And everyone wants to know what it matters if it is fake, that it is a symbol of his love and why I am being materialistic? I am not being materialistic, I just hope that he isn't trying to pull a fast one on me by thinking I would never find out. If he buys a fake ring, does that mean his love is fake also?
2007-01-12 06:47:14 · 15 answers · asked by Jamie B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I am going to ask you this. Does he have $20,000 to spend on a ring. IF your answer is no then he knew it was fake
2007-01-12 06:51:38 · answer #1 · answered by Mike 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I just got proposed to and know that my ring is real. The thing is, when you get a ring (any ring for that matter) the intent of the person behind giving it, is what matters. On the other hand, if he knowingly purchased a cubic zirconia(this happened to me before)be aware that any of the following could apply: 1. He is cheap (should be avoided if you want to have a good provider) 2. He is not sincere (Hello....red flag) 3. He wanted you to have something bigger but could not afford it (can be forgiven).
All in all, I had one girlfriend who had a beautiful wedding set, however, she confided in me some time after the wedding that the Center stone was CZ...the rest were real and that her husband would replace it, once he was out of college. Circumstances. Keep in mind, if you know it from the start, and he explained the why, you can make an educated decision. All in all, we the readers do not know the entire situation, you are the best judge. Good Luck
2007-01-12 07:00:15 · answer #2 · answered by babeegirl257 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is the stone fake, or the the band, or the stone and the band? as women, we're brought up to expect certain things from an engagement ring. but if you got a ziamond instead of a diamond, does it mean he doesn't love you? NO! material things have nothing to do with love. and despite what we've been told, diamonds are not the most precious stone in the world, and are not fit to symbolize the most precious thing in the world: LOVE. the beauty of the ring exists only because of the beauty of the union it represents.
and, if you're concerned about the monetary aspect of it, if it gets lost or stolen, the only loss you'll suffer is a sentimental one.
if your fiancee/hubby turns out to be a bastard, then you can use the "fake ring" excuse as an example of his flaws...but if he bought it with the most genuine and sincere intentions of giving you something beautiful without going broke and without being a sheep to the diamond industry, why are you going to give him a hard time?
2007-01-12 07:09:50 · answer #3 · answered by discoballz82 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you're reading too much into it. Just because the ring is fake does not mean his feelings for you are fake. He may not have had enough cash to get you the ring he reallly wanted to get you, so he got you one that looked like it, only it wasn't the real thing. If it's still bothering you, talk to him about it. Find out the reason he bought you a fake ring.
Good luck with whatever happens.
2007-01-12 07:15:49 · answer #4 · answered by Lola 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he knew that the ring was fake and tried to hide that from you then you have every right to be upset. I would be. Love and marriage are built on honesty and trust and he would have lied to you and kept that from you. When you really love someone the size of a diamond doesn't matter. I would have married my fiance if he asked me with a twist tie!! But even if your fiance knew he didnt have the money for a ring, he could have told you that and I bet you would have understood. I'm sure he wanted you to have something nice to show off, but he went the wrong way about it.
2007-01-12 08:05:34 · answer #5 · answered by jenna11rn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think that means his love is fake hes just trying to be a hustler lol. I undersatnd what people mean by who cares its a symbol of love which is true but lying to you saying its real when its not is not a symbol of love. He should just be able to tell you i dont or cant spend a lot of money on your ring so instead of getting you a fake one just get you a really simple real one ya know? I hope this helped!
2007-01-12 07:39:37 · answer #6 · answered by Ambersgettingmarried 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What makes you think the ring is fake? I mean maybe he wanted you to have a nice ring and real one costs way too much for him. It is the fact that he is in love with you and asked you. It is most likely real and if not talk to him about it
2007-01-12 08:30:38 · answer #7 · answered by Danielle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a good point.
Being truthful is so important in a marriage.
He should have told you it was a fake and asked if you wanted to keep it or trade it in for a real, much smaller diamond ?
There are also other less expensive real stones that you two might consider changing to.
I just don't like the idea that he tried to get away with a lie.
You two need to talk.
2007-01-12 08:26:20 · answer #8 · answered by Cammie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't mean his love is fake. But I agree that it's important what the ring he chooses for you is important. And also, he shouldn't lie about it. If he can't afford a real diamond for you, he should say so, and give you a ring he can afford... and hoepfully someday he will replacec it with a ring you really want to own.
2007-01-12 06:53:37 · answer #9 · answered by Liz 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Although I don't believe it means his love is fake, if he being dishonest about it, then you guys have some trust issues in your relationship and THAT is what I would be worried about. If you are OK with the ring, then don't worry about other people's opinions. However, you DO seem concerned or you would not be asking.
2007-01-12 06:59:09 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In your other question, it seemed like you were concerned that your boyfriend had been ripped off in his purchase. If he thought he was buying a real diamond ring when he bought the thing on eBay, why would you question if his feelings for you are real?
A 3-carat diamond seems excessive. Maybe he felt he needed to get you a huge rock to satisfy you, but couldn't afford the real thing.
2007-01-12 07:02:28 · answer #11 · answered by ginger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋