i need help potty training my 2 1/2 years old son. any tips? he doesn't not want to do?? help?

Answer 1

It depends if he is ready. Is he showing the signs of being ready for the potty?

- Staying dry for a few hours

- Grabbing himself when he is going or has to go

- Telling you that he has to go or he needs a new nappy

- Waking up dry from naps

If he is ready then take him with you when you use the toilet and let him watch. Also if his dad or if you have a male friend that you trust ask him if he will take your son to the bathroom with him and let him watch the other male use the toilet. He might get a hang of it then and start to show interest in potty training.

It depends on weather or not you want him to start out sitting on the potty and first and then later on teaching him how to stand but you could put cereal in the toilet and tell him to aim for them. This way it makes it fun for him and it will also help him with his aim. If you make a game out of it for him he might actually want to do it more. I would say to use the "reward system" but once you start doing that the child will always expect a reward for each time he goes even after he is completely trained. Then he might not want to use the potty if he doesn't get the reward. The best way of "reward" is to praise the child each time he goes on the potty and/or tries to at least go. (Also if you do the reward system it will be just like buy nappies because you will probably be spending the same amount of money on rewards as you probably would on nappies.)

If he is afraid of the "big" potty then try to by him his own potty. If you don't want to do that then you can buy him a little seat that fits over the big toilet. I'm pretty sure that it comes with an attachment that you can put on the little seat so his penis is facing down so the urine won’t go everywhere. If it doesn't come with an attachment it is a good idea to have him hold his penis down into the toilet so the urine won't go everywhere. If you start to hold it down for him, later when you teach him to stand he may want you to hold his penis while he goes and then you will have trouble getting him out of that habit. If you put him in pull-ups he might think that it is just like a nappy and might just go in those. So I suggest not using pull-ups. Make a special trip to the store just for him and let him pick out underwear with his favourite characters on them. (It would be best to buy him boxers. it makes it easier for him to pull them down when he has to go. Also make sure that he is in clothes that he can easily pull down himself to go.)

Ask him every 15 - 20 minutes if he has to go to the potty. If he says "no" then take him anyway and just let him sit on the potty for a little while. That way he will get the idea of it. Make sure that he drinks plenty of water that way he will have to urinate more often and that increases the chance of him going when you put him on the potty. After a while once he gets the hang of it you won't have to keep asking him so often if he has to go. He will just be going himself. Try to stay home for a few days. It will be easier instead of going out and trying to potty train him at the same time and it will be easier on the both of you.

He will have a lot of accidents and you will probably be doing a lot of laundry but it is better to put him in just regular underwear because when he does wet himself he won't like the feeling of being wet and will soon use the toilet.

I wish you guys luck with this. I wish you the best. Good Luck!

Answer 2

All children are ready to use the potty at different ages. If he is not ready and you push the issue, it will most likely only serve to frustrate both him and you. Try letting the potty training idea go for a month or so and try again. Check for these signs: does he have a vocabulary that includes understandable words for toilet, urine, and bowel movement? Does he wake up from his nap dry most of the time? Does he show any interest in the bathroom and what goes on in there? Potty training is a process that takes time. Make the potty chair or the potty seat a familiar sight. Keep them out in the bathroom so he can see them. Let him sit on them if he wants, with or without clothes is fine. Read him a story while he sits on the potty. Talk about how he is getting to be a big boy and how soon he won't need diapers and can wear big boy underwear. Some kids don't want to grow up and this tactic will back fire so only use it if it seems to interest your son. See if he is willing to pick out some underwear of his choice at the store. He may not, this is not always of interest to children. See if he will sit on the potty after he wakes up dry from a nap or before he gets in the bathtub. If he does go pee, make a big deal of it, show your enthusiasm for this accomplishment. Sometimes a little bribe is in order such as giving him an M & M or a Skittle when he uses the potty. Some kids prefer a chart they can put a sticker on when they use the potty. I wouldn't worry too much at his age. My personal experience has shown that it is common for potty training to be most successful and long-term when children are between 3-4 years old.

Answer 3

Start talking about it, read to him about it, show him when you and daddy go to the bathroom, and explain that everyone does it. If you have a potty chair for him, have him sit on it while you or daddy are in the bathroom. Just keep mentioning without too much pressure.

When you decide you are done introducing the topic to him and getting him familiar with it all, just jump right it. No more diapers, underpants only (pull-ups at night) and you have to be consistently making him go to the bathroom every 45-60 minutes. After a few days, he should be pretty well trained. If, however, he is not having any of it then he is probably not ready and maybe you will want to revisit the issue in another month or so.

Good luck!

Answer 4

My son wasn't ready until he was 3 years old. I started talking to him about it at 2 1/2, and had a training potty that fit onto the toilet, read the "Potty Book" to him, and prepared him that on his 3rd birthday he was going to be a "big boy" and he was going to daycare in "big boy pants". I just built him up to it. So, we kind of quit the diapers cold turkey at age 3. He actually did really well! I did not bribe him or use treats, just a lot of praise...but I know every kid and situation is different, so I recommend you read all the answers and try one that seems right for you and your child.

Answer 5

I tried every thing imaginable. But what worked for my son, was a friends child,l about 6-8 months older and all trained. He came over and I let my son watch him using the potty for peeing. That is all it took. The next day my son wanted the diapers off and pants on.

Answer 6

My son was almost 3 when he finally finished potty training. He simply was not into pooping in the toilet, and at times we were a little frustrated. I think it's important to keep in mind that they will eventually do it - all kids are different and some just take a little longer to get the hang of it. I would say be consistent - ask him if he has to go regularly & reward him with praise & perhaps a treat when he does. I always tried to reinforce "doesn't it feel good that you didn't go in your pants?" or "Isn't it nice to have dry pants?" It seemed to be a good way to get him thinking of the positive aspects of potty training.

Answer 7

We just got done with our 3 year old son. (Except at night :)

We rewarded him each time he went potty. We would take him in the bathroom religiously every 30 minutes so he knew what it felt like to have to go.

When he went, we made a big deal. My wife would put a sticker on a piece of paper that was on the fridge. It got to the point where he was most concerned about getting to put a sticker on the sheet, but it worked.

don't punish him for making mistakes. It can be maddening, but it won't help.

Also, don't force him. He will be ready soon.

Answer 8

Well, I have 2 wonderful boys, and here is a method that worked well with both of them. When we first started, I made it fun as someone else said before, throw some cheerios in the potty. I used froot loops b/c they are colorful. Most boys have fun at first, but then start to resist when you really think they are getting the hang of it. With my oldest son,. we bribed him with skittles. We bought a large bag of skittles, and when he went pee he got 3 skittles and when he went poop he got 6. This also helped him understand more/less concepts and counting. Good luck, and be patient...it goes a long way

Answer 9

When I was training my daughter I was unemployed so I had a lot of time to work on it. What I did was:

Every half hour we would go potty. She would get 1 M&M is she sat, 2 if she went pee & 3 if she went poop. This worked for her. It took only one week. Then we only got 1 if she went pee and 2 if she went poop. Then we got to wear big girl undies...
(I tried stickers but that wasn't as wonderful and didn't work. They say not to use food as a reward but we don't eat M&Ms that often anyway so it was "SPECIAL")
She was ready, she showed interest in my going and daddy going and anyone else that had to use our bathroom...

If he is still not ready don't push, they say it can make kids have future behavior problem.

Answer 10

1. He may not be ready yet, but he should be getting close.
2. Buy FUN underwear... let him pick them out.
3. Let him run around naked at home.
4. Give up pull-ups. Yes, there will be messes, but you will get the result you are looking for MUCH quicker.
5. Create a reward system... we have a poster board on the back of the bathroom door. My son gets a sticker for each attempt &/or success he has. (Some people use candy, but food in the bathroom is NOT my thing!!)
6. Patience... he will get it!!!

Good luck!