I am married I have a Kid too, but thinking about Divorce? Is it Correct?

Question

Hi Friends,

I am married I have a Kid too, but thinking about Divorce? Is it Correct? I need your help on this issue.

Basically my wife influenced by her mother, she listen only to her mother, whatever her mother says she believe. Now my wife is not with me, she stay with her parents. I tried to convey but she is not listening. I am frustrated, please can you help me on this.

Thanks

Dear Friends,

Thanks a lot for your advice and suggestion, I will think over and take a decision. Thanks Again.

Regards
Raju

Answer 1

Talk to a counselor, marriage therapist or a member of your clergy or church to resolve these issues.

Answer 2

Divorce is never easy and it rarely benefits any-one, But their are things that you should look at that concerns the WHOLE family. Namely you the wife and The child;*******
1st. How long have you been married and what have you and your spouse built together?
2nd. How old is the child and will/ do they understand what is happening to their parents.
3rd. What kind of state-of-mind will the child be in if this takes place?
4th. Can you, or the wife, or the child make it without each other ?
5th. Is this something that can be taken care of if the family re-locate ?
6th. Is that what you reeeeaaaaalllly want?
Life is short and their is always time to MOVE-ON. But the great sacifice is to work things out. If she was good E-nuff to marry is she good E-nuff to keep?
Think of your future being apart from them and then decide. Ask your spouse to think about it too.
P.S. Hopefully your wife's parents are not speaking negatively about you or you are in big trouble. I hope things work out with you and your family. But, remember this is a life-time decision you are making --- one way or another. God Bless

Answer 3

Does you wife live with you? If she doesn't then that is not a very common situation in America. It is natural to feel uncomfortable about the marriage if this is the case.

You should talk to your wife about how you feel about the fact that you believe that she is being influenced by her mother. She should listen to you with an honest ear and work toward changing the situation. If she just completely ignores you without trying to understand then she is being selfish. And selfishness is not apart of love or a marriage.

My philosophy is that life is short and nobody deserves to spend life miserable. Do whatever you have to do to enjoy life to its fullest.

Whatever you decide, be sure that you maintain a strong relationship with your kid forever.

Answer 4

Hi my friend U have ur own answer by by asking that Basically my wife influenced by her mother. So if u r working in some company ask for transfer. Shift to new places and ther u love ur wife, spend lot of times with her, cares ur child more that ur wife cares, by seeing this ur wife will automatically recognise her problem and will be fine. If this not possible go to consular with ur wife and her mother. But don't go for Divorce with out knowing what ur wife wants from u.

Answer 5

The familiar mother-in-law story, huh! Well, how can anyone give you proper advice from the little information you have provided? If there were no child it would have been a lot easier. I suggest that you send out a feeler…tell her that you are thinking about divorce if she continues to stay with her mother see what her reaction is and then take it from there.

Answer 6

I think in this situation, you should be very aggressive. Let her know that you are her husband and you are trying very hard at the relationship. If her mother is her influencing factor, you can even ask her why she even married you if she knew her mom was gonna have a say-so in her everyday living. Just get yourself together, and get some answers from her. Pray first about it and then just let God take care of it. Good luck.

Answer 7

Hi raju,

It is not advice to divorce for the sake of your kid. Coz, your kid will miss everything and sure be in depressed by seeing other kids at school, they way they tell what happen in their home and stuff's.

But since you said she is at her home. Better let her be cool and give her time to think. Don;t call her a week. Since kid is with you. Daily ask your kid to talk to her mom. so oneday surely you kid may ask her to come home and stay together. She would come. But sometimes people take lot of time to understand the relationship. so talk to her slowly. If you think it is her mom who is spoiling her life. Never give her a time to talk to her mom, instead show your affection and love to her.So if suppose her mom says anything. You can tell her how much you loved her and kid and can ask her about the behaviour how you was with her and question her? There is a chance to understand you that time.

But when you question her, talk to her slowly.Did you ever try to talk to her father? May be he can slowly tell her and understand you.

Answer 8

Hai friend,

Dont think about divorce.I think u love ur wife very much i m wright.You have to meet her personally and talk with her nicely.Dont compel her to come with me but u tell her how much u love her etc...

Marriage is not a simple thing.You have kid also so think twice and take the step carefully otherwise it affect ur childrence life.

My request dont talk with phone.You know what she like what she doesn't like.So bring her some romantic gifts like flower etc...

Answer 9

communication is key, my dear friend. your wife has to talk to you sooner or later, give her time to talk to you, if after a couple months nothing happens, and your wife is that damn childish, then you dont' need to be with her, she's run by her mom so it's not good. she can't even make decisions on her own so you shouldn't really be with someone like that.

Make sure you explain to your child that you can't stay and you'll be there for them no matter what.

Answer 10

Do not loose heart. Pray to the Lord that your wife should see reasn and come to live with you. Viow to offer Kalyontsavam to Lord Balaji of Thirumala in andhrapradesh, India once your wife starts living with you.
You will get your wish fullfilled before long

Answer 11

hi, why isn't she staying with you? talk to her or go for counselling .when you have kids you just can't take impulsive decisions.think about them. you need to discuss it along with ur parents and her parents some one who knows you both well.friends too can help. one more option is to change your job and take her away from her mother. may be that will solve the problem.