My ex and I broke up about two months ago. We were together for over three years, (I am 18 by the way) Since we have been broken up, he has told me he is over me and just wants to be friends, I want to be with him again and he knows that, He has told his friends that he is over me to, but told his closer friend (whitch is his boss) that he still has feelings for me, I asked my ex if he does and he says no were just friends, But he still is wanting to have sex with me, and tells me he doesnt want to have sex with people he doesnt have feelings for but he wants to with me, Everyone thinks he is using me for a booty call and but I still dont know beacuse my ex doesnt seem like he wants to hurt me, beacuse he always ask if I am sure I want to, am I just being studpid or should I not even fall for what he is saying...please help!
2007-01-12 06:53:08 · 40 answers · asked by Brooke 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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2007-01-12 06:55:16 · answer #1 · answered by iroc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't deserve you, and you don't deserve to be treated like that. I was in your shoes when I was your age, everyone told me it was a booty call and he didn't like me... I thought that he loved me deep down and that he would come around and love me again. I was seeing what I wanted to see when the truth was that I was a booty call, he was an ***, and I spent too much time stressing on it. It really hard but just know that you'll move onto better things, there will be rocky spots but look out for yourself in the long run. Trust me this guy is not worth it and even though I don't know you I know your position very well, its not worth your emotions being pured into something that will give you nothing back. Go watch some sex in the city, Someone like you (the movie), then go make him wish he had you back and don't give him the satisfaction.
2007-01-12 07:01:37 · answer #2 · answered by Tbone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT have sex with him (or anyone else at this point) again. Take some time off from relationships and give yourself some time to heal. Of course you still have feelings for him. Three years is a long time, but the saying is true that "Time heals all wounds." Concentrate on yourself for awhile. Throw yourself into your school or your work. Repair any damaged relationships with family or friends. Do some volunteering. Go to church. Get a manicure! Just be patient and know that in time you will be a whole person ready for another relationship.
2007-01-12 07:01:04 · answer #3 · answered by Laura R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG.......you need to stop right now. He left you, the lame excuse he is giving you is ridiculous, YES he just wants sex! After a relationship, if it was worth anything at all, one person will still care for the other, but when you end it....you end it. A sexual relationship is just what it sounds like.....sex. Giving in, because you still care for him, will only hurt you more in the long run. The best advice I can give you is to stop, and move on. He will eventually realize he won't be getting it from you, and will move on to his next pawn. Have confidence and pride in yourself. There are so many single, wonderful people you will encounter, once you are finally free and able to accept that and move on.
2007-01-12 07:00:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has told you himself he just wants to be friends. That's what he mean it's over. He just want you for sex because you guys had that history together. If you don't mind having sex with him then it's fine, but if you think that your being used or you'll get him back by having sex with him then your wrong because sex is just sex. You need to move on, and maybe stop talking to him for a while until you're ready to be friends because you still have feelings for him and that means you're not ready for friendship. GOOD LUCK!
2007-01-12 07:04:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes he is using you. Come on, and you know it, if you like getting used you will continue to be a booty call, if not move on and find the next guy that you can have use you so you can ask the same question in three years or so.
Why buy the cow when you can have the milk for free?
2007-01-12 06:56:23 · answer #6 · answered by EATTHEAPPLE 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're replacing his right hand, make no mistake about that. He does not view sex as an emotional thing, for him it is merely physical release and when he's done you won't enter his mind until the next time he gets horny. And people lie to their bosses all the time. He was lying too. Nope, I'd tell him to go buy a hooker when he wants to get laid, either that or he can give the money to you to replace the food he ate at your house after you're done SERVICING HIM
2007-01-12 06:59:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has expressed that he doesn't want to have a relationship (exclusive) with you. I don't think you should continue this relationship (sexual) with him. Even if you are crazy about him, if he feels that way there is nothing good to come of a friendship with benefits for you. Please, get him out of your head and heart and start looking for someone that will commit themselves to you both physically and mentally. Most of the time these don't work out once you or he made this decision. Think about something. If you found someone new in one month and explained to him that your boyfriend broke up with you but you continued to have sex with him how would that new person in your life view you? I wouldn't have a ton of respect or think you showed good judgment when it comes to taking care of yourself. If he has said he is done, you be done too!
good luck to you.
2007-01-12 07:02:12 · answer #8 · answered by kpd2020 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For some obviously unknown reason to him, he wants to be single but he obviously still cares about you. Its not 100% just a booty call but you should not accept just sex from ANYONE. Tell him you want to get back together or you want to move on. He needs to stop playing games
2007-01-12 06:58:23 · answer #9 · answered by daschund delight 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well I hate to say it but it sounds like he is using you. He may not be completely over you but if he doesn't wantto get back together with you but does want to have sex...something is wrong. Just tell him that you just want to be friends every time he asks for sex. You need to cut him off or he will just walk all over you. I know it is hard to do when you still have feelings for him but just tell him that you only want to have sex when you are in a relationship and he doesn't want one with you anymore so he can't have sex with you
2007-01-12 07:00:00 · answer #10 · answered by lbitsports 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever heard of the term
"Friends with benefits" ? He is clearly using you to get what he wants. If he wanted to have sex with you because he has feelings for you, but not enough feelings to be commited to you in a relationship, then he using you. Move on.
2007-01-12 06:58:10 · answer #11 · answered by Lauren. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋