I'm a woman and i know there are alot of men on the Down Low so i asked this guy whose house was immaculate and smelled like flowers. He got pissed off and wouldn't stop talking about it. He also said that he had no girlfriend and hadn't been in love for 9 years. He is good-looking and a good catch. So i thought he was bisexual. He never called me again. Was that such a bad question to ask?
2007-01-12 07:02:33 · 13 answers · asked by ladylove79 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
next time try something more subtle, like an old girlfriend of mine did, ask him how he holds his hands when examining his fingernails
2007-01-12 07:06:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bad question to ask. If a woman asked me if I was gay on the first date that would probably be the last date we had. And I think that's rude enough I'd have no interest in proving anything to her.
2007-01-12 15:09:31 · answer #2 · answered by JDJ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Asking a guy if he's bisexual is a HORRIBLE thing to ask on a first date, for two reasons. He either isn't and will think you think he's gay so now you've thrown a blow to his manhood, OR he really is bisexual or gay and feels completely uncomfortable telling you because he hardly knows you. It's totally inappropriate. If he hasn't called you its probably for one of two reasons. He either hates you for putting him on the spot and trying to pry so deeply into his personal life, or he sleeping with your brother.
2007-01-12 15:07:49 · answer #3 · answered by -Bibee- 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What kind of catch is he if he isn't confident enough in his own masculinity to take a question like that in stride?
Maybe he was insulted that you didn't figure out that he was gay.
Point is, you saved yourself a lot of trouble. I hate those people with which conversation is like a minefield. You innocuously (and accidentally!) touch on the wrong topic and they blow up.
2007-01-12 15:07:06 · answer #4 · answered by John C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I worked for a non profit AIDS organization and am totally familiar with the down low... so i totally understand your concern and why you wanted to ask him but I don't think that it was the right time to ask that question.
2007-01-12 15:11:00 · answer #5 · answered by ♫*♥Vamp♫*♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, thats a terrible question to ask a guy who's straight. That was in fact, quite mean of you.
2007-01-12 15:07:07 · answer #6 · answered by J-Far 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you wore fishnet stockings, a skirt, and a tight shirt, would you have been upset if he asked you if you put out on the first date?
2007-01-12 15:11:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
lol yeah that might not have been a good idea cause now he thinks your one of those chicks who judge guys before you get to know them.. i would suguest you not ask personal questions like that cause it will happen again.. he will leave and never talk to you again.
2007-01-12 15:08:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, I think that was a dumb question to ask. All you did was generalize him and his surroundings and presumed to think you might know something. You should have done some more investagating.
2007-01-12 15:07:56 · answer #9 · answered by D.I.L.L.I.G.A.F. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well......maybe on the first date...but if you said it kinda funny then it should have been ok. Like the 1st lady said...could be the truth hurts.
2007-01-12 15:10:25 · answer #10 · answered by dj 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋