If you could talk to yourself as a 19year old teenager, about relationships..what would you say?

Question

I guess when your into adulthood, you wish you could/ve given your younger self advice...what have u learnt now that u wish you knew at 19...was it dont fall in love too young? or dotn take things so seriousely?

I LOVE all these answers

Answer 1

I think I would tell my younger self, "Don't be in such a hurry. Don't feel that when you are alone you are somehow less than whole -- even if all your other friends seem to be in a relationship. Don't 'settle' -- ever. Don't get into a relationship with someone who doesn't want all the main things you want and who will hold you down or hold you back out of their own fears and limitations. Don't get into a relationship just to be in one, and don't confuse acceptable/stable/appropriate/available or being loved with being IN love. There's no substitute for actually being in love. Wait for it. Wait for it. Wait for it. It will come to you when the time is right. Until then, 'just you' is good enough."

Answer 2

I was probably the last of my high school class to get married, and I married at 23, a virgin, and hadn't dated that much, which by the time I got married my friends had already 3 or 4 kids, struggling and some already had a home or lived with their parents. At 35 and after a divorce I wished I'd never started that divorce; I divorced because I expected more from marriage than what it really was. I expected the twinkle eyes to last a lifetime. And I married a man who had no plans for a future, who didn't want a house, didn't want kids, didn't want college. What a mistake that was. I learned that "puppy love" is just that. Look beyond the twinkle eyes, educate yourself, plan a future, plan for your retirement early in life, save money, and find yourself a decent and church attending partner who wants children, don't do sex until you're married, and build your life with good communication.

Answer 3

You cant help when you fall in love. Just save your virginity untill you find the person that you really love and who love you back and then spend the rest of your life together. You should also try to not take things so seriousely. You need to make sure you have fun while you are young. You are an adult a lot longer than you are a kid.

Answer 4

I would've told myself to not have one serious relationship, but to enjoy dating (I went on one "date" my whole life). I would've told myself to learn who I am first, by going to college, or working, living on my own, or with a group of people. Try something new and crazy, like living abroad, or trying out for Mtv's "the Real World"....things you "can't" do as an "adult".

I would've told myself to put off the things that can wait, and that you could still have in the future (e.g. children, marriage), and do the things that you can't do, or that would be more fun as a young adult. (e.g. working for a summer on a cruise ship, joining the military (when i was young, this was ok).

The only question that remains.....would I have listened at 19??

Answer 5

You are just starting out,Don't rush into love,have fun and wait to be in a serious relationship b/c when it comes it'll change you{for the better,I hope}.You will still be you but you'll be his{or hers} too.You'll have to buckle down and work hard at this relationship b/c love doesn't come easy and it's even harder to keep goin but it's doable.Have fun while your young and don't take yourself so seriously.

Answer 6

I would tell myself not to be in such a rush-I don't need to get married, have kids etc. I wish I had taken a little bit more time to enjoy life, to truly see my surroundings. To do the things that I had always dreamed of doing before I settled down.

Answer 7

I would say to myself. "whoa, back away from that one" I have learned the hard way that the good-lookin' bad boys are NOT worth the "thrill". I had to go thru several of these relationships, the "good girl / bad boy" thing, to realize it always ends the same, they don't change, they don't want to change, and they will use and abuse you every time. Thankfully, I did learn and choose a truly NICE guy, who has treated me very well for 7 years now.

Answer 8

I am not to sure what I would have told myself, I think I did pretty good. I didn't have sex until I met the right guy and sure enough I did, I have been married to him for 12 years now and still in LOVE with him..... So I would tell myself again to wait for that right guy to come along and don't let him go if it fills right.....

Answer 9

rather then when you fall in love, and how serious you are,, i think i know now to keep it all in perspective,,, to also think of yourself, what is important to you,,, and to know that while you feel love,, true deep love comes from really knowing someone,,,,and no matter what type love you feel, always keep in mind "is this relationship/this person,, good for me?" does it build me up,,,,, is it an addition to my life that is postivie? etc,,,,,, you dont look for your happiness from others, but they can add to it,,,,, and the most important lesson, i think, to learn, is that while you feel love,, you can walk away from it, love from afar,,, if its not the right time or relationship for you, find someone who loves you for who you are,,,, and accepts your differences,,,,, and doesnt ever put you down in any way,,,,, an important part of loving is also how they feel about and treat you,,,,, not just how you feel about them,,,,,,,,, also,,,, your youth,,, is when you date,,,,, and dont get serious until you feel its right,,,,, you need to experience relationships,, both the good and the bad,,,, so you know what a good one is,,,,, this is the advice i give/gave to my daughter, who is also 19

Answer 10

One piece of advice that is invaluable to me is to enjoy life for what it is. You don't know what tomorrow brings and in the grand scheme of things, the small stuff doesn't really matter. Remember though, you have to live with yourself and your actions so try not to do something that you will regret.