I was at the salon i usually go to (im 19 btw),and the owner asked me if i could give this lady and her son a ride home because they couldn't get in touch with the person that was going to give them a ride. so i said ok. and i drove them home and she asked me to come in and have a drink (not alcoholic, just coke lol), so i said ok. and we were talking and looking at her wedding pictures. and her son was adorable, so i said i could SO babysit sometime! I dont think i would've seriously babysat, but i was just making conversation. so we talked some more, and i left her my name and cell number, cuz i thought it was polite? i called my dad and told him what happened, and he was like, you're so stupid to give out your number and go in this strange ladys house. y'all agree?
2007-01-12 07:14:41 · 30 answers · asked by justwondering 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
In this day and age I wouldn't - it's just not safe. Say you got to their home and it was a set up that the salon owner didn't know. The lady could have a sick and abusive husband that forced her to do this. Again, ya never know.
I would have simply told the salon keeper that they'll need to call a cab as you have another place to go to and don't have time to give rides.
I don't recommend giving out your personal info. It's always better to take someones info they want to give. This leaves you wtih the 'power' to decide if you want to associate with them.
You're young... don't be afraid to hurt someones feelings if it means looking after your own best interests and safety. The next time you're in this type of situation, think about it that if you had a young daughter, what you think is best for them.
2007-01-13 02:57:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not very smart. Some people will take you at your word so you may get a call about the babysitting. Did you know this lady? People with children are not always safe. Don't say it unless you mean it. Get to know her when she happens to end up in the salon on the same days you do. Then go from there. You really should have just dropped her off, said goodbye and have a nice day, and maybe next time on the offer for a drink! I'm not saying the lady was a bad apple I'm just saying play it safe.
2007-01-12 07:27:28 · answer #2 · answered by diamoniquejazz 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In general it's not a good idea to give rides to strangers because often people use the ploy of needing a ride to take advantage of the driver, like carjacking, mugging, etc.
In this situation it's possible that you felt more comfortable because the person was (hopefully) known to the owner of the salon (who you also apparently know if the owner is asking you favors) and so you were more or less "introduced". And also because the woman was a female. If it's someone who is completely unknown by the side of the road it could be very dangerous. I have given strangers rides on occasion, and even taken a ride once when my car was broken down, but in general it's not a good idea and you have to be very careful to listen to your "gut" if it's telling you that something's wrong.
I think your dad's right to be concerned. You shouldn't make a habit of it.
2007-01-12 10:55:12 · answer #3 · answered by drshorty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with your dad on this one because something could have happen but in this case anything happen. But that was a stupid thing to do going into someone home that you do not know is a problem. You have to ask yourself is this a good thing or bad thing to do because if something was to go wrong how would you be able to explain it to your parents or you could have been held against your will and no body would have known were you are and why were you there. Being polite is a good thing but try not to go into someone house next time because you do not want the people who loves you worried about you OK.
2007-01-12 07:25:44 · answer #4 · answered by Tiffany B 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know, you were just being considerate. People who actually do something nice expecting no return are rare. Myself personally I would not of given my number, or gone inside. But thats ok too, you were just being polite and I'm sure at that moment you didnt know what to do. Its ok. Now, if this lady ever does call to get you to follow through on baby sitting, I would decline. Odds are, she wont, but if she does, just kindly decline saying you have other business and leave it at that.
Now speaking as a dad, I can totally see why your dad got upset with you. If my 19y/o daughter gave anyone a ride home, went into their house, I'd be upset by it as well. I mean you're daddy's little girl. He doesnt want anything happening to you.
2007-01-12 07:27:32 · answer #5 · answered by jeff the drunk 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dad is the same way. And in our world, you do need to be very careful.
Chances are, in your case you were probably fine. But you never know. It's better to be safe then sorry.
I think it's something to consider, that the Owner of a salon that you obviously trust, as you frequent there, requested it. And if it was a lady and her son, I think that is a situation less likely to prove hurtful to you. I wouldn't advise picking up a man.
Personally, if I end up in a situation where I feel uncomfortable, but that I cannot get out of, I say a prayer to my guardian angel for guidance and protection. Hey, that's what our angels are there for!
2007-01-12 07:22:01 · answer #6 · answered by Bec P 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends. If you are in a small town or close knit community it was probably okay becouse I assume the salon owner knew you and the lady well enough to know everyone would be okay and safe. All the same I'd be a bit more cautious from now on.
2007-01-12 07:22:03 · answer #7 · answered by buffybot67 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think what is important is that you understand your dad's concerns. there is nothing scarier to a parent than thinking about what could have happened or what could happen in the circumstance you talked about. Make sure you dad is comfortable with the folks you babysit for and remember that his responses that are quick, negative, and severe, usually relate directly to how much you scared him.
2007-01-12 07:27:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it would really depend on how i felt about the woman and whether or not i felk ok in her presence. i tend to be a decent judge of character and i really pick up vibes from people all the time- but you still never know. i think if i had felt ok enough to give a ride, i would have refused the drink and accepted her thank you and left.
2007-01-12 07:23:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You did a good deed.
The owner of the salon most likely wouldn't have placed you in a dangerous situation; presuming she knew the customer.
Your Dad is right with regards to your safety, albeit he could have used a different choice of wording. You're not stupid.
2007-01-12 07:19:55 · answer #10 · answered by ☼High☼Voltage☼Blonde☼ 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋