So my girlfriend of 5 years and I have a long distance relationship. The past few months she has been acting very distance and strange requesting less talking, not being very kind and being very snappy. About a week ago I found an email that was sent from her to some dude...it said things like "sorry I missed you call last night, I wasn't alone. Call me tonight, my boyfriend will be gone." and "I am still feeling guilty...sorry I am weak". Now I asked her about this and she said it was nothing and it was a flirty friendship that has ended. I asked her to email this guy that he shouldn't contact her and she sent it to a fake email address (which I just discovered). Now, she refuses to talk to me about it claiming that she didn't cheat. I am in total shambles because in my heart I just know she did....I just know it, but I have no real proof and she REFUSES to talk about it anymore. I have so many unanswered questions. Its killing me. What should I do??
2007-01-12 06:22:13 · 11 answers · asked by allcharm97 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Wow sweetie, sounds like the worst to me. The emails alone are enough to have me in shambles also! "A flirty friendship"? That is 100% unacceptable if you're in a relationship with someone else. The quote you gave about her msgs to him..."my boyfriend will be gone..." There is only one reason to say something silly like that. The comment about being weak, I'd only GUESS...just GUESS...that it means she's saying to him she's going to break up with you and she hasn't done it yet, and he's pushing her to do it soon. She claims to be weak. If that's incorrect...then demand an answer for that statement...also for the other one about her boyfriend being gone.
It's fishy! VERY fishy to me! I know it hurts so incredibly bad, but I'd talk to her one more time about it, very calmly tell her that you have some questions and please not to interupt until you have told her what you want to say and ask what you want to ask. Ask her nicely to only answer the questions, not to add anything else in there. If she doesn't answer the question, then she's beating around the bush, which means hiding the truth. That would make her a coward!
I would (sadly to say) tell you to prepare for the worst, as in a breakup. But in some ways, it's good for you, because you aren't married and don't have kids. You don't have to be stuck to her and her "flirty friendships." A cheater will never change...in my experience. Good luck and I'm sorry.
2007-01-14 18:26:23 · answer #1 · answered by littlerandiheather 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump her. It's already over. She's got a new bf, because you're never around for her when she needs you. Write an email to your "new girlfriend", saying you'll be together as soon as you get rid of whatshername, then send it to her "by mistake". The b i tch deserves it.
2007-01-12 06:28:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should move on. she is cheating in her head and heart when she allowes another man to entertain her. you should be her number one person in her life and not someone else. not even a flirty friend who means nothing, or if it did then it would be ok to do it when you are with her. good luck, she's already replaced her, so move on
2007-01-12 06:27:54 · answer #3 · answered by sweetgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I think I would just break it off and try to move on- sounds like she doesn't really love you anyway.
2007-01-12 06:26:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best u can do is ley her gain TRUST in you. it may take a while but keep trying so that she has no thoughts about you cheating.
2007-01-12 06:42:18 · answer #5 · answered by V3R0N!CA 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Break-up. You are losing trust and God only knows what she is doing.
2007-01-12 06:27:21 · answer #6 · answered by Simply Lovely 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump the *****
2007-01-12 06:29:12 · answer #7 · answered by Ans 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
next time you snoop on someones computer, make sure you are ready to accept the results.
you too are dating, yes it's been a long time, but she is not your property...let her go
2007-01-12 06:38:08 · answer #8 · answered by katalah 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
move on. your doubts will grow with every passing day. if you can't accept it, you have to move on.
2007-01-12 06:27:10 · answer #9 · answered by Tacyella 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dump her, i don't think she can be trusted. she doesn't want to talk to you about it and she's obviously lying about it.
2007-01-12 06:26:42 · answer #10 · answered by inluvwithb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋