i cant live my life my daddy acys like he's god i cant go anywhere without one of my parents i stay in the house all day he called me a **** because he thought my jacket was dirty frm taking the dog out. i feel like his nubian servant and my mother jus lets him i am 15 i lived in 3 states and moved 5 times and i am an honor student in school my mother picks out all my classes. they forcing me to stay in band. my father is picking my career professional my life is pre planned when i get sick he thinks im pregnet i havent even had my 1st kiss yet he didnt do30 and 35 year old my brother and sister like that i jus wanne live my life im so quiet i barely talk to any1 but i do have friends i cant even presue my dreams i feel like i dont matter
i feel like a little kid i cant take neggavitity because im so nice i use to be 165 pounds he called me fat any time he could even in front of other people so i lose the weight now im 139 i almost had to stave myself i cant take it anymore
2007-01-12 06:45:46 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Then maybe you should get down on your kneeds and PRAY! Sit down with them and tell them everything you feel or if you can't say it in person than write a letter to them and express all the anger and sadness you have. Leave it where they will find it, that should get their attention. Im soo sorry that your going through this. It sounds like you need a mentor, or a friend(more mature than your current ones). Feel free to email me...cib0385@yahoo.com. I'll keep you in my prayers. God Bless You!
2007-01-12 06:53:07 · answer #1 · answered by cib0385 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Calm down and take a deep breath. Yes, it sounds like your father is over-reacting, and some of his comments qualify as mental abuse.
Go to the phone book, look up Children and Family Services - it should be in the front section under local/city/state agencies. Call them and tell them your father is being mentally abusive, and that you want to go live with your older brother or sister (since they are legal adults and family, they are good candidates to give you foster care). If they aren't willing to remove you from your parent's home, request counseling for your self-esteem and self-image problems.
Remember, no matter what, your father's control over your life ends the moment you turn 18. You don't have to follow the career he's picked out for you - you can simply walk out the door and never look back. I won't pretend it will be easy - you'll have to work long and hard to support yourself, but at least you'll be free to make your own decisions.
2007-01-12 06:57:30 · answer #2 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Sweetie I have been in your shoes. But for starters wanting to end your life is not the way. Talk to your mom and dad and let them know how you feel. I am glad you realise you have a problem it took me until I was 18 to realise how much my parents ran my life. My brother and Sisters are way older then me as well. My parents did not treat them like they treated me. My parents made me go to private school I was not allowed to have friends or do anything my mom even picked my clothes out to buy until I was about 18. I then told them I was my own person with my own goals that I have for myself I know you are trying to help me but I need to become the person God wants me to be, I respect you guys and I love you two dearly but please let me make my own decisions. They let up on a lot of things and I got to choose my collage and the career I wanted to go in to. I promise if you talk to them it will get better but don't try to end your life it's not the answer. God loves you and so does your parents they are trying to just do what they think is best for you because they love you.
2007-01-12 07:05:55 · answer #3 · answered by Lissa 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
some parents want the perfect child.. They are afraid your actions will reflect on them. Thee i little more than you taking the time to talk to them to change things. I do however warn you that rebellion is normal. It should not be used to drive a wedge between you and your parents. Believe it or not you sounds like you are on the pathway to success. You have years until the age of 18 and partial decision making. Tough it out and I think you will see you will be in a great position to control your life thanks to Mom and Dad.
2007-01-12 06:58:24 · answer #4 · answered by Wat Da Hell 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your really have two choices you can talk to social services about pressing charges for mental abuse... you do not have to hit a person for it to be abuse or suck it up turn 18 and leave at which point he can not legally run your life you may want to talk to your brother and sister and see if when you turn 18 you can stay with them... I was in a situation where I had a life at school and then when i went home i was the quite good girl who stayed in her room and said nothing. when i turned 18 i moved out and now i have a great relationship with my parents.
2007-01-12 06:53:31 · answer #5 · answered by uswitchesthree 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look at the bright side,3 years and you'll be 18, your parents are just trying to do what they think is best...they don't think like you do,it's great that you lost all that weight,way to go girl!!! Try to talk to your parents, if that doesn't work, talk to a teacher or someone at school,just hang in there!!!
2007-01-12 07:00:14 · answer #6 · answered by jeepit123 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
swettheart. u need to get some help. u need to tell both fo them to back off and let u do what u wanna do. if i was u i would beat the **** out both of them. for per planning my life **** that. i dont know if ur parents are forein or not but tell them this is america. u cant treat me this way. my dream is being a pilot. if i knew for one second someone was going to take that away from me...... well would not ever hear of that person again. lol
if ur under 18 go to like a foster home. but if not go try living wit someone else any body else friend or family.
good luck swettie
2007-01-12 06:57:53 · answer #7 · answered by art w 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You can't do much until you're 18 so make the best of it. It might be hard but I honestly think to an extent, they're looking out for your best interest. You just ended up with very strict parents. Sorry, but that's the reality. You'll get through this and move on. Promise.
2007-01-12 06:50:48 · answer #8 · answered by Dr. Kat 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
your 15? damn girl run the **** out of that house. just run run run hide at a freinds till your 16 then you should be able to go into any court and request to live with a different family memeber or gaurdian. trust me i left home at 13 same problems as you and even more now im happily with my dad at 14 in a whole different state. you can too if you put your mind to it. think. and dont go ff and kill yourself thats not the way. just start a new happy life with out them.
2007-01-12 06:53:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like you really need some help and someone to talk to ...this is NOT the place to get good advice for your situation...I feel for you and wish you the best but you need to talk to a close friend or family member you trust...DO NOT take advice from a bunch of strangers on a message board when it comes to something this serious..Good Luck and God bless...
2007-01-12 06:49:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋