I am a 40 year woman with a teenager. I don't like younger guys and besides they are usually nevermarrieds who are looking for younger women to eventually have a family with 10 years down the line or so , the guys in their 40's (my age group) are either looking for younger women in their 20's or 30's or they still have young children (I'm not really interested in a man with a bunch of little kids as mine is almost grown), and the 50 year age group which I'm looking for and prefer (I like older men) seem to be kinda stuffy or they don't want someone that much younger. I'm looking for a guy who's ready to settle down into something real, not just play games but it seems that with every age group I hit a road block.
2007-01-12 06:48:26 · 31 answers · asked by reallyfedup 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If I had the ultimate answer to this type of question, I would not be 38 and still single! ;-)
However, I can tell you that you probably should be looking for someone between the ages of 35 and 55, no kids or older kids not living at home, and who has the same interests as you. My guess would be a divorcee or a widower, but preferably one who did not have this trauma recent in their life.
You are right in part of your assessment. Younger guys are probably looking for hot young chicks still and ignoring the older more sophisticated ladies.
Your age group may have had their spouses leave them for a younger person. If they are still single after all these years, they may be afraid of commitment.
But my guess is that the older gentlemen (mid 40's to early 50's) are probably not ALL stuffy. Perhaps you just met the wrong ones or just did not hit it off. Remember that they may have been acting the stuffy part because they thought that was what you were looking for in a man...someone older and more sophisticated, perhaps even a father figure.
In my opinion, a ten year age gap is no longer a big thing in today's society. You should just keep looking around, but don't be trying too hard. Just enjoy life and if love happens, it usually occurs when you are not really looking for it.
2007-01-12 07:03:40 · answer #1 · answered by SteveN 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hit the same type of road block, although I'm not 40. The younger guys are party driven, the little bit older are completely career driven, and the way older are just into doing their own thing. I've been an 'equal opportunity dater' and it hasn't been very productive. I'd suggest to try the internet dating, it gives you the chance to chat with someone online, and decide if you want to meet them. Rather than wasting a bunch of time and energy on a bunch of exhausting first dates. Best of Luck!
2007-01-12 06:54:46 · answer #2 · answered by Lemme tell ya... 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop looking for an "age group" there are plenty of 25 year old guys that act older and plenty of 40's that should be wearing a helmet....if you try and dertermine attraction by how long a person has been on this planet then you are going to be rather disappointed...Good luck, relax and I'm sure things will work out just fine
2007-01-12 06:52:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
age 30 to 40. There are some who have grown kids. I have seen some and know some personally age 30 and 35
2007-01-12 06:52:33 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps it's not the age group you should be concerned about but the type of companion you are looking for. I have dated men in different age groups and found it hard to catagorize men by thier age. A man could be mature at the age 34, maybe it's his profession, or what he's into. You have to find a common ground, the simularities you have, try to forget about the age.
2007-01-12 07:00:27 · answer #5 · answered by believe in yourself & the world believes with you 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop making age the real determining factor.
You're at the age when you're getting a lot more confident as your estrogen levels drop and your testosterone becomes much more influential. You need a guy who wants a robust woman and that's a little ore difficult to find. You're possibly more likely to find a suitable guy in the 55-60 age group.
2007-01-12 06:56:10 · answer #6 · answered by Feinschmecker 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you need to focus on an age group?
I can find many things wrong with any age group in any category (previously married, life-long single / either with or without children).
Focus on character and stability and let nature take its course. I recommend you consider men with a different attitude than yours since opposites attract each other. Maybe someone with a different style than yours but with similar interests.
2007-01-12 06:56:00 · answer #7 · answered by curly bob 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 38 and my husband which I just married is 10 years older then me..so 5 to 10 years and not all older men are stuffy shop around theres "younger" older men out there I got one
2007-01-12 06:53:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i say look for some1 40 to 50... u say almost all older men are "stuffy" well thats kind of hard to beleve b/c BOTH of my grandfathers (who are 49 and 56) are the kindest most Wonderful men i kno (they are even better than my bf. so try to stop looking and let the right guy find u or keep looking but some1 that is closer to ur age rather than a teenager....
2007-01-12 06:55:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
For fun friendship, late 20's with a professional job
For a long term relationship
a divorced or widowed 40-50 professional man who may have 1-2 of his own mlooking for a mate
2007-01-12 06:52:57 · answer #10 · answered by god knows and sees else Yahoo 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋