about a 4 day old fling! As far as him ignoring your calls...silly you...he has you hook line and sinker...back off...see if he likes you. If he does, then he'll call. If he doesn't call, well there could be a couple of different reasons. 1. He was looking for a one night stand. 2. You scared him with the why are you ignoring me calls. 3. Is he married? Did you have time to ask?...
Bottom line: DO NOT CALL HIM!!! NOT EVEN TO TELL HIM YOU WON'T BE CALLING!!!
btw: If your still seeing your deceased boyfriend in possible new ones then it sounds to me like you should be moving a lot slower in your encounters...just my opinion.
2007-01-12 07:34:44 · answer #3 · answered by knrsits 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Honey, drop him. I know you're looking around for someone that can fill that hole. Unfortunatley, you'll never really find it. Only time can heal. A lot of time. Trust me, I know what I'm talking about. It's a long road to feeling better, and I am so sorry for your loss. My mother passed away almost one year ago. It'll be a long time before I feel whole again. Good for you on not going too far with this guy. Just remember this, concentrate on YOU, don't rush into anything, and take the time to let yourself heal. Maybe some therapy. It's nothing to be ashamed of, I've had lots. Good luck love.
2007-01-12 07:26:10 · answer #4 · answered by Shannan 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Giving yourself permission to move on does not mean having oral sex with a stranger in his truck. He hasn't called because you didn't have sex with him. This is what he expected when he actually got a phone number from a complete stranger in traffic. Permission to move on means that you meet someone, get to know them, find out what you like about them, and forge a relationship out of shared interests, not being horny. Thank your lucky stars that you weren't beaten, raped, or worse. Meet someone at work, church, school, etc., and good luck in developing a healthy, long term relationship.
2007-01-12 07:32:23 · answer #5 · answered by stseukn 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldnt call him anymore and if your really ready to move on, you shouldnt be comparing new guys to your ex. With every guy you meet, you have a 50% chance of him being an assshole and this guy may be one of them. Perhaps you are moving too soon (only 4 days) Perhaps he didnt seem pissed but come on...its hard to be worked up ready for action and suddenly STOPPED. But you have the right to say no, but not everyone beats to the sound of your drum so you have to deal. Don't call him anymore and make plans to really move on.
2007-01-12 07:27:32 · answer #6 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should stop calling.
Things moved fast cause you where not totally over your ex.
It is a good chance that the new guy was looking only for sex and not a relationship, or he would of called u back by now..
2007-01-12 07:27:35 · answer #7 · answered by Don 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes you should stop calling him!! And shame on you for being so naive! Some guy flagged you down for your number (hello, show a little class), you thought of him as your former boyfriend which quickly progressed the relationship, oral sex and nearly intercourse in 4 days!!!! Hello, girl!!!! He just wanted booty!!! Look at the signs! Move along.
2007-01-12 07:25:45 · answer #8 · answered by crazetastic 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Uh, your problem is he flagged you down in traffic and you gave him your phone number. Ugh. Not smart. When you grow up and deem yourself worth more than this kind of behavior you'll be able to move on.
You have many issues and the death of your boyfriend is only one. Take stock of your life and get it in order. You don't need a man to complete you. You have to do that yourself. Once you do you'll find yourself in a healthy relationship.
2007-01-12 07:23:58 · answer #9 · answered by BlueSea 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You used him, you said he reminded you of your late boyfriend so you moved very fast in just 4 days but then you woke up and realised he's not your boyfriend but a total stranger. When you stopped him after he gave you oral, it was harsh, u led him then dropped him. I think you're the one who hurt him not the other way around.
2007-01-12 07:27:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
first of all why would you give a guy who flagged you down your #. if your comparing your last with the new your prob. not ready. And if he didn't call you back he probably moved on to the next girl he flagged down. One other thing, try going for a guy that isn't a bad boy. bad boy's are nothing but trouble. there are alot of good guy's out there that would love to have a nice girl to spend there time with. good luck hope it works out.
2007-01-12 07:29:47 · answer #11 · answered by erock 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋